I posted a few days ago about exH refusing to allow 7 yo DD to attend activities/parties on 'his' weekends even though she has anxiety/confidence issues and selective mutism and the activities would help to boost her self-esteem. I don't know how to link to that post, but if anyone would like to they're more than welcome to do so.
I suggested mediation to exH because while I don't want to disrupt contact, I'm also not prepared to see DD upset and her confidence undermined by his refusal to participate in her life outside of his home. We have our first session in a fortnight. In the spirit of co-operation, I asked if he'd drop DD at a party which begins two hours before she's due home at the end of his contact weekend. I said he doesn't have to supervise, I'm happy to buy the present, provide a party dress and collect her. He said he'd take her. I told DD and she was over the moon, she went running into school and told her friend (which is a massive deal for her) and we went out to buy her a present and new dress. I replied to the invitation and her place at the party was paid for by her friends mum.
The next day, exH decided that actually he'd only take her if I'll 'make up for his lost time' next weekend. We're away for a wedding where DD is a bridesmaid, which he well knows. He's trying to turn it around to be my fault to DD that she can't goto the party.
I ccould offer him extra time on another weekend but part of me thinks that why should I? He's missing two poxy hours. I miss more than that in one evening of taking DD to activities, this is the first time he's allowed her to do anything, ever.
AIBU to tell him she is going to the party now she and her friend have been told and that he can stick his 'making up time'?