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..to think its ok to put clothes back in wardrobe after wearing?!

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tinklykeys · 20/08/2014 20:48

Ok so it's my first AIBU and I'm scared, so be nice. I'm just intrigued to know others thoughts are on this...

My DH is a very naturally clean, neat, organised person. I'm not, but I've worked at it since we got married 12 years ago and things are in a reasonable state now..

So, the crux of the problem. DH believes that once clothes have been worn, they can't be returned to the wardrobe/chest of drawers until they've been washed, as they might contaminate the clean clothes in there. I've gone along with this as he did the laundry when we first got married and both worked. Now I do mine and the DCs as I'm a SAHM I've been thinking about it more and it bugs me because...

  1. There are some clothes that don't need washing immediately, such as jeans, woollies, maybe a t-shirt. I can't put these clothes away at the end of the day so they end up in a pile on the sofa, or on the floor, or over a chair.

  2. I end up wearing the same clothes (especially jeans) as I'd rather wear something that is already out than pull out something else.

So, AIBU to think it would be ok to put clothes that have been worn but are not visibly dirty, back in the cupboard at the end of the day? What does everyone else do??

Sorry if it makes no sense..

OP posts:
Abra1d · 22/08/2014 14:41

I drive dh mad by hanging clothes I've worn once outside the wardrobe

I do that too, edam.

Fullpleatherjacket · 22/08/2014 14:46

I never return 'worn but OK for another airing' stuff to the clean stash.

It is stored on the floordrobe until required.

RosePresser · 22/08/2014 14:47

paranoid about moths now

CointreauVersial · 22/08/2014 15:22

Ahh, the floordrobe....I though only teenagers were allowed those. Wink Grin

PoirotsMoustache · 22/08/2014 15:34

Great, after reading this thread I looked up clothes moths. I am now freaking out about eggs and larvae on my clothes. I need to go and wash everything this evening Sad

RosePresser · 22/08/2014 16:02

Poirot I don't dare google!

LightastheBreeze · 22/08/2014 16:06

i keep all my woollens in the same cupboard/drawer and use these, they are quite widely available in supermarkets, wilko, etc and I haven't had any more holes.

www.zensect.net/products.php?product=MothProofer

unlucky83 · 22/08/2014 17:40

For all you worried about moths - you need to worry about carpet beetles too...they are probably even harder to get rid and harder to spot (unless you find the primary source)....and they will eat anything too.
It was carpet beetles that wrecked my (v. expensive) wool/cashmere mix coat...
If you see little beetles - kind of speckled, like ladybirds but smaller -on your window ledges etc you have a problem - they are not a poor insect that has strayed inside trying to get out - they have come from inside...(the first one did come from outside though -they come in to lay their eggs - or on cut flowers or on your line dried washing)
Just the odd one will make tiny holes in usually dark things...cotton, wool etc - but they will eat anything...you have been warned!

..to think its ok to put clothes back in wardrobe after wearing?!
..to think its ok to put clothes back in wardrobe after wearing?!
KristinaM · 22/08/2014 17:47

Are you safe if you have no carpets ?

icanmakeyouicecream · 22/08/2014 17:48

I won't say you are being unreasonable as you should do what works for you but I do wash everything after first wear.

unlucky83 · 22/08/2014 18:19

Kristina - no - the little feckers eat anything (my coat!) ...do a google....and the larvae are almost indestructible...
Warning - live 'animal' experiment data...
I was testing ways of killing/deterring them - cedar oil, lavender oil etc - found they would crawl up to but not over lavender and cedar oil - until the oil was dry and then it might as well not been there Sad - didn't find anything natural - salt, bicarb etc that would work -
Anyhow I had two larvae in a sealed plastic box for doing my research ...forgot about them - remembered them a few MONTHS later - they were still alive Shock - no food/no water...months...
I did put one in a sock for 20mins in the tumble drier - it didn't survive...so now before I vac bag things I give them a 20 min tumble (But not sure if that kills the eggs)

I have almost won the war - but do see the odd larvae and beetle - but I am looking ...

Metalgoddess · 22/08/2014 18:50

Yanbu. I wash underwear, socks and tshirts/tops etc after one wash but cardigans, jeans, trousers, skirts etc can do 2/3 wears and I put them back in the wardrobe! ! I always wonder why people seem to constantly be washing clothes!

Postchildrenpregranny · 22/08/2014 19:01

I am 64 and have never had moths in my wardrobes.... . Obviously underwear, socks and DH shirts (men sweat)get washed after one wear , but I will wear a blouse/top/T shirt/ dress again , especially as I often change during the day if going out after 'pottering around' and sometimes wear things for only a few hours ( I hate ironing which may be a factor...). I wouldn't dream of washing trousers/jeans etc unless dirty .
When at work I wore (expensive,dry clean )suits and would let them 'air' hanging outside on the wardrobe door handle and wouldn't wear the same one two days running. You can get sheets to put in your tumbler dryer to freshen-up dry- clean only clothes, incidentally .Would spot clean and dry clean only infrequently .
I do have 'system' in that I hang 'could wear again' tops bottom right of my wardobe -I have awful lot of tops,' a lifetime accumulation, and I love clothes. I couldn't bare the mess of clothes everywhere.
I run my( admittedly large drum) washing machine only twice a week. Once for clothes, once for sheets and towels (they are only two of us at home ) I've never bothered to separate whites and coloureds either...

Sallystyle · 22/08/2014 19:05

Clothes only get washed when they smell or dirty.

They will go back in the wardrobe or on the floor

avidlounger · 22/08/2014 19:13

What about a clothes horse? (Or Step ladder, chair, etc) then the worn once clothes have a separate home from clean but can still be used. I wear certain clothes (jeans, coats not any tops) again but wouldn't put them in the wardrobe with my clean clothes only for hygiene and not wanting clothes to smell. However I am a highly fragrant person even with deodorant, perfume, strong fabric conditioner etc so my clothes would hum. Gross as that is, sorry

ShouldHaveStayedHome · 22/08/2014 20:58

I completely agree with SloeGinFizz (the first post at least, I haven't got time to read the entire thread!).

Clothes not dirty go back in my wardrobe hanging space, but only on the right-hand side...

Pipbin · 22/08/2014 21:27

Are you safe if you have no carpets ?

Well you won't get carpet eating moths!

elliebound1975 · 22/08/2014 22:20

I put mine on a chair at the bottom of the bed. I would never put them in with the clean clothes once I've worn them. I wear jeans for at least two days

Pollywallywinkles · 22/08/2014 22:28

I'm another one who has never had moths eat my clothes in half a century. I put worn clothes back in the wardrobe. They may have been worn but they are not dirty or smelly.

Wondering what everyone does with their coats and jackets; are they all washed after one wearing or just left on the floordrobe. Perhaps there is a coat cupboard full of filthy outer garments being munched by moths.

Taking into account threads about washing bedding and how infrequently it's done by a lot of people, yet clothes are washed after a single wearing and there is a fear of moths. Doesn't make sense to me. I wonder if water meters were made compulsory, would some of these strange washing habits change?

snottagecheese · 22/08/2014 22:54

Crikey, I've only read the first and last pages of this thread but you lot are washing-mad Grin. Obviously knickers and socks/tights are one-wear only, but everything else gets washed only when dirty or has been worn two or three (or even more) times. I have 2 kids and have to wash virtually all their stuff after one wear (and de-stain much of it with Vanish) because of dinner/mud/felt-tip/general muck, so if I washed all of my own (and DH's clothes) after every wear I would spend my ENTIRE LIFE washing.

I'm of the old-school when it comes to washing/cleaning generally, though. I think people are a bit obsessed with uber-cleanliness these days (and I'm in my 30s, BTW), and I really don't think it's necessary. We don't have to be squeaky clean all the time, and a bit of food dropped on the floor and then eaten is not going to kill you. There's a reason allergies and certain bugs are so much more widespread in recent times - our immune systems are rubbish because we're not used to germs.

unlucky83 · 22/08/2014 23:33

I don't wash my clothes after every wear ...I actually wear the same thing every day until it is dirty (apart from underwear!)
But I wouldn't be comfortable putting dirty clothes back with clean because I have had moths AND carpet beetles....and I know they like worn clothes - ones that we can't smell but they can - and I don't want to do anything to encourage them into an area where there are clothes/textiles that may not be worn frequently ....where they can feast to their hearts content and increase in numbers - (although now all our clothes that aren't worn regularly are actually in vac bags or ziplock freezer bags for things like 'summer socks'.)
Coats in general use are hung up downstairs (or vac bagged) Winter hats and gloves are in freezer bags during the summer...
And although far from manically clean I do actually vacuum everywhere at least once a week etc ...and always have...I don't live in a hospital or a hovel...
My problem was undisturbed textiles - gave them both the opportunity to breed and spread before I knew I had a problem - like the bag of clothes waiting for the charity shop but I had countless bedding sets, towels etc as well as a bin bag of interesting bits of material (all clean) I had saved with the intention of making a rag rug...(I still have lots of material but it is vac bagged now)
I think until you have a problem - or realise you have a problem - it is easy to be complacent - once you have or have had one and realise just how much hassle and how impossible it is to deal with you become more sensitive...
I have cried more than once about the carpet beetles - I washed and ironed every item of clothing/bedding etc etc we all owned ...it took literally weeks - I steamed all the carpets etc, hoovered scrubbed out all the cupboards and drawers - went through every inch of the house - attic etc as well and then I would do something like unroll a (synthetic!!) carpet off cut that had been in the attic and find 20 carpet beetle larvae in the middle...

I am constantly checking for moths and carpet beetles ...and I do still see the odd one ...and this is 7 years after first discovering them..
I think short of burning the house and contents to the ground there is nothing more I can do...
Sorry if I am coming across as hysterical ...I really wish I had known to keep an eye out for (especially) carpet beetles etc all those years ago...Sad

KristinaM · 23/08/2014 02:36

Thanks for all the information and the warning , unlucky

I would be hysterical too, it's sounds awful Sad

maddy68 · 23/08/2014 10:48

I'm with your dh. Why would you put dirty clothes back in the wardrobe? I only wear things once then wash (with the exception of jeans and suit trousers which I wear a couple of times )

DomesticSlobbess · 23/08/2014 10:56

I wash everything after one wear, except for bras which get two wears only because I desperately need more bras. DS clothes also get washed after one wear. He's 3 and puts his clothes in the washing basket himself.

DP thinks hoodies, jumpers and jeans can get AT LEAST 3 or 4 wears. So I only wash his tshirts after one wear. He puts his worn stuff back in his wardrobe with the clean clothes. We've never had moths Confused

limitedperiodonly · 23/08/2014 16:07

Once more the MN Cleanliness Olympics amazes me. I'm a slut. But a moth-free slut.

I've asked DH. People may be tempted to sneer: 'why are you asking the menz?'

Normally I wouldn't, except that DH is a clothing retailer. Moths are the only things on earth that truly terrify him. What he couldn't tell you about them and those carpet beetles that unlucky83 mentioned isn't worth knowing.

He can also identify a male from a female moth by their flight patterns. Males flutter while females fly strongly. Or is the other way around? Apparently this is really important and he will leap up clapping wildly if he spots a flutterer. I really should pay more attention but flutterers are bad news.

So he says having your washing machine going 24 hours a day and practicing dirty/clean clothes apartheid might make you happy, but it won't help with moths.

Your biggest enemy is dust. Dust - skin particles - is what causes the majority of infestations. He's a demon hooverer, with all the attachments in all the corners and a wiper-downer with a wet cloth. Couple of times of week in the bedroom. Every day in his shop.

Most people don't do that and I understand that, I don't do it either. But it's his livelihood so he does. He also twitches at my habit of stuffing tissues in my pockets and under the pillow. I have a runny nose. He understands that. However, moths and other pests love cellulose.

So using your hoover, moving your clothes regularly and storing them in plastic bags with moth proofers will.

Zensect is good. They are orange balls that turn white as they lose their potency. But DH recently told me with horror that they might be discontinuing them because of some footling cancer risk.

We have lots of cashmere and fur.

Consequently we have a huge stockpile of Zensect which only turn when you open the packets. We're like an episode of National Geographic's Doomsday Preppers: Clothes Moth Armageddon.

People also leave stuff hanging or folded, tightly packed together, for ages. Wear stuff regularly or agitate it if not. Obviously, if you're washing things all the time, that solves that problem.

We put unwashed outer garments back in the wardrobe. And knitwear that's had a light wear gets aired and put back in drawers in plastic bags. Especially the big heavy cashmere stuff.

He'll wash cashmere on the hand setting in the machine and it works - before then I always thought machines were death to knitwear. No, it's not.

Finally, dry-cleaning is bad. Don't do it if you want your clothes to last.

Sorry, that's long.