We've been in our house 12 years, and next door on one side is a single guy in his 60s who has lived there all his life.
He is quite lonely - from conversations had over the years we know he was his mother's carer for 20-odd years then when she died 9 years ago he was at a bit of a loose end.
He rarely sees his family -my OH used to work with his niece and she said they are all very busy etc - typical sad lonely pensioner story. She also suggested that he has what would now be classed as a form of Aspergers, and his family find him a bit "weird".
We try to be friendly and keep an eye out for him but he has no concept of personal space. If we say hello, his eyes light up and we end up talking for up to an hour about literally nothing of note - mashed potato or traffic lights, over and over. We have suggested clubs etc, but he isn't interested.
Our back doors are opposite each other (either side of a fence) so if we open ours, he can see it.
without fail, if we go out to put washing out, whatever, he goes into his garden, and starts a conversation. We can't exactly ignore him, so we now wait till we see he has gone to the shop to go out there. So we, perhaps shamefully, try to avoid him.
Our garden used to be lovely but now is a mess because I won't go out there for any time - I feel like I'm being spied on.
But now I'm starting to feel uneasy about him.
Several years ago, our shed was broken into, so we built a 7ft fence between us and him (also to block him out).
He has built a set of steps so he can see over it for a chat.
His neighbour the other side has a high fence too, but we're on a hill so it's lower our side.
Now my DD is 5, she is old enough to play out there alone, as it's enclosed.
But the other day I heard her speaking to someone - he was talking to her over the fence about school and her baby brother.
She happily chats to him, but I feel it was an inappropriate thing to do.
I don't want to out and out accuse him of being a pervert, and DD knows she mustn't speak to strangers but obviously in her eyes he's not.
He can't get to her at all, and there is absolutely no evidence at all that he is anything other than a lonely old man enjoying the chance for a conversation, but AIBU to just not feel right about this?
And what do I do about it?
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AIBU?
To feel uneasy about a neighbour?
lbsjob87 · 07/08/2014 13:47
I wish you luck op
I think it gets ridiculous at times on here, when people suggest moving house because god forbid a you don't want to talk to to your neighbours all the time and join in the competitive kindness and have him move in because he's lonely and harmless.
You have been a saint for 12 years, been there when no one else has and I don't blame you for wanting your garden back 
There's me thinking that the OP would be horrified by some of her supporters- but no, she thanks them!! 
And defends one posters barrage of rot.
Repetitive, horrid and insulting views. Jaw dropping rudeness at times......again and again and again. Page after page after page.
Then feels attacked and abused herself. Wow.
People have expressed fears about themselves and dcs future with SN, and others have shared sad experiences - only to be mocked and asked 'What's your point?'
Unbelievable.
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