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AIBU?

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To think DH's tooth pain is not the same as childbirth?

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LizLimone · 08/09/2014 18:33

He chipped a filling about 6 weeks ago and has been in and out to the dentist ever since. Got two crowns put in, then had a wisdom tooth removed (fully descended, not impacted) that apparently had a cyst attached. He is now on antibiotics to manage any possible infection arising. Since that operation he has been obsessing that he has a dry socket and spends ages every morning standing in front of the mirror examining thre back of his mouth while I wrangle DS into his clothes and get him breakfast and out the door.

We had an appointment we both needed to attend this morning and halfway through he springs it on me that he has a dental appointment to go to because his teeth are still hurting. On the way to his car he says to me 'it might be a dry socket. The pain is supposed to be as bad as childbirth' said with a long-suffering look on his face.

FFS

I have had my share of dental work over the years, impacted wisdom teeth requiring surgery under GA, abscesses etc. IT IS NOTHING LIKE CHILDBIRTH!!!! At all.

I just rolled my eyes, snorted with laughter and told him to get over himself. WIBU? I literally never want to hear another word about his effing teeth ever again.

And I am 7 months pregnant ATM and I never complain about it! If he had to be pregnant, it would be the end of the world I'm sure... childbirth, my foot...

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fatlazymummy · 08/09/2014 18:47

Yes stubbed toes can hurt, and sprained ankles can be really painful as well. I have heard that kidney stones (especially for men) and acute pancreatitis are probably the worst pains.

codandchipstwice · 08/09/2014 18:48

I have three dcs and have had traumatic births and during my dry socket was begging for childbirth instead, not only is it incredibly painful but it's so intrusive too

MyFairyKing · 08/09/2014 18:48

Hey, OP at least you're going to get a gorgeous, snuffly, snuggly little baby out of your pain.

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LizLimone · 08/09/2014 18:48

Yes but he's clearly NOT in that much pain because when I had my abscess and dental surgery I could barely eat or talk. He are steak for dinner yesterday for god's sake. I do actually know what extreme tooth pain is like since I have had it myself.

There is nothing wrong with him. He is just self-obsessing as usual and being a ridiculous hypochondriac. It runs in the family. His FIL is the same - every ache and pain is imminent death etc...

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Applelicious · 08/09/2014 18:49

Have just re-read the OP though, and this image makes me pmsl a little bit.

On the way to his car he says to me 'it might be a dry socket. The pain is supposed to be as bad as childbirth' said with a long-suffering look on his face.

MsAnthropic · 08/09/2014 18:52

I've had dental pain many times that was far worse than labour (and I often quip I would prefer that to dental work) however if his was that bad it would be pretty bloody obvious he was in a bad way.

TheBloodManCometh · 08/09/2014 18:52

I've not had a baby yet but last year I dislocated my knee and have been told that is sometimes as painful as childbirth.
I couldn't say myself but had it been anymore painful, I think it would have actually snapped something in my brain - so I hope its true!

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LizLimone · 08/09/2014 18:54

That's the thing Apple - if it was really that bad he would know because he would be in agony, not going about his day as usual. When I had an abscess, the last thing I felt like doing was googling obsessively about it and staring into the mirror at my teeth. I was too addled with pain to even think straight. Ditto for childbirth. Really unbearable pain does not generally allow you to talk at length about it or ponder what it's like.

Well if you're all such sensitive souls I will send him over to your houses for tea and sympathy then because I've had enough! Be warned: you will get fed up listening to him after about - ooh- 6 hours....

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ErrolTheDragon · 08/09/2014 18:56

I had an abscess a couple of weeks after giving birth.... it did hurt, but I practically dozed off in the chair while the dentist was draining it (with no anaesthetic) because it was the first free time without feeding/crying baby I'd had. Relatively relaxing.

Well, toothache can be bad, birth can be bad, best the OH's DH gets his mouth sorted out properly now so that he doesn't still have toothache in a couple of months.

WallyBantersJunkBox · 08/09/2014 18:56

Well I suppose there is always a positive to childbirth, the end goal is worth the pain.

So unless he is about to pop out a 7 pound gold molar from the cavity I suppose I feel a bit sorry for him.

But then I'm not seven months pregnant and haven't been for 10 years....

londonrach · 08/09/2014 19:01

Toothpain is awful.... Never given birth so can tell you. However have had patients who prefer giving birth to in growing toe nail injections..... My mum says she preferred giving birth to having breast cancer and following treatment....

Sallystyle · 08/09/2014 19:03

I would rather go through labour than some of the tooth pain I have had .

ShatnersBassoon · 08/09/2014 19:04

A dental abscess I had was far more painful than childbirth. It sent me doolally. I seriously considered knocking my tooth out with a hammer and chisel.

Your DH has no idea, about dental pain or childbirth, if he can walk across a car park and sit through an appointment without honking like a snared goose.

PiperIsOrange · 08/09/2014 19:06

I would rather childbirth, lots of lovely gas and air that sent me to sleep.

Tooth pain, you can't eat or sleep and only OTC meds to deal with it.

LokiBear · 08/09/2014 19:07

I've had an abcess on my tooth. I've also had a baby. Abcess was worse. Sorry.

icymaiden · 08/09/2014 19:08

Toothache is MUCH worse that childbirth IME

randycheeseburger · 08/09/2014 19:09

my dh has back ache and wont shut up about it so I know how you feel, he was off today as he works weekends, I spent the day in town and came home to the mess I left this morning, He was meant to be coming into town with me so I could drive in (haven't passed my test yet) but he was fast asleep so I took the boys to school and got the bus. He work up at 11 and said he was going to phone nhs direct

ItsNotEasyBeingGreen · 08/09/2014 19:10

In all honesty the worse pain I have ever experienced was toothache... It was more painful than childbirth IMO.

trufflesnout · 08/09/2014 19:11

IME the people who think that childbirth is the worst pain you can experience ever are also the people who are fortunate enough to have never experienced anything else painful or traumatic in the medical sense.

SaucyJack · 08/09/2014 19:12

If he can stand in front of the mirror poking his mouth or walk to his car whilst talking then it obviously isn't hurting him that much.

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LizLimone · 08/09/2014 19:15

My point exactly, Shatner. Having had both types of pain, for me childbirth was the worst. I would, however, be open to the idea that dental pain is worse / the same if DH showed any signs of extreme pain.

But he doesn't. It's just self pity which gets really boring to listen to after a while...

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TheBloodManCometh · 08/09/2014 19:15

Just seen this

trufflesnout · 08/09/2014 19:16

But he doesn't. It's just self pity which gets really boring to listen to after a while...

I missed that bit. Can you approach him and tell him to stfu?

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LizLimone · 08/09/2014 19:17

Yes but I actually have had dental abscesses and impacted wisdom teeth requiring surgery (not to mention other medical experiences), as I say in my OP, so I can compare.

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MrsExcited · 08/09/2014 19:18

I have had a drysocket infection, after 7 days on serious anti biotics and prescription painkillers, minimal sleep never more than 2 hours at a time i was admitted to hospital as was near collapse, hooked up to IV antibs and morphine.

I suspect that was possibly worse than childbirth, sadly the only thing i can compare it to is an ectopic pregnancy which was also pretty shit, but the pain from the tooth was worse.

However i suspect if he is still making it to meetings and getting some sleep a- it is not a dry socket and b - it is not worse than childbirth in his instance.

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