To think this is rather petty.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

My ds is 2.9 he's still too young for crazy golf!! Very inconsiderate of others to expect him to do that.

You were at fault for taking him to an age inappropriate activity but I think others have already said that

You are just a lost cause op. You just don't get(understand) what everyone else has said. It's really not that difficult.

I did actually think I was wrong for a short while, but I was mistaken! - comedy gold!

Quick question, OP, when you say the man in question 'just gave me a look and carried on playing', what were you expecting him to do?

OP, needs an EKL.

I wasn't expecting him to do anything. I just told what happened.

OP I think YANBU.

Christ it's a game

If this was me I would have let you and you're DN go infront of us, not made sarcastic comments.

What was sarcastic about it?

Thankyou. Bake off.
What is EKL. Just.

What's an EKL?

No-one has said your dn is horrible, Iliveinalighthouse.

What people have said is that you should have supervised your dn better, so that he didn't queue jump and get in other people's way, and when he did get in their way, you should have apologised for not catching him in time and stopping him.

And you haven't answered the question a previous poster asked - if, when he got in the man' sway, the man had accidentally hit him with his golf club, whose fault would that have been? Yours, for not keeping an eye on him and keeping him safe, or the man's, for not being able to stop his golf club in time when a totally unexpected child appeared in front of him?

I am willing to bet that, in that situation, you would still place 100% of the blame on the man, for not being able to control the laws of physics, motion etc, and for not seeing in his crystal ball that a child was about to appear, and would not see that it was, at least partly, your responsibility, for not keeping your dn safe.

An Elderly Korean Lady.

Elderly Korean lady thread.

Oh, yes, I can't believe I forgot about the EKL. I must be fickle. Or forgetful. Or an elderly British lady.

How could I have forgotten about the EKL?

Restoring calmness and common sense.

She'd probably have pulled the child to her side and told him off in Korean, while looking at the OP as if she had 10 brain cells.

And a gentle nod to the man.

EKL would have kept DN by her side (and not annoying other people) with one look.
And given her spider technique I would love to see her reaction to OPs refusal to see how obviously in the wrong she is.

Your attitude alone would stop me allowing you to have your DN again, I wouldn't want that rubbing off on him.

I'm sure he is a lovely little boy, no one has said otherwise and equally no one has said that they have 'little angels' who wouldn't do such a thing.

It is YOU that is the problem here NOT your DN.

YOU were the adult here even though your posts are childish YOU are responsible for your DN and teaching your DN turn taking.

It was the mans turn, he probably didn't want you to go in front because he had a right to stay where he was and perhaps he didn't want to spend the day with his family watching a 21 month old boy knocking a ball about with a stick and not playing as he is too young to understand what he was doing there.

What would you have done if a mother turned up with a 12 month old who was walking and they pushed in front of your DN? 'He's just a baby' says the Mum, would that suffice for you OP?

I love this thread

I think you were and are still in the wrong op, not your nephew!

You are right, he is still young, it is your job when he is in your care to guide and advise him and show him the right way, to not allow him to spoil other people's day out and if and when he does to apologise to them on his behalf.

As I said before, his reaction did seem a bit ott, but I wonder if there was anything else that had led up to that.

I'm with the 99% (and the 'perfuckingfect' man).

Don't stop posting though, Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost, this is comedy gold!

I think YABU. You cant expect your DN to disrupt other people's games without comment. TBH, I suspect his comment was a hint to you to control your DN rather than aimed at your DN.

But my DD is 21 months. I often tell her to wait her turn - eg on the slide, with toys, treats being handed out - and she does understand that she needs to wait.