To hope that one person might genuinely say 'congratulations' about DC5?

[NoRoomForALittleOne]

I am in a pregnant huff! I'm only 5 weeks pg with DC5 but we've chosen to tell two people - one who it affects greatly and another was a good friend who asked a direct question. Neither said congratulations . To be fair this is a total contraceptive failure pregnancy but we are really happy. My pregnancy with DC4 was horrific so people will be concerned for me. But I just know that no-one is going to genuinely congratulate us People already openly judge us for having four children.

Congratulations!!

Congratulations

They are just jealous, remember that

Who is judging you? Why do you people are judging you?

I think after the first, people just don't seem as excited. After a few, it just becomes the norm.

They shouldn't be rude though and offer congratulations regardless of their opinion. It's just good manners to somebody you know.

Congratulations!

I've just had DS2 and would have loved to have had 5! or more at my c section the surgeon said I had a thin uterus wall.... And I'm 31.... So doubt I can get in another 3 :(

Big families are the best!

aw! Sod them all, you're happy & that's all that matters Unless the person who it affects massively is a grandma who will have to do free childcare yanbu ;)

Congratulations! Would love a big family, only one so far but working on it!

The person who is 'greatly affected', why are they affected by your pregnancy and why are congratulations important from them?

I think if you are happy about the pregnancy, healthy and can afford your children then it's good news for you. Other people can be a bit ambivalent about saying anything at all. As your fourth pregnancy was hard, perhaps more so?

I don't know why people say/do or don't say/don't do things. It's not always down to thoughtlessness; sometimes I think they just follow the mantra of "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything...".

People stop saying it after DC 2!

We're slowly telling people about DC4. We've had a "um really? WOW" and a "why?"

People are rude

Well, I would sit on the fence here. Who knows that Congratulations would be in order when Commiserations might be more appropriate? I don't want to be a Miseryguts but some babies are unwanted because they were unplanned; unwanted at first certainly. No one knows what's going on in the mother-to-be's head.

Anyway, 5 weeks is rather early to tell people, isn't it?

The person it affects is DH's boss but it's not a very 'normal' job. We live 100s of miles away from all grandparents.

The most recent person to cast judgement was an elderly lady in the hairdressers yesterday. The children were exceptionally well behaved and polite so I have no idea what her problem was.

I even congratulated a friend who got pregnant after giving her other four children to their fathers to bring up. Every baby deserves to be welcomed into this world.

People are strange NoRoom

Congratulations from me!

YABU

You are definitely having a pregnancy huff . You have told precisely two people - two, that's not exactly the world and his dog is it?!

IF you want people to give you congratulations then let them know YOU are happy about it, so you have 'We have some really, really exciting news, we are expecting again, we are so happy about it' Don't just say 'I'm pregnant' - it leaves people not knowing what to say, whether YOU are happy about it or not.

Now have a nice

A million congratulations and every joy. And as for those who say anything else - you know what goes with Gomorrah!

Why would you tell a stranger though? As for telling your husbands boss, that a little weird. Why does it affect him?

Hmmm not do happy again are we?!

OP clearly isn't looking for commiserations, she has four already so clearly enjoys being a mum to them

Some people are just miserable gits, I have two, I've been told by family (MILs) that we must be done now because we have one of each (and because all that side of the family have 2 kids)! ... I say we are done because it's all we can afford childcare wise, but I might pop another just to pee them off!!!

Congratulations!!
Ignore the rude people. Every baby should be celebrated.

Oh for the love of Betsy - one of those was DH's boss and it (apparently) affects him massively. Maybe he was just taken aback and trying to figure out what this would mean to him/the business.

An old lady at the hairdressers... well, 4 kids are quite noisy/full on if you aren't used to it (even when they are being good). Or maybe she was just deep in her own thoughts or something...

Surely Dh's boss doesn't need to know at 5 weeks ! I guess if his a small business he might be a bit to pay 5 x paternity leave

I know that I'm having a pregnancy huff. I'm allowed one because I'm pregnant

And also because the friend who asked was the one person I expected to say 'congratulations'

I saw my MIL the week before I found out who made some derogatory comments about me because we have four children. She thought I was going to tell her then that we were expecting again and expressed her disgust at the idea. I am not looking forward to telling her.

How would a lady in the hairdressers even KNOW at 5 weeks if you've only told two people?

When my sister told us she was pregnant I had nothing but fear running through my mind, if it wasn't for the hospital staff and her being in the right place she would have been dead now. She haemorrhaged and needed a c-section under GA and needed blood transfusion and iron tablets for months after.

Once her DC2 was born and she was safe then I relaxed.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

CONGRATULATIONS

Every one of those people pulling the lemonsucking face will have also had a fleeting thought along the lines of 'but that's also pretty damn amazing - FIVE!'

It sounds great. What a family. I'm jealous!!