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Original poster

to think at 5 foot you can't date a guy 6 foot 4

120 replies

mommy2ash · 05/09/2014 00:24

I've always been a bit self conscious about my height but thankfully as I've grown older I've learned to feel more comfortable in my own skin.

the strange thing about being short is the sheer amount of tall guys that ask you out.

the tallest guy I've dated was 6 foot 2 and it was a great relationship but I had to always wear huge heels, run alongside him while he walked and he couldn't hear me talk without bending down.

there is a guy I know who is really nice but he is 6 foot 4. he doesn't see the problem but I feel self conscious just thinking about it. aibu?

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ClareBaldingsHair · 05/09/2014 00:27

Yabu. I have friends these exact heights who are married. Their wedding pics looked great - you see the happiness not the height diff

MrsSippy · 05/09/2014 00:27

DS is 6' 8" and his GF is 5' 4", it apparently can be done!!!

Amy106 · 05/09/2014 00:30

Yes, you can. We have been together for 39 years!

temporaryusername · 05/09/2014 00:31

Yabu. Don't wear heels and run alongside - that is quite a difficult combination for one thing! Make the man slow down or follow at a respectable distance and speak loudly.

JaceLancs · 05/09/2014 00:31

It's not a problem there is 14 inches height difference between myself and my partner
Coincidentally same height difference between my daughter and her partner (although I am taller than her)
My son just needs to find a GF of 6' 1" and then we would all match!

MrsCakesPrecognition · 05/09/2014 00:32

Of course you can if you want to. He's really nice - you can't limit your life worrying what other people think.

JaceLancs · 05/09/2014 00:33

That should have read GF of 5'1" (as he is 6'3")

Mydelilah · 05/09/2014 00:33

honestly, I think refusing to date someone you like due to height (or any inherited physical attribute) is shallow...

All of the issues you desceibe would not exist if your partner was considerate

Mydelilah · 05/09/2014 00:34

desceib = describe

Original poster
mommy2ash · 05/09/2014 00:35

i see the problem as my height rather than his height if that makes sense.

I already knew I was being unreasonable sometimes it helps having other people tell you :-)

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Sapat · 05/09/2014 00:36

Nonsense. Us shorties need to marry the tall ones! I only married DH so that he can reach high shelves in cupboards etc for me. I have also done it for the greater benefit of mankind so our offspring can be sensibly sized. We know a couple who are both very tall and their kids are quite frankly massive.

Lally112 · 05/09/2014 00:36

it is unreasonable, I'm now 5 foot 7 and DH is 6 foot 6 but when we met and started going together (admittedly back in highschool) I wasn't quite 5 foot and he was 6,1 maybe 6,2ish. Wear heels for a bit and make sure you are around if he puts up a mirror in your house to check the height of it (or endure 16 years of using the kids stools to see in the damn things like I have to)

NerfHerder · 05/09/2014 00:38

YABU. Married 20 years, stood on a box for the wedding photo! Grin

I had to marry a giant, otherwise my offspring would be disadvantaged on both sides genetically.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 05/09/2014 00:39

I'm only 5ft 4". My D.P is 6ft 7.
We are like polar opposites, but as the song says opposites attract.
He has light hair. I have dark hair.
He has brown eyes. I have green eyes.
I am over weight. He is like a latt.
We've been told we don't match, but so what we're happy

fortyplus · 05/09/2014 00:39

I think you should go out with someone 5'4" and save the tall guys for us lanky ladies! Wink

LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/09/2014 00:41

Oh, go for it!

I am 5'4 and I am ashamed to admit I have a huge thing for tall blokes - I have entertained the possibility of some very boring/unsuitable men just because they were over 6'4. I blame it on genetics need, since I come from a family of historic shortarses (dad is my height, mum is smaller) - and I think there is some truth in that idea!

I do think if they make you run rather than walking slower, or make you wear heels, that is a sign they are a bit wankerish - nothing to do with height!

If you like this guy, why not?

Original poster
mommy2ash · 05/09/2014 00:44

forty plus

my best friend growing up was six foot tall she would get so mad when the tall guys would chat me up lol. I really felt for her at the time but thankfully she is now happily married to a lovely very tall guy so at least I left some for her :-)

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Original poster
mommy2ash · 05/09/2014 00:46

LRD

the guy I had to run after wasn't even aware of the difference in our strides till I had to ask him to slow down lol

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/09/2014 00:48

Aw, bless him! Grin

If he's not aware just tell him - I bet he won't mind.

My best mate at school was 6'/6'1 and always wore big 4 inch heels. Blokes loved her. She really gave me a lesson in how to be comfortable in your own body.

zazA09Jane · 05/09/2014 00:49

im 4'11 and ex DP was 6'2.. it was awkward for kissing I must admit

missnevermind · 05/09/2014 00:50

DH is 6'2. I am 5 ft. I fit comfortably under his arm Grin

I also agree with Lally about the mirrors. When we first moved in together he put them up. I became a dab hand with the drill moving them to where they were more useful.

Mintyy · 05/09/2014 00:50

5'2" and 6'4" here. He's terribly handy when I want something fetched down from a high shelf.

Original poster
mommy2ash · 05/09/2014 00:50

finally someone who feels my pain :-)
it's definitely not like a scene from the movies it's all tip toes and bent knees :-)

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missnevermind · 05/09/2014 00:51

We are all the same height in bed Wink

fatlazymummy · 05/09/2014 00:53

Yes you can. And don't wear high heels if you don't want to,either.