AIBU to request my OH just shuts the f**k up during my programmes?!

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I swear he's driving me bonkers with this... I don't watch much on tv. Its usually taken over by cbeebies (by 2 yr old ds), by crap films on netflix (by 13 yr old dss) or boxing/motor racing on sports channels, storage hunters, sin city motors and various othrt mind-numbing mens sh*t (by OH). So I have to catch up on the few programmes I like on catch-up tv in between everyone else...

I don't ask for much, I'd just actually like to WATCH and HEAR these programmes when I get the rare bloody opportunity to have the privilege of watching tv. But will OH let me without rattling on and ON and OOOON all the way through EVERY GOD DAMN PROGRAMME about total bllcks that I could not give a flamin' frig about - NO he bleedin' well won't.

So this evening after settling down to a crime documentary I was interested to watch, OH decides he's going to yap on and laugh constantly about a police detective looking like Gary Linekars even uglier brother... So I snapped and told him to just shut the f**k up and just let me watch one bloody programme without this inane shit for once!

He did shut up... he flounced off upstairs and I haven't seen him since lol. I don't feel guilty though. I dont do it through his programmes. And I know it was harsh, but Christ almighty, put a sock in it man! I've asked him politely on many previous occasions but he just keeps doing it.

AIBU?

No you're really not. arrrg!

Yanbu, I actually go through similar with my dh/dc nobody wants to talk to me until my programme comes on.

Storage hunters is good though so yabu about that.

Sounds like a result to me.
The other thing to try might be to disrupt programmes he's watching in exactly the same way he does yours - until the penny drops.

Yanbu. Dh watches much more telly than I do, drives me nuts when he wants conversation during the ad breaks when I'm immersed in a book/typing a repy on MN...

Or...whenever he opens his trap, stop the programme, turn and face him and nod until he has quite finished, say 'that's wonderful, insightful, amazing and informative, thanks', turn around and press play and carry on watching. Every time.

Let him sulk and don't try to make up when you go to bed.

He thinks you're there to speak to when it suits him.

Sleep well.

But this is why I snapped tonight and just got to the point very abruptly and very firmly, because I've tried doing the same during his programmes, and when he asks me to shut up I'll reply with "its annoying isn't it?!"... or during ad breaks I've asked him to "get it all out now so I can at least watch the last half"... or I've paused my programme and told him I'll begin again once he's finished showing me yet another one of his friends stupid videos on Facebook / youtube (usually involving a juvenile song about poo / cocks / tits)

Ps. I did like storage hunters but now we have literally watched them ALL and we are now watching bloody repeats! Which he laughs at his dad for doing, but seems totally oblivious he us doing the same!

So this evening after settling down to a crime documentary I was interested to watch, OH decides he's going to yap on and laugh constantly about a police detective looking like Gary Linekars even uglier brother..

I'm sorry but this sentence actually made me laugh out loud!

no you're not. I only want to listen to the Archers for 15 mins every evening at 7.
Every bloody evening DH comes home at about 7.05 and tells me all about his day as if I am interested.....

BigbyWolf - it's funny at first, but believe me, after 5 yrs of listening to this childish crap through most programmes it starts to wear thin... VERY thin!

I wouldn't mind as much if it was even reasonably intelligent conversation, but he works in the construction industry... all children blokes together, boundaries non-existent, then comes homes still in that juvenile hyped-up frame of mind ruining MY tv time! ARRGH!

No yanbu! DP maintains he hates Hollyoaks but sits all the way through it commenting on stories and asking what is happening if he has missed an episode. Go away if you don't like my trashy soap half hour.

I do this I just read your post out loud to him (he's not watching TV right now) and he sympathises with you. Said I've come very close to getting the same treatment in the past! Not helpful, but as someone on the other side I think YANBU. I try so hard to keep my mouth shut, but as soon as something pops into my head I want to share it with him!

By him I mean DH, just in case that wasn't clear!

I've paused my programme and told him I'll begin again once he's finished showing me yet another one of his friends stupid videos on Facebook/youtube (usually involving a juvenile song about poo/cocks/tits)

Are you kidding me?! How have you not killed him yet?

Downstairs!!! Please go straight to the hollyoaks thread and answer my question. I can't go to bed until I know the answer. I may have more questions after you answer it though.
OP - YANBU at all.

mine does this he also pisses with his phone then asks me what happened what did i miss so i explain and then miss the end! ive started saying i dont know a lot

DownstairsMixUp - I totally know what you mean. He moans on about how 'laughable' and 'unrealistic' my soaps are, yet he knows all the characters names, has opinions on the storylines, reads up on the soap goss in newspapers and excitedly blurts out shock story lines, and yesterday said "we've watched this episode already" and proceeded to tell me what happens... but I genuinely hadn't watched it yet, so when the hell did he watch it?? Clearly when I wasn't there. So he must be a closet soap-watcher behind my back

Believeintheshield - your poor DH I have every sympathy for him lol

Believeintheshield Oh good. I'm not the only one.

Sometimes just staring at a TV screen makes them look like they want to just hear whatever pops into your brain. It's like they're silently yearning for a one sided conversation. I can't explain it.

To be fair, I talk during my own TV shows too.

I can't watch/hear the evening news. Imagine Victor Meldew on speed......that is what I have. He takes offence at virtually every news report, but no matter how many times he shouts at them, they still keep reporting inaccurately/biased.

You are not being unreasonable! I feel so strongly about this I wrote the whole thing out. On my phone. DP occasionally tried to guilt trip me, saying I must think the TV is more important than him, FFS. Comedies are a nightmare. He can't just laugh at a joke, he has to laugh long and hard, say "that was sooooo funny", and then repeat it to himself, chuckling. Therefore missing the next four jokes and asking me to repeat them if I'm lucky enough to have heard them.

Is this a grown man you're describing? What attracts you to him?

YANBU. My DH gets it now (years of training), but when MIL comes over, they natter away about the programme. Was especially annoying during the World Cup when I was trying to watch some 'normal' TV before the football.

Yanbu.

My husband is the same. Fair enough if he's not interested in the programme but I am and want to watch it. By the end of the evening my head is spinning and all I want is an hour, a bloody hour to watch some TV without anyone talking, not too much to ask is it. I now just tell him to stfu. He has learnt now bless him.

Yanbu, I've managed to train everyone in the house that when I'm watching TV they're not allowed in that room apart from the pets because they don't rustle packets or talk complete shit dh gets his head taken off when he breaks the rule , is bliss