It's should have and would have not should of and would of

[pippinleaf]

That's all.

Middleton

You're right 99.9% of the time. The one and only time I have ever corrected someone on here,and it was more of a gentle suggestion than trying to embarrass the poster, was when the error really altered what she was trying to get across. She clarified and the rest of the thread went fine, because I was maybe the second poster to respond.

I wouldn't wade in and correct all and sundry though. Everyone makes the odd typo (god knows I do).

*rather than trying to...

Mmmhmm middleton true dat

Funnily enough the error I commented on was very much like the one I myself just made

Doh!

Catsmar, you know when someone asks AIBU? you are allowed to say 'yes' I think you are.

So every time I see a thread like this I will say YABU.

HTH

ooops spelt your name wrong, Cartsmar. My bad.

Myself, I think you should try and get over yourselves.

It is a good thing that you're not a fan of grammar, Izzy

I can understand people making mistakes because it's a forum, we post quickly, it's not formal English, etc.

Except things like 'would of' or 'should of', or 'your' instead of 'you're' aren't mistakes because we're posting quickly.

They are mistakes which indicate that people simply don't understand what they should be writing.

They are incorrect, and yes - they irritate the hell out of me. I don't give a shit what contractions you might use, what slang you might use, but these things indicate that you don't understand basic grammar, and I will judge you for that.

I am so glad you posted that BIWI. It has helped to restore my faith in sanity

Judging someone because of poor grammar is ridiculous.

Says a lot about someone.

Have you ever thought why someone might not understand basic grammar?

Instead of just judging them?

You would judge someone for not being as educated as you?

Maybe MN should have an entrance exam?

BIWI, I'm sorry, but that isn't true. It's a common misconception, but it is a misconception.

Yes, I do judge someone for poor grammar. It says that they are not well educated, and it says a lot for our education system that people have been so poorly taught.

Don't be daft, usual.

I could of written that meself Middleton

Incredibly shallow & smacks of massive insecurity & need to find something to make themselves feel bigger & better than others - because deep down they feel very inadequate

I mean, with all that goes on in this world of ours, why on earth would something so meaningless in the greater scheme of things, be the measure of another person

Yes, Middleton. I have thought about it. I assume that they haven't been taught well. I assume that they don't read enough and, sometimes, I assume that they are not clever.

I judge. I am human. I don't blame them, necessarily. But I do judge people who seem to think that poor grammar/spelling is some kind of 'badge'.

" it says they are not well educated "

And?

I don't get your condescending attitude.

Who are you to look down your nose at someone not fortunate enough to have your standard of education?

LMFAO that I would be insecure.

I have no desire to make myself bigger than someone else. And I am in no way inadequate, nor do I feel inadequate.

Things like 'would of' and 'should of' are not the mark of a superior education. These are things that should have been taught at a very basic level, at a very young age.

It could usual but it would have to be an hourly exam based on alcohol consumption.

But like my post back up there, when I mentioned I'd suggested the op hadn't said what she had meant to (which turned out to be true) because a word had been missed out and then did exactly the same thing myself when recounting it, it shows that no poster is immune. I know what posters who say "should of" mean. It makes me twitch a bit but doesn't make what they have to say irrelevant. As before, I'd only comment if I felt the meaning of the post had been changed by the error.

Given the general style of posts on MN as a whole, someone commenting on "should/could/would of" in the midst of a long post by a stressed poster...would at best be lacking in empathy.

There are a million different reasons why someone is not well educated. Doesn't make them someone to be judged though.

Well not in my world anyway.

I'd just like to make it absolutely clear, however, that I totally get that people, in the midst of a difficult situation, who may be terribly distressed, may make mistakes of any kind of proportion. That's not, though, what I'm talking about.