if your child was called say, jacob, and your mother kept calling him jake, would it piss you off

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No. Jake is short for Jacob.
If she was calling him "Barry" or "that Ugly One" it'd be different.
YABU

My son is also Jacob, he gets called Jake, Jakey, Snake, Snakey... Etc

No it wouldn't bother me at all.

Hakylat, yes really. No need for snideness. She only sees him a couple of times a year, so it's not as though anyone uses her name for him every week.

Nah, my son is Ruaridh and he gets called Roo all the time, I don't mind - and I am sure if he did he would be the first to let anyone know.

No it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Both my sons names get shortened although I refer to them by the full name.

They are not upset so why should I ?

Bigger more important things to worry about tbh.

No it doesn't bother me.

I have given dses names that I like the shortened versions as well.

It would only annoy me if the person doing it annoyed me generally, is my honest answer :o

Some people manage to annoy by being over familiar, intrusive, manipulative, implying criticism or whatever through behaviour you'd think nothing of if somebody else did the same thing. Usually though, shortened names indicate fondness and informality, and giving your child a commonly shortened name if you will be upset when people shorten it seems a bit like willingly setting yourself up in advance to spend a lot of time feeling pissed off!

It's funny op. My older lads have a huge circle of friends in their 20s and absolutely none of them are referred to by their baptismal names.

My dds now teens have beautiful jane Austen names but they have been chavtisised. That is now a word.

You don't have that much control over your child's name or relationships. Go with the flow.

MIL, FIL, SIL in fact all the IL still call DH by his long name, William.

When I met him, DH had left home about six years previously, was living on the other side of the world and had established himself in his career. He was a grown up. He introduced himself to me as Will and all his peers and friends knew him by that name.

I don't mind that the ILs use the long form, that is the name they gave him and that he grew up with.

The thing I don't like is the huffing and eve rolling when I call him 'Will'. I don't get it when that is the nick name he chose for himself???

Nope, wouldn't bother me. I love the fact that the DC's GPs have NN for them. Loved is the child of many names. It shows great affection ime.

YY.

"You know that his name is Jacob. Please stop calling him by somebody else's name".

Please don't say this. It sounds so clenchy.

YANBU, by the way, to be annoyed by it...

But have a think about why they do this, what the motivation is, etc, and maybe you might come to the conclusion that it's a nice thing, that comes from a lovely place. And then it might not annoy you so much.

Does it piss you off? Have you corrected this person? Have you told this person in a postcard text, infomercial that your kid does not have a kicking k in his name or something? A mean jeeze, haz no 1 got any consideration I was called hunners of names by my mother, totally did my head in. But I know how to spell my own name, my mums (or moms, ma, maw mothers names) and she's helping to teach me how to get my kids to spell mine.
Either way, have u tried capital letters on EVERY card picture etc and start increasing the "look what JACOB drew you" or "made for you" approach? you could try using ELMOS song.
Or just change his name to jake.

My kids have about ten nicknames each, most of our close friends consistently mispronounce dc1's name, dc2 gets misspelled by his grandparents... I couldn't care less, they are very loved children and when they get a bit older they can decide what they want to be called and correct people if they like. I'm sorry but I just don't get all this angst over a child having One True Name.

If the shortening is as obvious as Jake for Jacob then it's probably a good idea to get used to it now as it will not be the last time.

Generally, parents always use their full name, and everyone else abbreviates it, especially when they get to school.

I think that when you give a baby a name like Jacob that has a natural nn like Jake you need to be prepared for the nn to be used. It was on those grounds I didn't use a name I really liked - loved the 'Jacob' equivalent, hated the 'Jake'.

Yes. Oh my god yes.

My 7 week old daughter is called Emily and my dad insists on calling her Emmy. Reeeeally winds me up. Not least because when I've called him up on it his response has been along the lines of 'I'll call her whatever I like'. Erm no, she's my child not yours!

Grrrr.

I don't know anyone who isn't called by some kind of nickname, whether it's "commonplace" ie. Samuel - Sam, Christopher - Chris, or just something that's developed over the years eg. I know several Kelly's and they're all known as Kell.

It's not something to really get worked up over, because as soon as they get to school they'll be called a whole variety of nicknames by teachers and friends and such.

I would possibly correct it until the child had an opinion...& then leave it up to them.

I recently taught a lad who had a shortened name. His mates all referred to him as 'Len' (for example).

Come Parents' Evening, I did what I always do when in doubt & went formal: 'Leonard has been working well...'

Mum 'Oh thank GOODNESS for you, Mrs Raven, all the other teachers have called him Len, gosh, we really don't like that, do we Leonard...'

OK, noted! So I scrupulously called him Leonard until one lesson when he begged me to stop '...miss, honestly, it's Len...it's just my mum's got a bit of a thing about it...'.

His friends all promptly fell about; they'd all known him as Len for several years & whenever any of them had been to his house his mum made a point of hissing 'It's Leo-NARD!' at them.

Poor Len was 15. His mum was clearly fighting a losing battle.

Rarastar I can understand you not preferring it, but telling your Dad off does make you sound a bit silly. Surely you realised that Emily would be called Em, Emmy etc? I even know 2 Emilys called Ezza!!

I don't think Jacob/Jake is a good example if you say that the shortened form of his name sounds odd. Jake is millions of times better than Jacob, so that wouldn't be unreasonable at all. But if the real nickname is odd then you need to say something.

I wish other people would just the accept baby names we choose and not always look for alternatives and nicknames!

As soon as we announced our baby's name everyone was like "so what will you shorten it to?" because it's a name that doesn't have any obvious short versions. I mean it's only 2 syllables, is it really so hard to say?!? "What will you call him then?" - er, the name we've chosen!

I don't get it...

My only objection is when it took my DM about 2 years to get my DGD's name correct.

She didn't deliberately shorten or lengthen the name.

Every time someone asked her what the baby's name was she would say a new variation of the correct name.

"No Mum that's not her name. How hard is it to remember Amelia, It's not Amy, Anna, Annaleise, Annie."

It had nothing to do with her age as she is sharp as a tack and never forgets any other name.

My DD can't quite pronounce her baby brothers name. She's only 2.3 so it's in a cute toddler way. My DM thinks it sounds like another name when DD says it (it doesn't) and will call DS the name she thinks DD is saying.

It annoys me no end. It's a totally different bloody name. She is doing it a lot less now after I've repeatedly said "mum, why are you calling him X? That's not even what DD is saying"