To wonder why some women don't attempt breast feeding?

[Pyjamaramadrama]

Honestly, this isn't intentionally as goady as it might sound. I just want to say that I bottle fed ds, and think that it's entirely up to the individual mother and family as to what works for them.

I'm genuinely just interested but would never ask anyone in rl.

When I had ds I started breast feeding but gave in after a week for various reasons, sore nipples, lack of privacy at the time, lack of support, I could go on. I do kind of regret it and wish that I'd persisted, although ds has turned out just fine. But I will try again with the view that if it doesn't work out then that's ok too.

Quite a few people I know who've had babies recently have not ever intended to breast feed and ff from day 1, and even though I probably shouldn't, I did wonder why they didn't want to try even if only for the first feed.

My post-surgery boobs don't have the right plumbing.

One question I'd like to know the answer to is whether having big breasts makes BF harder. I am sure that anecdotally plenty of people know others with big breasts who have successfully bf. But on a statistical level, do women with big breasts stop bf due to problems more or less than those with smaller breasts.

I'd like to know this for two reasons:

1. I have big breasts and found them unwieldy when faced with a baby smaller than them.

2. Comparisons are made with BF success rates in other countries. There are lots of factors at play causing differences, but I would guess that big breasts are more common here than in many less developed countries with less available food.

No never crossed my mind.

Amazed anyone cares a shiny shite either.

Do what suits you and don't bother about another's choices.

DD1 was breastfed for almost 18 months and I am currently 6 months into breastfeeding DD2.

I'm both passionate about breastfeeding (I'm a BFing peer supporter) and feel indifferent to it in equal measures.

With both DD's I've suffered PND, which I believe is due to lack of sleep through feeding almost hourly 24/7.

If I were to have a 3rd DC (which I never would btw) I would combi or EFF.

OP, the reason being that the mother simply doesn't want to should be reason enough.

I tried the first feed with my first. Its was a horrific labour and delivery and when he was born I was not in sound mind - I hated him having a group of midwives man handle my breast into his face did not enamour me to breast feeding further, though I doubt I would have anyway due to how my head totally flipped when he was born. (post natal depression)

Second, had no intention. getting through the pregnancy was hard enough on the promise I could get out and have a drink and a ciggie if I wanted to pretty soon after I had her if my head went the way it did first time was all that kept me going (Antenatal depression) (I was amazingly well after I had her, and fell in love with her, but with a 14 month gap no way would I have been able to commit to BF anyway)

Third, I felt the same as for number two. Horrific pregnancy, very ill, physically and mentally. Wanted my body back asap. So his first feed was formula. On ward afterwards, in the dead of night, with no one around, cuddled up - I was too curious not to try. I did, it was amazing, I felt fantastic - fed him for 5 weeks until had to return to Bipolar meds.

4th - intended to BF from start with hope of keeping off meds for a while - happiness hormones help :) Had killer pregnancy mentally. Very nearly sectioned. (probably should have been really!) But second she was born my head cleared and I fed her form the off. Only stopped a couple of weeks ago so I can go back to uni, would have loved to carry on, its been a beautiful experience. I also quite liked sitting on my ever expanding arse for 5 months cuddling my baby whilst our house went to rack and ruin!

Sorry its long - I had our 4 dc in the space of 6 years, the reasons for/for not BF at all can be complex and differ greatly with each DC, let alone with each mother! Its not clear cut.

I breastfed dd for a year. I will not be attempting to breastfeed # 2.
I'm not interested in telling you why. It's none of your business.
HTH.

Simply because I didn't want to. My boobs were (and still are) perfectly enhanced due to implants. Next question.....

I've so been down the 'against epilepsy consultant advice'.
I was bullied into BFing on the ward. I failed. Big fail. Had em CSect (cant even cook them properly!), twins, no support, crap HV, both reflux, ICU and NICU for DT2. Shit time really.
Thank God for FF!

YABVVU. They make a choice not to. Their bodies their choices, you sound a bit breastapo and goady to me. I say this as a long term exclusively bfing mum of two btw. If women who breastfeed want their choices to be respected eg feeding in public, we must respect rights and choices to formula feed. No mother makes a choice that will harm her baby. I bf due to lack of money for formula/bottles and luckily it suited my family. It's not always an earth mother choice.

About two years ago I attended a 16 hour training session on breast feeding (2x8hr sessions) and the woman giving the training made BF sound like the most amazing and wonderful experience and her excitement and passion for it was so so infectious, it was lovely. At the end of the 2nd day I filled in my feedback form and in the 'general comments' section I wrote that her sessions had made me want to have a baby just so I could experience breast feeding - and I meant it.

Two years later I realised the reality wasn't quite as magical as I thought it would be

I was on medication for my epilepsy and beta blockers for abnormal heart rhythms and when I was told my Beta Blockers may mean I couldn't breast feed I was so upset.