Disgusted with DP's attitude re using a disabled sticker.

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Ok so we have been given my DP's recently sadly deceased grandmothers car. With this came a disabled sticker - the kind you hang from the rear vision mirror. Valid for another 2 years.

He pointed it out and said mentioned there's no need to pay/wait for parking just use this. I thought he was joking but still replied that no I wouldn't be. Cue tonight's phone call (he's only home 9 days a month but we talk everynight) where he again asked if I had and then why not? He would be.

It led to disagreement and eventually me stating that I was disgusted with his sense of importance that he would take a space someone else would really need. I ended the phone call because I just couldn't get past it.

He thinks anyone else would, and I vehemently think otherwise. It'll cause a row if he tries to do it with me and ds in the car as I won't be party to it. We're in oz so it's not policed in private car parks as far as I know but that's not the point. How to I get him to see reason?

You take the notice out and put it in the bin

Send it back?

Send it back.

Return it to whoever issued it, end of story. Then it can't be used. Certainly in the UK if you get caught using one you'll be in trouble.

This is for you and him to sort out.

You need to send the badge back to the Local Authority. It can be a criminal offence to misuse a blue badge.

It doesn't need to be an issue if you just send it back.

Cleo

Well I wouldn't use it, so not "anyone else" then.

My mum has a disabled badge and if I was you I would send it back and have done with it. His attitude is disgusting, yes.

It needs sending back ASAP. People that misuse badges make my blood boil.

I would send it back too.

Ok I didn't know I could send it back but will have a proper look at it. The issue is he will notice it missing, he will treat the car like a shrine (they were extremely close). Do I just remove and face the row or try to reason with him.

Also I know it's between us but wanted to vent/see if there's another approach.

Most people wouldn't. As others have said, send it back. Tell him he's being an entitled arse and he can go to the office and explain why he wants it back if that's a problem!

If he was close to his grandmother he should honour her memory by not misusing her property. She left him the car, not her disabled badge. Wouldn't she have been shocked and disgusted at people misusing a disabled parking badge?

He's right. Loads of people mis use their relatives blue badges.
Doesn't make it right though, obviously.

Ok thanks all I will just send it back. I

I did mention that his nan would be horrified if he did but he just went on about 'what would I know'

She was a kind and very generous woman who volunteered and regularly had homeless people over for dinner. So I don't doubt what her opinion would be.

Thanks again.

Yanbu.

Send it back.

How would he have felt if his grandmother had missed out on a space she needed because someone else mis used the badge?

Are you a UK poster ? UK badges don't hand from the rear view.

In any case, as someone who's wife uses a wheelchair, and already have enough problems getting around (there's a reason disable spaces are wider, and that's to allow a wheelchair alongside the car) with cars which dont' have a blue badge, I would humbly suggest your DP is a .

Quite a few car parks near us now charge all cars for parking, blue badge or not. As soon as they started doing it, all the disabled bays are free now.

The old saying used to be "you can have my parking space, if you have my disability".

Disabled parking badges belong to the person, not the car...it's the same as using someone else's driving licence. (Well ok not quite, but you know what I mean).

They don't go with the car, they're for individuals.

Glad you are sending it back not only is it wrong your partner can get fined if he is caught using it you can hand it in with q letter saying the recipient has died.

Surely it's only valid for the person it belonged to?

Surely you can't use someone elses anyway?

As soon as she died, didn't it become invalid?

I 'inherited' my dad's blue badge when he died and not once did it cross my mind to use it. I called our local authority who said I should destroy it which I did.

Taking an access space from people who need it is despicable. What if someone like him had prevented us gran parking so she could get to the shops. I bet he'd have had something to say about them.

Yeah it is for the person only

I think it is true that some relatives misuse blue badges - my gran certainly used my granddad's when she wasn't with him and she is otherwise very upstanding (very odd, out of character, lapse in morals for her tbh). That said, I wouldn't do this myself and would send the badge back or bin it.

How can you ever respect a person that thinks this is an ok way to behave? Makes me feel so blessed that my DH is just about the most moral person I know.

Send it back. End of discussion. Say you felt sickened about it, and that's the end of that. He doesn't have a leg to stand on.

An uncle of mine had a blue badgefor me he used to take me to hospital a lo as a teenager t he got miffed when I asked for it back the cheeky fecker said I take you place s im entitled to some free parking