Children weeing in gardens

[GirlWithTheLionHeart]

Not sure how I feel about it, so interested to see what you all think.

Friend came over yesterday with her ds (3yo), we were playing in the garden and he said he needed to go to the toilet. Friend says oh go to the back [of the garden] and wee there.

This happened twice. My toilet is actually closer than the back of the garden, which is quite long.

A couple of friends I've told were

Wsbu?

That's disgusting and bloody lazy.

Emergency out door wees are one thing.

Pissing in someone's garden when there's access to a toilet is something else.

What's the matter? Would friend have to have shifted her butt and helped him use the loo?

Can't think why else she would send him off down the garden.

I think it is completely disgusting. I thought we had evolved from medieval habits

No, it's not an order, it's an opinion, phrased economically.

My best friend has two DS who pee in their own garden, and when out they'll pee in a bush or up a tree. However I wouldn't want them doing it in my garden, I'd request they used the toilet. In fact I think she'd make them use the toilet at someone else's house. I don't have a big garden and I'm quite proud about keeping it nice. I don't really want it smelling of wee nor do I want it potentially killing my grass/plants!

You'd be well within reason to request that everyone uses the toilet.

Mumma you better remind her that if they are seen by the police in public they could be fined or she could be liable, unacceptable if it's an emergency and there are no toilets near. Not to just whip it out and pee anywhere because they are too lazy to wait for the loo.

So it is ok for the bloody dogs to piss and shit anywhere but not for a child??????????? And at night time you stand guard in your garden to prevent the foxes and all the other animals to piss and shit there as well???????
Really???????

For fuck's sake - earth is calling you. Wake up and smell the animal shit - it's called NATURE

This would not bother me from a 3yo tbh.
But. It would be polite to use the loo. And at a friend's home i would have taken my DS to the loo, not used the garden.

Well of your kids are allowed to shot in your garden good for you.

Likewise feel free to build a tunnel for foxes to your toilet.

Otherwise realise that we built and are capable of using toilets so we should.

A park? Oh yes. Happily let them pee al fresco.

3 yr old boy wee is pretty inoffensive and much less bothersome in shrubbery than over my toilet seat. I couldn't care less.

Are you serious, Pizza? . Bet you'd be incandescent to look out your window to see some drunk pissing on your front lawn. Why is it so different that it's a child? A child who's apparently perfectly capable of using the toilet unassisted??

adult male urine is very useful on the compost heap, direct them there. For children, you could say that it is more eco-friendly to find a quiet corner of the garden than to use a flush-worth of water.

only in private though. And only urine!

I shall inform her! I hadn't realised that Aero. Don't think it necessarily because they're lazy (5years and 3years), more for convenience when toilet training as they're very outdoorsy and often in places where there are no toilets. Each to their own I suppose, just not for me.

HalfEaten - no it's not ok (IMO) for dogs not to be cleaned up after... That's down to owners. But do you know anyone that has managed to train a dog to use a toilet? Of course you can't monitor animals, but at the same time you wouldn't encourage it... Think your post was unnecessarily aggressive.

Don't think I know of any little boys that don't do it!!!

However, very rural/isolated here, so lots of space, fields and most importantly no neighbours.

It wouldn't bother me but I would never let my children wee in someone else's garden without checking it was ok.

My dd is a toilet refuser, so I carry a portable potty around with me. On the odd occasion I don't have it she has weed on the grass behind a Bush or a tree but I would always ask if it was ok.

She us getting better and there are certain toilets she will use now. Ds4 was the same, intact for a long time he would only ever use our toilet at home and wouldn't even wee behind a Bush etc but a camping trip away meant he got over his fussiness.

It wouldn't bother me tremendously to be honest. But I would prefer they use the loo.

I get all the reasons why it's desirable to teach little boys to use the loo rather than a garden, but I don't get all these outraged cries of disgust. How do people cope with nappy changes and accidents if they find small children's wee so disgusting?

Both my DSs toilet-trained during summer by peeing in the garden. It enabled them to be nappy-free, without me worrying about wet carpet.

The habit continued, and my 5 year old will pee in the garden (in a hedge) if he's playing and can't be bothered to come in. To be honest I prefer that to him stomping through the house with muddy feet. My 8 year old hasn't done it for a couple of years.

If we were at someone else's house and we were all in the garden and they said they needed a wee, I would direct them to the toilet indoors, unless the host suggested they pee in the garden. If they did a pee in the garden without asking first I would tell them off.

When we're at the park they both pee in a hedge. I can't see the point in all of us collecting all our stuff and going home, or hiking to the nearest public toilet.

I don't see it as a big deal. I think, like public nakedness, it's one of those things they naturally grow out of.

It's a strange thing to do when there's a toilet so close by.

Little kids wee doesn't disgust me as much as adult males wee. So if caught short I'd have no problem with a child weeing in public.

Btw I think the reason that boys get away with it is literally because it's physically easier to wee anyway than for females. I couldn't do it, if tumble over or wee on my shoes. Nothing to do with bring ladylike.

Peeing in the country is fine, peeing in someone's small garden is rank. And unhygienic.

My DSs used to love a bit of al fresco weeing. Dd was most put out that she couldn't join in.

Dsd and dd went through a phase of weeing in bushes whenever we went out. I'm all for it in an emergency, but if there's an alternative in reasonable walking distance I'd insist they use it. In someone's garden, no way.

mumma I don't know about young children, but if they are school age and older. pizza unlike fox and dogs we are evolved to know better and to use the toilet! So that means we should all whip down our pants in the street and defeacate as we please, because it's nature right! Children have to learn good manners and what's acceptable and what's not, peeing in somebodies garden without permission is not on! If I were you op I would have told her that you would prefer she use the toilet.