AIBU to hide in the bathroom while DP's brother comes over?

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Of course I'm being unreasonable. You will tell me so, and I am accepting of that.

But, it is still bloody Sunday morning. DP's brother texts ten mins ago to tell us he is on the way over to use the computer (they don't have a PC, so tend to come by once a fortnight or so to sort some essentials online/using Word). He's also bringing his sons, aged 4 and 6.

I told DP I would go and have my bath whilst they were here. This is because:

a) It's Sunday morning, I'm not dressed yet. It's my day off, and I am in no mind to receive guests at five mins' notice in my dressing gown with unwashed hair and remnants of mascara round my face (out last night);

b) I love our nephews, but DP's brother ignores them while he comes over. They are little boys who are into everything, but we keep no toys in the house. This is problematic because we live in a one-bed flat the size of a postage stamp (seriously, my best friend's living room is bigger than our whole flat), so the boys quickly become restless, but DP's brother will ignore the boys whilst he and DP chat computers and such, so I am left to try and amuse them with some colouring books whilst trying to contain them in such a small space;

c) I'm a teacher. I spend all week disclipling others' children. It's Sunday after the first week back. I am not at all up to it.

So I am scheduling my bath for when they arrive, because I just don't want to deal this morning.

Obviously, IABU. But someone please tell me I am HUMAN to feel such a way about being the assumed children's entertainer in my own non-child-proofed home with five minutes' notice on a Sunday morning?! (After a wine or two last night...)

I don't think YABU, I'd do the same. But then I'm not known for my socialness.

YANBU at all, why don't they have a computer? Loads of the older ones are V V cheap and some people even give them away :-/

YANBU
I have been known to be planning a bath when uninvited visitors drop by.
Totally logical

YANBU. Who doesn't have a computer!?

Huh? Why do you say YABU? The only U thing is that you are being disingenuous and pretending you think you are YABU when you know very well YANBU.

In your situation I would do exactly the same thing.

YANBU.

You could sit in the bath for an hour whilst BIL and DH talk bloke stuff. The DNs will be ignored and trash your house.

I would take the passive aggressive route. Take the DNs out on a trip - all the way back to their mother and see if anyone notices they are missing

I would go into the bathroom, and stay there until they had gone home. YANBU.

I have said this, about the computers, multiple times. They both earn much better money than us, but have never had one. They did have DP's old one for free a few years ago, but brother thought he couldn't get it working, so the nephews used it to play with screwdrivers, etc. (Bit odd, IMO)

Using Word, lol.

I thought I would be branded rude and UR for making myself scarce, TBH!

YANBU. When I have a precious Sunday off with the DC (probably happens about once a month) getting dressed before midday is banned. As are visitors until after lunch.
Enjoy your very long bath.

Why would you be? Just take precious breakables with you because you know they're not going to be supervised.

All the sociable people are out doing something and not MNing this morning.
The only people replying to your message are the MNers crouched over the ipad ignoring their families

They arrived a few minutes ago. DNs are playing swinging off the doors in our tiny hallway between the doors to bedroom and living room/kitchen (I can hear them). It's near the bathroom, and I'm fairly certain DP's brother may have allowed this as he's annoyed I'm not there to watch them.

My bath is running!

Ha ha, Thursday!

I wonder if it's sil's turn for a lie in and bil to look after the kids.

So he comes over to yours and you look after the kids?

SIL is working. I enjoy it when she comes over with them, as she will bring toys, and actually supervise, and we have cake (sometimes a glass of wine!) and a lot of fun.

YANBU. Your DP's brother is! Bloody cheek.

YANBU

Is there no one else in the family who can look after the children? Can your dp take them to the park for an hour? Or sit and do the colouring with them?

Is this your bil's way of givin the children's mum a lie in/ morning off whilst not actually looking after th children himself

scuse crap typing etc.,
computer being a bastard!

enjoy your bath

OP, I assume that their mother will be having a lovely quiet peaceful Sunday then, while her little ones are at your home? They're taking the piss in that case. Get in that bath, with coffee, book, phone and switch off the broadband . (Or go out and visit a friend).

Why does he bring his DC with him?

Why does your dp let this happen? As you said, your Sundays are precious. Why can't you ask your dp to ask his brother to come over some other time without the nephews so that it isn't so awful?

It sounds like this time suits the boys' mother. But it doesn't suit you.

So change it.

Ok, but the principle's the same...

I would have 'told' him he's not.

Have they heard of public libraries?

It is your DP you need to speak to, tell him it's unacceptable and if he doesn't put a stop to it, you will. Job done.

YANBU to hang out in the bathroom, but I'd get the kids to go to the toilet first!