AIBU to hide in the bathroom while DP's brother comes over?

[Iffy2014]

Of course I'm being unreasonable. You will tell me so, and I am accepting of that.

But, it is still bloody Sunday morning. DP's brother texts ten mins ago to tell us he is on the way over to use the computer (they don't have a PC, so tend to come by once a fortnight or so to sort some essentials online/using Word). He's also bringing his sons, aged 4 and 6.

I told DP I would go and have my bath whilst they were here. This is because:

a) It's Sunday morning, I'm not dressed yet. It's my day off, and I am in no mind to receive guests at five mins' notice in my dressing gown with unwashed hair and remnants of mascara round my face (out last night);

b) I love our nephews, but DP's brother ignores them while he comes over. They are little boys who are into everything, but we keep no toys in the house. This is problematic because we live in a one-bed flat the size of a postage stamp (seriously, my best friend's living room is bigger than our whole flat), so the boys quickly become restless, but DP's brother will ignore the boys whilst he and DP chat computers and such, so I am left to try and amuse them with some colouring books whilst trying to contain them in such a small space;

c) I'm a teacher. I spend all week disclipling others' children. It's Sunday after the first week back. I am not at all up to it.

So I am scheduling my bath for when they arrive, because I just don't want to deal this morning.

Obviously, IABU. But someone please tell me I am HUMAN to feel such a way about being the assumed children's entertainer in my own non-child-proofed home with five minutes' notice on a Sunday morning?! (After a wine or two last night...)

Oh, have just read the whole thread, and it appears that they played outside the bathroom while you were in it. Umm, this seems a bit cold to me and not what I would do with my young nephews and niece (I'm a teacher too), even if I was a bit pissed off with the parents. I am very obviously in the minority though!

I would have gone out as soon as he texted

Dieu, it us lovely to see one's nephews and nieces, but it is not lovely to be assumed to look after them on one's own, whilst the guest exclusively socialises with the DP.

It is this assumption which grates, not having the boys over.

Completely understandable!

If BIL and nephews were to come over with a box of cakes, and to have a lovely catch up with auntie, that would be a totally different scenario.

I did talk to the kids through the bathroom door. Told them I was taking a bath, and would see them tomorrow night for storytime, and to go and see Daddy... don't think Daddy was terribly chuffed to be bothered by them, as they swiftly returned. I was playing music by that point.

I truly think DP's brother was really ruffled that the usually available babysitting service wasn't available. I've minded the boys while he's been there in the past, but today was "the straw that broke the camel's back", as it were.

He's going to owe us a fair bit when we have kids.

Would have gone out Orange, except they really were five minutes away, and I was very much undressed and unwashed! Also, I think I'd feel as though I were wasting time (I keep my weekends pretty scheduled as there's so much to do) if I randomly went out, at least if I were in the bathroom I could catch up on a few personal chores.

yeah, that "owing" bit will never work.

He is a taker, not a giver!