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to think that my 8 year old is not 'young for her age' because she likes Frozen?

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WilburIsSomePig · 11/08/2014 08:23

I think this is ridiculous. An acquaintance popped round to borrow something yesterday and commented thatcDD is 'very young for her age' because she was running around in her frozen dress (made by grandma and DD adores it), singing various songs?

She was actually quite rude about it, saying how her DD's were 'long past' that stage when they were 8. It's not important, I know, but she really pissed me off. I don't think she's too old for it at all and told her so. Cow.

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MadAriadne · 12/08/2014 10:33

Next time your acquaintance pops round to borrow something, lend her some manners.

TattyDevine · 12/08/2014 10:38

I don't think it sounds unusual for 8 though I am no expert.

Nothing wrong with being "young for your age" anyway. I'd like to think I am

Rather see an 8 year old dressing up and singing than twerking and gyrating.

Rather see a 13 year old singing and dancing than giving hand jobs for cash behind the bike sheds. Yes, it does happen, some perspective is needed!

Hulababy · 12/08/2014 15:28

Not sure ghoul. A lot of classes plumped for different alternatives. Dispicable me was one option.
None watched frozen as no time to organise

Thumbwitch · 12/08/2014 15:35

I expect your acquaintance thinks that your DD should be into boys, makeup, tattoos etc, does she? Or wearing "I'm so sexy" t-shirts and bikinis? Possibly even padded bras?

I think dressing up and liking Frozen is perfectly age-appropriate at 8. My 3 nieces, age range 8-nearly 11, all love Frozen and dressing up, although the oldest one is now starting to dress up less. They can all sing all the songs though! But then so can Ds1 and he's 6... he doesn't have a Frozen costume though.

Some people want children to grow up too fast these days.

GooseyLoosey · 12/08/2014 15:36

DD and all her 10 year old mates love it and regularly sing all of the songs, to the point that now DH when pissed off sings "Fuck it all" to the tune of "Let it Go".

bottlecat · 12/08/2014 15:37

Well my 13 year old ds keeps mentioning that he hasn't seen it yet...!

DeWee · 12/08/2014 16:06

Very rude to say that.

But did she actually mean being "into" Frozen, or was it more of perhaps how she was into Frozen?
I'm thinking, my 10yo saw it for the first time this holidays because of her friends talking about it. She loved it and has delighted the wole family with her renditions of the songs continuously. Her way of "being into" it has been to find karaoke versions on youtube to sing along to, and try and work out some of the tunes on her trumpet.
I know from friends on fb that some of the 4-5yos can't be got out of their dresses and are inseperatable from their Anna/Elsa dolls.
And a couple of my friends with 3-4 yos have mentioned that their child has decided to change their name to Anna/Elsa and will only answer to that for weeks, not a brief game.
Now none of mine were ever into dressing up like a character, nor being renamed (except when ds decided he was a dog!) so I don't really have experience of them doing that, but I suppose I would then tend to think that being asked to be called by the name of a movie character was the type of thing you'd expect them to grow out of.

Another thought was one time when dd1 was in year 6 I came to drop something off at school and her form were playing cricket on the field. Far end, so I could see the shapes of the people but not who they were. I stopped to watch and over time I noticed that the form were standing in various cricket formations, but one girl was not standing still at any point. She was skipping on the spot, twirling her arms around, jumping up and down, or lot of other little things and I can't really explain it, but looked much more "little girlie" in the way she was behaving than any of the others. She was still playing cricket as much as any of the others, just the way she was doing it looked much younger than the others.
When they came up the field I realised this was dd1.
Now dd1 is very mature for her age generally, and is generally commented on as "being old before her time", and isn't particularly small either so it was a bit of a surprise really. If someone had said to me that her behaviour was "a bit little girlie" I would have felt quite indignant because she was usually regarded as older than her age. However they would have been right.

(NB: I'm not saying that there was anything wrong in how dd1 was behaving)

MinimalistMommi · 12/08/2014 17:45

My nine year old loves frozen and won't stop sing do you want to build a snowman

insancerre · 12/08/2014 17:54

When we have dress up days at work - I run a nursery - its definitely not because the stafff still love dressing up
absolutely not
:)

londonrach · 12/08/2014 18:01

Just had a patient in who's dgd 10 year old has just had a frozen birthday party for her 10th.

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 12/08/2014 18:02

I want a Sven toy. I'm 42.

I frequently raid the kids dress ups. If we are out somewhere with costumes, I put on hats etc, and I did threaten to buy myself an Anna wig yesterday in the Disney store.

SuedeEffectPochette · 12/08/2014 18:06

I love Frozen. I am in my forties. I hope I am young for my age!

HaplessHousewife · 12/08/2014 18:16

The Disney Store sell the dresses up to an 11-12 and clearly wouldn't if they weren't going to sell lots of them.

They currently have Anna dresses in a 7-8, 9-10 and 11-12 for the lady who was after one. I would size up though, I got my average size 5.5 year old a 7-8 which seems the same size as her 5-6 Rapunzel dress.

whotheduckisalice · 12/08/2014 18:28

How ridiculous. My eighth bday pics have me showing off my new care bears. I also have evidence by way of a date stamp that I still read topsy and tim at this age. I know my 12 yo niece would choose frozen over care bears and t&t! Fwiw my friend has a frozen dress and she is 36.

hmc · 12/08/2014 18:34

I haven't seen Frozen and having read this thread now feel that I am massively missing out! (46)

MissMogwi · 12/08/2014 18:58

I agree some people can't let children be children.

I went to see Frozen with my 10 & 12 year old daughters and we all loved it. My older daughter is into make up, music and (thinks) she is very grown up - she loved it and was singing the songs with her friends for ages.

I'd think someone was really odd if they thought an 8 yr old shouldn't be dressing up and singing.

LadyLuck81 · 12/08/2014 19:10

We'll. I must be incredibly immature as I bloody love it. (LL aged 32 and 11 months) and I was just thinking I'd love an Elsa dress myself.

LL12 · 12/08/2014 19:14

Soverylucky, I love your post and totally agree. My 10 year old is exactly the same.

soverylucky · 12/08/2014 19:22

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zukiecat · 12/08/2014 19:34

DD2 is 21 and I'm 47 and we both love Disney and Frozen,

She has the DVD and the CD and both are played quite often!

DD1 (22 at the time) went to the premiere of The Hobbit dressed as one, and had a blast

Never too old for a bit of magic.

I know someone who removed all her DDs, toys, dolls, games, books, everything, at age three saying she was "too old now for all that"

It was terribly sad, but we were all told to keep our noses out

zukiecat · 12/08/2014 19:37

Oh and I have a small collection of Disney Princess dolls, including Anna and Elsa, and I still like to brush their hair on occasion!

I must be very immature for my age

WyrdByrd · 12/08/2014 19:38

I'm 38, love Frozen & have been playing the soundtrack in my car for the last three weeks - obviously there's no hope for me!

blueemerald · 12/08/2014 19:44

I teach in a secondary school in inner city London for boy with emotional, social and behavioural difficulties. These "rough, tough" boys can't get enough of frozen (and the lion king) and thank goodness because it makes a lovely break from conversations about fucking, bitches, drugs, gangs, knives or guns. Long live Queen Elsa! (The boys also love loom bands!)

victoryinthekitchen · 13/08/2014 13:39

we all (kids and adults) love frozen and have the cd in the car to sing along to on journeys! We've got lots of toys in our playroom that don't get used much, however yesterday my dd and her friends (are who are 10 /11 years) had each got a baby Annabelle out and were dressing it up etc. I thought is was sweet that they still like the imaginative play at times and would no way discourage that.

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