To think this is rather petty.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

YABU

I put an 18 month old in time out for hitting her brother. She learned and didn't hit him again. Babies can be taught basic instructions.

He won't learn to wait his turn if he's not taught to. He's still learning, yes. But you need to be a teacher for him.

When I went mini-golfing with family, the rules was to hold the balls until it was our turn on the set.

Next time hold his ball and make him wait. Not that hard is it?

So what age do children understand about taking turns op?

You do realise that they only learn by being told, they don't suddenly know.

I am surprised by the mans reaction, it does seem a little extreme, however was your n maybe a little too close at other times too?

Not played crazy golf for a while but from what I remember, when someone else is playing, you stand back and let them finish.

I think ywbu by letting your n get too close to the others

"I am surprised by the mans reaction, it does seem a little extreme"

"Extreme"? It sounds very mild indeed to me. He merely looked at the child and said (not shouted) "It's my turn first" Some children of that age do understand the concept of taking turns. Anyway, apparently that would have been enough to make the OP's sister and BIL "go nuclear" if they'd been told. I don't understand why at all.

if me nephew was a bit older and able to understand about taking turns. I would have said. Sweetheart you must wait your turn, but he is not yet at that stage of development.
Are you completely insane or just inept? This must be a wind up because surely no-one is this stupid!!
So because he is too young to understand, you don't think you should stop him doing whatever the hell he wants.
When he walks into the road, do you tell him not to, or do you just yell at the drivers who have to take evasive action?
When he picks up items in a shop, do you take them off him or just let him take them home because he is not yet at the stage of development to understand that he can't? (ah bless)

I see you're another one who's kids do nowt wrong.
My kids did loads wrong, they still do, because all kids do. I have always, as the responsible adult, taken responsibility for their behaviour and taught them what was acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. If they weren't able to behave appropriately for the activity - I wouldn't have let them do it!

I now completely understand this man's tone - he was probably biting his tongue.

OP have you ever thought about taking a load of supersoakers to another childs party?

OP is being unreasonable, she should have stepped in if a small toddler was getting in the way of other people's games. good chance to learn some patience / demonstrating we wait our turns. and also to ensure everyone's safe, you don't want a small child hit with a club do you?

5 pages in for me op - yabvvvvvu - do you get it yet? I hate parents / carers who do not take responsibility for their children's actions. Gives me the rage. Never mind though, we are obviously ALL wrong about this one.

How is it extreme to say "it's my turn first"?
It us a factual, polite statement made in age appropriate language. The chap reasonably assumed this free range child would understand the concept of taking turns as it is something most children are introduced to at a young age.
He could have been very sharp and said "no!" When the child toddled up and disrupted his family's game, so kudos to the guy for being so restrained.
I'm still wondering why OP reckons the parents would go ballistic and why she has such a huge issue with a man pointing out she's allowed the child to disrupt other people.
The proper response was "I'm so sorry." As you lead the child away and giving an apologetic smile. And then to keep a firm hold of DNS hand.

I cannot believe I read this all.

YABU.

YABU

O.K. I think this has gone far enough now. You're calling a little boy here. Who is not even 2 years old.
Asbos bit ott isn't it Lewiji !
and I hope Jeremy Kyle is reading. Erm what's he going to do. On reflection now I knew I would be flamed but this is almost abusive now.
I am not backing down we will have to agree to disgaree and nor am I about to crawl up anyone's arse,
And if you're waiting for me to say. My nephew is a horrible little boy, sorry it's not happening, because he is not. Yes he's got his faults he's human, but he's no worse than any other child.
Now that's all I have to say for now

Good.

Oh Don't worry I'll be back.
I tell you what his wife must be the envy of you all seeing as he is so perfuckingfect

I think there's something wrong with your comprehension skills. The overwhelming majority feel that your supervision and attitude are at fault, not that your nephew is horrible.

Not all of us - some of us have pointed out he needed closer supervision and it was not acceptable behaviour what he did.

The gentleman told him his behaviour was not appropriate.

You have said his parents would go nuclear at him for daring to tell him off which lots of us think is out of order.

You must be reading different replies from me OP.

You are the only one suggesting other people, or other people's children are perfect or 'angels' - no-one else is.
You are the only one who thinks it's appropriate to take a 1 yr old to do an activity which thy are clearly too young to manage, and that they are likely to be in danger from being the height the clubs are being swung at, and the fact that gold balls are very hard.
You are the one who let him get in other people's way and then didn't apologise to them when he did (as little ones often do)
You seem to be the only one who thinks YANBU (ok I exaggerate, there have been about 2 others in the last 215 posts.) Why ask if YABU, if you are completely unable to even slightly consider the possibility that you might have been in this case ?

Noodled. He is 21 months old. Not 21 years old.

Funnily enough it's not the little boy that evokes ASBOs to me...

Definite lack of comprehension skills.

As you say OP, he's only 21 months, and still learning about taking turns etc. Which is why it's up to you to help him understand that and put it into practice by telling him, and holding him if necessary, until he's able to understand by himself.

Your nephew wasn't at fault, OP. It was your fault for allowing him to behave badly. Got that yet?

sooty I think we could provide 752 pages of YABU and OP would still be defending herself. Some people just have an overwhelming and insurmountable level of entitlement that even the collective power of MN cannot overcome.

ilovesooty Probably more selective than lacking...

OP doesnt and i dont think is able to get it. Waste of energy trying to explain.