AIBU to request my OH just shuts the f**k up during my programmes?!

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I swear he's driving me bonkers with this... I don't watch much on tv. Its usually taken over by cbeebies (by 2 yr old ds), by crap films on netflix (by 13 yr old dss) or boxing/motor racing on sports channels, storage hunters, sin city motors and various othrt mind-numbing mens sh*t (by OH). So I have to catch up on the few programmes I like on catch-up tv in between everyone else...

I don't ask for much, I'd just actually like to WATCH and HEAR these programmes when I get the rare bloody opportunity to have the privilege of watching tv. But will OH let me without rattling on and ON and OOOON all the way through EVERY GOD DAMN PROGRAMME about total bllcks that I could not give a flamin' frig about - NO he bleedin' well won't.

So this evening after settling down to a crime documentary I was interested to watch, OH decides he's going to yap on and laugh constantly about a police detective looking like Gary Linekars even uglier brother... So I snapped and told him to just shut the f**k up and just let me watch one bloody programme without this inane shit for once!

He did shut up... he flounced off upstairs and I haven't seen him since lol. I don't feel guilty though. I dont do it through his programmes. And I know it was harsh, but Christ almighty, put a sock in it man! I've asked him politely on many previous occasions but he just keeps doing it.

AIBU?

Runawaysimba - thats another thing he does too! Im a big comedy fan, love a good chuckle after a long day. And being the joker that he is, this will be one thing we'll both want to watch and I'll get to see it all the way through for a change.

So he sits and watches them with me, laughs hysterically, then proceeds to tell me what just happened, despite the fact I am right there watching the same damn thing. Sometimes as though he thinks im blind and need audio descript, or that I'm too thick to understand amd need it explaining.

OR he'll be watching you've been framed, which I'm not that fussed about as it just goes on when there's sod all else on, and I'll be doing something else like eating dinner. But if I miss a clip in between directing forkfuls of food into my mouth instead he has to tell me about theclip I just missed... I just wanna scream "I dont give a f**k just let me eat my dinner, its really not that detrimental to me to know each and every you've been bloody framed clip!"

I feel your rage. I'm not allowed to make any sound when DP is watching his stuff, but always finds LOADS to talk about when I'm watching mine.

He says that I just watch rubbish anyway (mosty true) so it doesn't matter

Whether he thinks its rubbish or not is not the pint though. My OH watches a LOT of crap, some really tert

So did he apologise? Or did you spend all night on the sofa watching programmes in sweet, sweet silence?!

*whoops, phone going crazy! Sorry about the above unfinished post. Let me start again....

whether he thinks its rubbish or not is not the point though. My OH watches a LOT of crap, some really terrible channel 5 films, but if its got fight scenes; fit girls, fast cars or toilet humour in it I have to sit through it. I keep my trap shut and don't ruin it for him. I play on my laptop or phone instead. But he then says he only watched it cos I was too busy on my phone! Can't win...

No neither of us apologised. He went to bed. I watched what I wanted all night until midnight! Was great. He was snoring when I went up to bed (not only can I not watch tv, but I also can't sleep without him interupting me lol) so I got in the spare bed. He went off to work at 5am so we haven't spoken since. I refuse to apologise though. Im getting really cheesed off with it. Its al very silly and trivial, it is only tv after all. But its the lack of equality that pisses me off - its like he thinks he deserves it more than me.

I'm with you on the mens crap tv. You say storage hunters I can up with my DH that by endless episodes of man vs food, followed by random us real life cop chases. Drives me nuts. And he channels flicks constantly so I am just getting into the crap channel 5 film when he flicks the channel over .

Fortunately he is early to bed for his work so I get to watch my programmes after he has gone to bed but most are 2 hours long so lots of late nights for me.

Oh no you can't hold Man V. Food against him Liquid, Adam Richman is delicious That man know how to eat!

But yes, death to all TV chatters. My DH drives me insane, he has hearing difficulties in one ear so he constantly says "What was that? What did he say? Can you turn the telly up? I didn't catch that last bit" So I tell him hat happened as quickly as a can, and obligingly turn it up... within moments he's asleep. Infuriating!

YANBU. My FIL does this and it's just to humiliate me into never expressing a preference for what we watch on telly so he can watch everything he wants all the time. Even does it with my kids when they're watching their programmes. It's worked great with MIL and DH over the years and I've given in too now as he's irritated me into submission.

Good on you!

Does ant

Just another voice saying 'I feel your pain'
You need to have a looooong chat about your relationship... Preferably during something he's been looking forward to watching!
DH will quite often be in the same room as me, I'll be watching csi or something, you know where you actually have to listen to the plot. He'll be playing on his phone and suddenly go 'OMG' - so I pause the show, and ask 'what?' Then............... Silence. For ages. While he's reading whatever stunning piece of news. I get bored of waiting so I go to start the programme again and suddenly he's Mr Chattypants.

I've made one of the upstairs bedrooms into a man cave. His friends think he's really lucky but actually I just wanted the peace!

Oops. Does anyone else's DH 'commentate' to themselves while watching TV/playing XBox games etc.? I'll be on the sofa reading a book constantly being disrupted by DH talking all the way through, to himself Drives me mad. I go upstairs to read now but that makes me unsociable... At least I've managed to stop him doing it in the cinema!

My dp talks through tv programmes and shuts up when the adverts are on

This is why I never want to live with a man again.

Bloody youtube videos. Inane, stupid shit that I simply have to drop everything and pay attention to right now or there will be huffing.

I don't care. I cannot emphasise how little I care about seeing the fucking random movie trailer right at this very second every damn time.

It should be fucking obvious, from the fact that I am right damn in the middle of doing something, that I am fucking BUSY right now, thanks.

Does my fucking head in (that may be apparent).

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

YA definitely NU! I feel your pain too.

I was trying to watch Who Do You Think You Are? last night.

Yap yap yap yap yap. All utter bollocks.

I pause the TV until he shuts up now, it was quite effective last night actually as there was something he wanted to watch straight after WDYTYA? He missed the first 15 minutes

Same here ...just glad that he now works early shift so goes to bed early!
He also watches stuff in the afternoon on his computer/the tv and insists I watch it - eg. I have no interest in football - but he will want to show the 10 greatest goals of all time etc [yawn]
But the most annoying thing he does is watch tv while I'm talking to him - I'll start talking to him and he'll turn it on! or I'll say have you got a minute and he'll say yes and then carrying on looking at the TV while I'm talking. He insists he is listening - will repeat back what I said word for word - but with no understanding. He is hearing but not listening. And it is rude.
I rarely get to watch TV in the day but have tried doing the same to him - he thinks it is funny because I'm just trying to prove a point
I work from home (PT) and will be in my office eg writing an email and he will start telling me all about something that happened at work (not really important and definitely not something that needs instant attention) - if I try and say I can do two things at once - read something and listen to him - he doesn't believe me - it drives him insane - but can't see that is exactly what he is doing to me...

My OH yapped constantly through tv programmes so I watch everything on i-player and just paused it until he stopped. He's not so bad now as we had a row and we're not talking but it was infuriating saying STFU I want to hear the PROGRAMME not your voice!

Omg... yes man v. food is another one.
What gets me is his dad is exactly the same. We lived with them for a few months and he constantly whinged about his dads control over the tv, the constant commentary, the never ending repeats, the ruining of the occasional programme he got to watch. But is completely tunnel visioned and fails to see he is exactly the same with me.

It must be genetic as my dss is also just as bad. But because he watches his kids films etc this doesn't interest OH, so he tells dss off because its irritating... errr hellooo!

Oh and I'm reading and he's watching football. I get a huge nudge in my ribs to "watch this, watch Ronaldo, fantastic goal... " and I'm thinking "which one is Ronaldo?"

IF I were interested, I would be watching.

Feel free to substitute Ronaldo for any other player on the pitch. I wouldn't know the difference. :)

I hate this.

But what drives me even more mad is that if I pause the programme to listen to what DP is saying, he gets in a huff about it

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Sometimes I'm very happy that he's working 4 evenings out of 10...

nlucky83 - yep he does that too. I start to talk to him about something vaguely important, such as our finances, his business, our ds etc. And midway he'll be messing with his phone and start laughing because his mates posted him a silly video link, for example tjis video had to interupt our adult conversation a couple of days ago...

I was not amused.

And he too can repeat every word that I've said, but he hasn't actually listened. Becausr several days later the subject will arise again and he will be oblivious, and yet again I find myself saying "we've already discussed this!"

joanbaker my dh is exactly the same, it drives me round the bloody bend. I get a running commentary whatever is on the tele, but football is the worst. All the time it's " look at where the ball is in relation to the other player " etc i don't give a toss but he still does it. But on the other hand if he was watching something I just let him watch it in peace and would hate it if I did the same thing.and no after years of damn footi I still don't get the offside rule , nor do I need to know !

YANBU,my DH always does it.

He dismisses my programmes with 'What are you watching this for'?

GRRRR!

My DH talks during programmes he's interested in but if I talk he'll make a big fuss & even rewind over that part to watch again if it's on DVD or iPlayer "because he only talks in the unimportant bits"