To think this is rather petty.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

Sunna behaved badly. Get a grip will you. He thought it was his turn at crazy golf. He has no concept. You'd think he was running around spitting and swearing. and no I've not "Got that yet".!!!!

He is 3 months off being 2 - he is capable of being supervised correctly and to start to be told when he has done something wrong - its how they start to learn.

I would have made a similar comment if he had done the same to me - if no one else seemed to want to correct his poor behaviour.

At 21 years he would have got a much ruder response from me.

Op if he has no concept of turns why are you even taking him there? That 'just a baby' line doesn't wash with many people. Nobody cares. You seem very entitled.

See - you have put "He thought it was his turn at crazy golf. He has no concept."

....but you can't see why it's therefore not appropriate to take him onto the Crazy Golf course.....

"He thought it was his turn at crazy golf. He has no concept."

Precisely. That's why it was your job to ensure he waited until it was his turn. If he was too young to understand your job was to be in control of his behaviour. The man who simply said "It's my turn now" did nothing wrong and there was no reason at all for your nephew's parents to have gone "nuclear" about the exchange.

Why did you bother asking if you were BU when you're incapable of taking the responses on board?

With the greatest respect. None of you were there or heard how he snapped at my D.N.
Oh and don't care if others don't care, Lady. What are you expecting to gain from that comment. Me to break down. I don't particularly care about you and yours tbh

OP, all these posts are saying YABU, you and your reaction.

Your 21 month old nephew was not be unreasonable, he was being 21 months old.

DN behave like a child who is given no boundaries or guidance.
That isn't his fault.
Nobody can blame the child when his aunt thinks it is ott for a guy to mildly say "it's my turn" and whose parents wOuld go mad at this pointing out of the blindingly obvious.
You need to teach kids appropriate behaviour. You need to keep an eye on them and either stop them before they disturb another family's game or (and we all know how easy it is to take your eye the child for a second only to find them in trouble) to go over, apologise and lead the child away, explaining he has to wait.
But I can't see that happening any time soon and I feel sorry for DN.

With the greatest respect. None of you were there or heard how he snapped at my D.N.

Well.. why did you post it on here then? What do you want us to say? Not trying to be goady, you posted in AIBU, got told YABU, and now you're saying we can't judge because we weren't there?

He didn't say it mildly Katie. I wouldn't have minded if he did.

Your behaviour and attitude to others is the problem. Not that of your nephew

I hope you're not trying to suggest that I sit here and take it and not argue back are you, Sooty.

He thought it was his turn at crazy golf. He has no concept

No, that was your job.

You shouldn't have even been stood on the next bit of green when another family were still using it. This is the only way in which your nephew could have put his ball down and hit it, thus getting in the other families way. This would have taken a little time. Plenty of time for you to see what he was doing and stop him because baby (and actually I would describe him as a toddler not a baby) or not, it was NOT his turn and he isn't going to learn unless he is taught.

I guess everyone should always let babies and toddlers go first if they suddenly think it is their turn. God forbid we teach them.

But you aren't actually interested in the other sides view are you OP.

According to you the guy said "it's my turn now."
Four words.
Not a huge opportunity to be snappy.
And from your posts you give a rather clear example of why he was most probably exasperated.
News flash: other people do not have to be tolerant when an unsupervised child is allowed to wander around disturbing them. They have every right to tell the child it wasn't his turn especially as you didn't bother too. If the kid is old enough to wander around on his own he is more than old enough to understand the word "no." I'd suggest you start using it. Again, this was not DNS fault - it was yours and you should have had the common courtesy to realise this and to apologise.
Hopefully you might reflect on this and how your lack of consideration reflects on you. Less excuses and more consideration for other people.

One person's "sitting there and taking it" is another person's ability to reflect on their behaviour with an element of maturity.

Bloody hell, is this still going?

Your opening post Ilive merely states "went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first." no indication of tone, nowhere did you say he snapped it was only much later in the thread after people said YABU that the version changed to "he snapped at DN".

Well I aint about to beat myself up over a game of crazy golf.

Sunna behaved badly. Get a grip will you. He thought it was his turn at crazy golf. He has no concept. You'd think he was running around spitting and swearing. and no I've not "Got that yet".!!!!

It isn't me in need of a grip. You are making an idiot of yourself, OP, do stop. We all know he was the child and it wasn't his fault. It was your fault. You were the one behaving badly by not watching over him properly.

If you'd been looking after him responsible it wouldn't have happened.

This is so funny now. Bring on Jeremy.

I did actually think I was wrong for a short while, but I was mistaken!

The thread and ops understanding of the responses or lack thereofbeggars belief.
I'm trying to think of another word for 'you'. As op doesn't understand this.
She is reading 'you were at fault here' as 'your dn is at fault here'.
How??

Or reconsider your concept of common courtesy or good role modelling either by the sound of it.

At least the OP wasn't too busy staring at her phone to either notice or care what her nephew was doing, which is what I see umpteen people doing when they're supposed to be looking after a toddler. She was paying full attention, I'm sure, but just didn't think that anyone would dare to tell a toddler "It's my turn now" which was, of course, an outrageous and aggressive thing to say to a poor little "baby" - who should have been under full supervision.