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AIBU?

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text went to wrong person.

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ithoughtofitfirst · 31/07/2014 14:54

Think my heart stopped beating for about 10 seconds when I realised.

How do I mop this one up? Just sent my 19yo BIL a lengthy heartfelt text about my deepest and saddest emotions by mistake. It was meant for my husband. It was so personal. Eurgh.

Aibu to wish I was dead right now?

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CinnamonSwirl31 · 31/07/2014 15:00

You're not being unreasonable, just feeling embarrassed. I would too. It's not enough to die over though. The BIL may have a bit of a snigger about it but only because he's embarrassed too. Who knows, he might even learn something about women

Send another one saying "as you can imagine that was sent to you by mistake. Sorry, please ignore :)" and don't mention it again. Was it really bad / detailed ?

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ithoughtofitfirst · 31/07/2014 15:05

So so so cringe. It was just about how I'm at a particularly low point in my life and how I find it difficult to admit to certain things because its embarrassing. I even said about their mother that I'm happy for her and her achievements but it sometimes it feels like shes kicking me while im down.

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EElisavetaofBelsornia · 31/07/2014 15:15

It's embarrassing because you have shown a private side inadvertently but actually it's nothing shameful. You showed your emotions, and were complimentary about his mum! You will cringe for a while but it will pass over. If it's any consolation, I once sent a soppy message meant for DP to my boss with the same first name - awful for a few days but quite funny now.

Lally112 · 31/07/2014 15:22

You will be fine, I wouldn't worry too much. I once sent the filthiest text ever to my cousin because he and DH have the same first name and his reply was "sounds great Lally but you know that would be incest right??" We've all done daft things like sent a text to the wrong person.

choochootrain1 · 31/07/2014 15:24

to wish you were dead - yes yabu (but I understand)

how to mop it up? A 19yo BIL... I'd probably call and use bribery, I'd strike a deal and make sure it was a good enough deal that he agreed to delete it.

And then that he sent me a screenshot of his text msgs to prove he'd deleted it.

Chanelnumero19 · 31/07/2014 15:30

Have done it myself. an email though....... i once sent my x (then h) an email from work but because I was feeling pissed off with him I put in his real name, not the nick name I'd set up in my address book. all my grievances went to a client.

Chanelnumero19 · 31/07/2014 15:31

i know what you mean about your heart stopping!!! it's a horrible feeling.

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ithoughtofitfirst · 31/07/2014 15:34

Oh Flippin eck imagine if it had been some smut only fit for the bedroom!

That does make me feel a bit better. That and your stories!

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MorphineDreams · 31/07/2014 15:42

Oh dear OP, don't worry though I'm sure your BIL won't even mention it. Have you sent a quick text to let him know it wasn't for him?

If it makes you feel any better, I accidentally sent my dad a rude message once. Luckily he had left his mobile home so I dashed to delete the message. And found messages from another women - he'd been cheating on my mum.

Fox28 · 31/07/2014 15:44

Morphine!

MorphineDreams · 31/07/2014 15:50

It ended up being for the best incidentally, but I nearly dropped through the floor when I read them

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ithoughtofitfirst · 31/07/2014 16:08

Good grief morphine !!!

I don't know what I would have done

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thecatneuterer · 31/07/2014 16:14

I received a text from one of my tenants yesterday. It's was incredibly smutty and intended for, it seems, someone he was planning a unbelievably filthy gay hook-up with I even had to look up some of the terms in the Urban Dictionary. :)

He send a 'sorry please ignore - very embarrassed' text. I'm going to try to wipe it from my brain before I next see him.

Fluffyears · 31/07/2014 18:02

I sent a guy I fancied (who had told me he wasn't interested in getting serious) a text in error. It was meant for my friend saying his much I liked him and wondering what I could do to convince him to give it a to with me.....oh my god I was nearly sick. Still talk to him now but we are strictly friends and I have a long term dp.

Easily done, at least I didn't send my boss the one calling her a fat bitch when she had been rude to me.

Humansatnav · 31/07/2014 18:06

I once sent a rant about my boss to my boss ( in mitigation I was also going through a cancer scare and my head was up my arse ).

HeyKu · 31/07/2014 18:07

me and DC/DP have a silly little language...it's very cringeworthy indeed. Sent a text to my boss in said language, was meant for DS as I clicked first name in 'recent sent' list assuming it would be him....it wasn't, as I'd unusually texted my boss earlier on. Boss is a very serious sort of chap and was very bemused, even more so when I explained, and when I did explain in person it was a long embarrassed ramble. Now he thinks I'm even odder than he probably did before! Some good might come out of this, whats BIL like in general?

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ithoughtofitfirst · 31/07/2014 18:35

Hahaha these are brilliant.

He is absolutely lovely. He has a lot of her traits actually but doesn't completely lack empathy and self awareness. He was nice about it and said no worries but he must have been a bit pissed that I was clearly talking about his mum though.

He came round last night actually to hang out. But the fact I've been NC with his mum for 4 months is the elephant in the room.

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yellowdinosauragain · 31/07/2014 18:50

My dh sent a text to me 'the trouble with looking so hot is it makes me want to fuck you'. To his very straight laced mum by mistake! :o

MrsBoldon · 31/07/2014 19:12

I once sent an explicit photo (which was of a body part you'd have to know well to recognise!) and the text 'I want you to fuck me tonight' to 'Dad' instead of 'Dan'.

This can't be as bad as that!. I thought very quickly and rang my Dad and told him my phone had been stolen and the awful thief was sending nonsense to everyone in my phone book so he shouldn't open any messages and just delete them.

I'm not sure if he believed me but I think he much preferred that explanation ..as did I.

While I was still seeing 'Dan', 'Dad' was saved as FATHER.

DoloresGove · 31/07/2014 19:32

MrsBoldon

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ithoughtofitfirst · 31/07/2014 19:48

LOOOOOOL @ the last 2

Oh GOD

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manchestermummy · 31/07/2014 19:53

Years ago my then bf (now dh) used to sext. A lot. I gave my old phone to my mum.

Greyhound · 31/07/2014 19:54

Morphine! How dreadful for you

hobbjobb · 31/07/2014 21:20

I've had a similar thing as mrsboldon
I was about 19 and went on a night out with my friends, one of whom was called Dan. I got stupidly drunk and puked on the floor of the toilets In a club, someone told the staff and I got chucked out, on my own, not able to stand and without my coat (bastards!)

So I called dan and left a rambling, tearful voicemail about how I'd been chucked out and didn't have enough money to get home etc.
except I'd called Dad, not Dan. My dad lived in another country at the time.

Needless to say, my dad called me early the next morning very concerned and told me I needed to see someone about my drinking. Oops!

indigo18 · 31/07/2014 22:30

I too sent a txt moaning about my boss- to my boss. It was meant for a colleague. Mortifying.

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