To think this is rather petty.

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I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

Erm Santa. I also paid my money as well. I didn't get in for free.

My dc put plenty of feet wrong, (normally force each other to put a wrong foot somewhere too ) but if they've interrupted someone or disturbed them or have been a nuisance I apologise and explain to them why it's not good to annoy other people. They learn that way.

Of course when they were babies I couldn't explain to them why - too young - but I could still apologise. It's called manners

Of course my DCs do things wrong - but if they are bothering other people I always stop them & apologise!

I thought that was how normal people behaved?

Erm Santa. I also paid my money as well. I didn't get in for free.

So, who disrupted your game, OP?

Wine don't get me wrong if me nephew was a bit older and able to understand about taking turns. I would have said. Sweetheart you must wait your turn, but he is not yet at that stage of development.
I see you're another one who's kids do nowt wrong. I must have the only child and nephew who has any faults.

I'm not suggesting you didn't pay.

if me nephew was a bit older and able to understand about taking turns. I would have said. Sweetheart you must wait your turn, but he is not yet at that stage of development.

And perhaps you should only then take him to a game where you have to wait for your turn.

My son and nephews have done enough mistakes. I apologise for them and tell them off.

Not sure why you'd take a child of that age to play crazy golf. As you know, they have no concept of the game or what taking turns means at that level. It's too complex for any 21 month old.

BTW, I'm 39, I love crazy golf, always have done. I recently had a game with my mum who is 59. We weren't the oldest people playing. Should we have all vacated the course?

It's not your child and nephew who's doing anything wrong, it's your attitude

OK. Sorry for saying he was too old to play. Sorry for who else I have offened I guess it was just a defence mechanism when most people jumped on me and said my nephew was too young but we also had a right to be there just as much a this family did. My money is as good.
However the rest I stand by.

You had the right to be there, but a duty to allow others to play their game without being disturbed, as you had that right too.
You should have apologised for your nephew, or you should have minded him better.

I suppose what I am saying is that I just don't understand why anyone would take a game of crazy golf so seriously tbh.

You had the right to be there, but a duty to allow others to play their game without being disturbed, as you had that right too.
You should have apologised for your nephew, or you should have minded him better.

^This

And 21 months old is too young to play. My 3 year-old DGC is too young to play.

Just because a child is too young to behave appropriately in a situation is no reason to let them disrupt or annoy others. It is the duty of their adult 'minder' (parent, aunt, etc) to be sure that the child doesn't get in someone else's way. You would not have appreciated it if another child was being let run around and had bowled your DN over and their parent had said 'Oh, they are too young to know what they are doing!'.

It's not 'all about the children'. It's about being considerate of others.

I suppose what I am saying is that I just don't understand why anyone would take a game of crazy golf so seriously tbh.

THIS ^^

It's crazy golf, not the US Open. YANBU OP.

Somehow I get the feeling that the nephew did more than just hit the ball.

And god forbid that a grown man says to a toddler (not a baby!) that it is his turn first.

With you OP. I don't take crazy golf seriously, it's fun and games. An accident is an accident, an adult should have the sense to see that, there's no excuse for shitty attitudes. I honestly think we live in Victorian England half the time.

I would agree with you if he had screamed at the child.

Just because he didn't smile it doesn't make him an ogre.

And still getting the feeling that the child was let loose with very little control. Where you chatting away while allowing your nephew to do as he pleased?

You seem to be taking it seriously, OP.

No Lewiji. I was not chatting to anyone. I'm the type to talk to people.

Thanks Not and Laurie.

It's crazy golf, not the US Open. YANBU OP

It's still a game they'd paid for.
Why should it be disrupted by a child who's too young to play and who isn't being monitored by the adult in charge?

I don't think 21 months is too young to introduce the idea of taking turns. My DD is 23 months and has a good idea of what it entails, even if she doesn't always have the self control to actually wait. This may be because I have 2 under 4 so must harp on constantly about sharing and taking turns in order to avoid bloodshed!

In your position OP I may have thought to myself that the man was a bit of a pompous arse, but said out loud something like "Whoops! Sorry! DN, you must wait for the gentleman to finish!". I find cheeriness often disarms grumps.