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to think this kid is just fat?

170 replies

Daddypigsgusset · 21/08/2014 18:50

Somebody on my Facebook (sorry!) Is currently moaning about the size of kids uniforms.
Her gripe is that for her 11 year old daughter she has had to buy ladies size 18 blouses and skirts. She is putting this down to shops having an unrealistic idea of the size of modern children or some such nonsense. She has a lot of people agreeing with her, full on hunnage included.
Having never met her daughter, I had no idea if she was right or not but found a pic of her on her profile and she is extremely overweight as are both her parents. It's them that have an unrealistic idea of a healthy sized child isn't it, and not m&s?

OP posts:
ThatBloodyWoman · 21/08/2014 20:01

So it becomes a topic we can't talk about for fear of being called fat-shamers.

cheekymonk · 21/08/2014 20:05

I remember I was a size 18 in year 7 and size 20 in year 9. My family always said yes to me, I was allowed pop tarts and micro chips for breakfast if I wanted them. I have battled my weight all my life. Was a size 28 at my biggest, now back to a 20. People said about it to my Mum and Dad I was shamed into dieting for a while then offered a cake again a few days later Confused

Owllady · 21/08/2014 20:06

Sorry, I thought it did have a genetic element
The grandma really must have it, but the whole family do have MLDs
I'm not buying, I just think it's more complex than people think. The daughter lit a day over her baby on the bottom in one of those Phil and Ted buggies and had no idea it was falling on the baby. I told her. She thanks for telling her as she had no idea.
The baby was fine

Owllady · 21/08/2014 20:06

I'm not judging, not buying

AbbieHoffmansAfro · 21/08/2014 20:07

Tally, quite so. Her parents need to help her. This thread is not about help at all. Just about 'point and judge'. That's my issue with it. Not addressing what size the girl is or ought to be or how she came to be that size at all.

Owllady · 21/08/2014 20:08

And day was fag Confused

TheBogQueen · 21/08/2014 20:08

'Full on hunnage' Grin

I've been moaning about how bleeding huge the school
Uniforms are...made for enormous children. Yes M&S I'm looking at you...

AbbieHoffmansAfro · 21/08/2014 20:08

Sorry, I mean I am not addressing...

TheBogQueen · 21/08/2014 20:09

A bit of anonymous judging is therapeutic after a busy day

Tallypet · 21/08/2014 20:10

mintyy how do you evens start that conversation with a friend? If one of my friends DC were that overweight how do I bring it up without alienating that friend? I'm going to assume (rightly or wrongly) that the DP's are overweight too.

I've got a friend who is morbidly obese with a heart condition (genetic and apparently weight too) she's lovely but you can't just tell them.
I don't believe OP is here to bitch. This is a very sensitive subject

Chippednailvarnish · 21/08/2014 20:12

There is no suggestion that the family the OP is referring to have any special needs.

HeySoulSister · 21/08/2014 20:16

How odd, similar has come up on my own fb. There does seem to be the usual uniform angst and then there's this .... No uniform to fit larger kids

HavanaSlife · 21/08/2014 20:17

Well unless they refused to have her weighed at school last year they will already know she is seriously overweight. Do they offer support of any kind to those children found to be over weight?

Tallypet · 21/08/2014 20:18

But Abbie OP says
I had no idea if she was right or not but found a pic of her on her profile and she is extremely overweight as are both her parents. It's them that have an unrealistic idea of a healthy sized child isn't it, and not m&s?
daddy is pointing out exactly what we've said. It's not fat shaming the OP recognises it was the parents' fault. I don't feel OP was judging - just pointing out something very obvious. Fat child - parents blaming everyone else but themselves

Mrsjayy · 21/08/2014 20:19

Yes your friends child is fat and no it isnt the clothes now what did you hope to achieve by bitching about a fat kid ? I

Mintyy · 21/08/2014 20:19

My word, if you get your therapy from being judgey about an overweight 11 year old then you have big problems, imvho.

maddening · 21/08/2014 20:19

Is she size 18 and tall?

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/08/2014 20:20

God that poor child. I hope there is some kind of intervention going on and that the mum really isn't as delusional as the face book post makes her appear.

RabbitOfNegativeEuphoria · 21/08/2014 20:22

Hmm. My 11 year old will be wearing 'school uniform' (it's not the official uniform because that's all too big) sized allegedly for 9 year olds when she starts in y7 in September. She is not the smallest child in her year group. Sizes have got bigger, just as they have in adults clothing.

TheBogQueen · 21/08/2014 20:27

It's not judging the kid it's judging the 'aw never mind response'

gordyslovesheep · 21/08/2014 20:28

yes the child is fat - but posting and gossiping about it here wont change that will it - you already know she's fat ...why post?

Andallmyhopeisgone · 21/08/2014 20:32

I'm with Mardy and mrsjayy on this. Obviously she's overweight and you know yanbu, so why ask? To cause "outrage" and bitching?
Do you write for the Daily Fail OP?

Marmiteandjamislush · 21/08/2014 20:32

I call Journo, there are loads of articles about + size uniforms in the rags at the mo.

WaltJesseMikeGus · 21/08/2014 20:32

It's reasonable to expect uniform suppliers to stock sizes to fit the kids that actually exist, not just the kids people would like to exist. Unless this girl is way, way out of the norm, her size should be supplied

No it would only supplied if there was demand.

Size 18 for an 11 year old is not the norm. I don't believe in fat shaming but to be this size at such a young age is terrible. How will she be at 21?

On MN it's never ok to say anything that might be remotely negative about weight. People are in denial.

Gruntfuttock · 21/08/2014 20:33

InculKate Thu 21-Aug-14 18:54:31

I astonished that you don't consider an 11yr child who is size 18 to be "way, way out of the norm" and that you believe that "her size should be supplied." There's no way it would make commercial sense to manufacture school uniforms up to size 18. In fact if you believe that, at what size would you stop?