To think that some people genuinely do live a charmed life?

[lallywag]

I know a couple of women that do genuinely seem to lead a charmed life. I know everyone has their own issues and problems, but they don't seem to have the obstacles that many others have, and do just seem to sail through life with constant good fortune.

I know that some people say that there is no such thing as a charmed life but I do think that some people have it easier than others.

Oh and am I the only one who wants to know who HamptonCourt was/is? Minor z list celeb would still have been on my radar!

I agree with so many on here, completely get what the OP says. I've had some terrible life events, parents died young, best friend died young, marriage on rocks, debt health worries, etc (sounds even worse writing it down!) Sometimes I can see that I made the wrong decisions, I can look back and think oh yes that was a "sliding door" moment, but also I can see that I made the wrong decisions because I had such a bad start in life - it meant I had no confidence, for example low self esteem led to bad choices with men.

I've always had a bit of a poor attitude and that doesn't help, sometimes I catch myself on it. I have many friends who have had very little by the way of adversity in their lives and I do think they find it easier to foster a positive attitude as a result. I even have some friends who think they are great people because they have a positive attitude, developed mostly due to them having money, supportive family, good health etc. They're not such good friends!!

I too have a charmed life. I was born in the UK -one of the world's richest nations, have had free first class health care whenever I have needed it and had access to education up to the age of 22 and have been able to access the job market despite being a woman (not true in m any countries).

I mentioned that the worst thing that had happened to me in a long time my expensive phone being stolen. Turned out I'd left it under a pile of paper on my desk. So not intending to be flippant my life has not been terribly hard.

It's my belief that everyone has, or will have, a 'why me' at some point in their lives. Some people may in fact have more than one. My personal 'why me's relate to health - physical and mental. Other people's may relate to money, fertility, their career.... but I can't belive there are people who don't ever have one at all.

Phaedra that made me laugh!

I've had a pretty charmed life so far. Yes I've worked hard but I have no illusions - where I am today is maybe 5% down to hard work but 95% down to advantages I was born with or luck along the way.

Like Eauneau I do live in fear of it all going horribly wrong. I am conscious I haven't yet hit the age when divorce and illnesses often happen, so there's plenty of time for something bad to happen. Oddly I am a very cautious person, always planning for the worst, despite things generally having turned out well.

I also got pregnant literally the only time I didn't use contraception.

Phaedra I'm not sure if I'd count that as lucky or not!

There isn't always anything 'bad' underneath.

I have been lucky enough to live a 'charmed' life.

I didn't do anything to deserve this, but neither have I done anything that means I don't deserve it.

minipie oh it was. I was 30 and the end result is now 24 !. I'm convinced we'd never have planned for me to get pregnant but when it happened it was wonderful.

Phaedralismyname- yoyr post cheered me up on one of those days when I felt sorry for myself because you actually acknowledged some of the things that may help (not exclusively but help) some to live a more charmed life than others. You mentioned two things that are never ever acknowledged by people on those groups. Thank you, still smiling at your honesty and I have no doubt that you are a pretty nice person and that is irrespective of the priveleges you mentioned.