to have changed my nieces bedtime

[mommy2ash]

I was minding my niece who is 20 months for a week while my sister and her husband were on holidays.

they got back yesterday and are so angry with me neither one are now talking me.

my niece usually goes to bed around 11 but after two days I was exhausted and my house was a tip and my dd who is seven was kept awake and tired getting up for school.

I stopped her napping at 5pm and put her to bed at half seven like my dd so I could have a shower clean the house and just have some quiet time after a long day. I am a single parent so I haven't had a break in a week.

I feel really bad now as obviously the bedtime they had given her suited them. i have already apologised but that hasn't helped. was it a terrible thing to do and what can I do now to make it up to them?

Wowzers.

Your niece is 20 months and her parents have been on holiday without her 4 times (every 5 months on average). They'd "give her to whoever" to look after . . .

You looked after her for a WEEK (alongside your school-aged DD) and managed to get her into a sensible routine, that suited you and didn't harm her at all.

And they are CROSS with you?

Fuck 'em!

I was just wondering if your parents have said anything to you about it.

Keep her next time and don't give her back!!

my parents agree with me when my sister isn't around but would never say it to her face. my dad's attitude is basically the same as everyone here. my dd is my priority and that isn't Me being a martyr it's just a fact and not one I regret and unfortunately their dd isn't their priority. they do love her very much and wouldn't see things as I do but I think they put themselves first.

Stop apologising. I know you care about your niece but I'm guessing your sister and her husband are using this to their advantage.

Christ alive. Can't they just change it back again if it doesn't suit them?

How ungrateful. So you've had her for at least 4 full weeks and she's only 20 months old? I don't have anymore words. I'm [shocked]

Please don't try to make it up to them. It'll make it worse next time. Just say you are happy to have her but you have to do what you have to do to make it as easy as possible for yourself.

I can't see many other people wanting her around at that time of night either, no matter how lax they are in other ways.

Er, one day and you do your best to stick with their routine and make them comfortable. A week and they bloody fit around you come hell or high water. No way would I have the time or energy to be up with someone else's toddler till 11 0 clock at night. Especially as the nap was at a ridiculously late time and shouldn't be too hard to keep awake for an hour and go to bed for the night.