to throw my false teeth at the next stranger who talks to my grandson?

[PleaseJustShootMeNow]

It happens all the time and it's beginning to fray my nerves. Happened again today. Having a quiet coffee, minding my own business, when a woman walks over and starts chatting to him. He's a happy, smiley chap and it seems people can't resist him. This would be fine but she has to go and ruin it by looking at me and saying 'your grandson is lovely'. He's my son! I'm only forty fucking one. God I must look wrecked.

My mum was 42 when she had me, and my sister was 18. When we went out together when I was a youngster you could guarantee that at some point someone would refer to my mum as my grandma, and call my sister my mum. Used to drive her mad but I was always amused.

I'm 28, heavily pregnant and have a one year old.

Got asked by a door to door salesman the other day if my parents were home!

I am still like this at the memory.

My mother was 19 when she had me..and her mother was 18 when she had her. So a very young 37!

It's perception, the woman could have thought you looked 37 but still assumed you were granny. It depends how old the parents around you are!

My lovely MIL wasn't amused when someone thought her older husband was her son.

I had someone ask if DS called me Nanny or Grandma. She nearly died when I said "usually just Mummy". To be fair to her I do have a lot of grey hair but I was only 36 at the time

slithy that happens to me too. I'm trying to come up with smarter answers than spluttering and saying "actually I AM the lady of the house. This is MY house. I have 2 kids".

I'm a young looking 25, by that I mean I look about 15. I get disapproving looks when out with my DSes.

My parents get taken for my kids parents. They had me at 30, I had mine at 30 plus, my mum looks young for her age, but really??

Calm down ladies,

1. some people are just rubbish at guessing ages
2. some people just say the wrong thing without meaning to, just doesn't come out the way they meant it in their head
3. some people can't see very well. Once my toddler daughter was dressed in head to toe in pink and could not have looked more like a girl, when an middle aged lady asked me if she was a boy. I must have looked at her funny when I said, err, no, because she then said oh you never know these days. Really? I get gender neutral dressing, but would someone dress a toddler boy in pink with ribbon and ruffles just for the hell of it?

When I was 21 and out shopping with my 19yr old sister, the shop assistant held out the bag to my sister and said, "Are you going to carry this for Mummy?". My sister found it very funny but I was mortified at the time, especially as the week before I'd been ID'd buying glue in Woolies. I think at the time you have to be 14 to buy glue.

I don't have DCs but I was once getting chatted up in a bar and asked him how old he thought I was. He decided on 27, I gather he thought he was complimenting me by the way he said it. I was 21 . He must have been thinking 35 at the very least.

I'm in for a treat when I have DC, people will wonder where their lazy mother is because they're always with their grandmother, arg.

My eldest dd gets really flustered when ever she takes my toddler to the park the amount of people who just assume she's mum even ones who know us both and clearly saw me when pregnant. It's even worse if she's got the baby as well. She's taken to feeling the need to wear make up and avoid jeans because she says people are tutting at her.

And she thinks I don't know but she keeps outfit type baby clothes stashed in her car because apparently you get lots of negative looks if people think your a younger mum and your baby is in baby grows as opposed to outfits.

mouse I consider it a good thing as it means I can say no to all doorsteppers

My mum was mistaken for my dad's mum once... she was not amused. Me, my brother and my dad found it very funny at which my poor mum was even less amused!

When MIL was staying with us once she went to collect the Chinese takeaway that DH had order over the phone. She returned all flushed and giggly; apparently the chap at the restaurant mentioned speaking to her "husband" earlier. She told him that he was her her son, and the chap said "well he sounded awfully manly on the phone". MIL replied that of course her son sounded manly, he was 36 years old! Apparently, given MIL's youthful looks, DH could not possibly have been more than 14

When I was pregnant with DD I was told I didn't look old enough to be expecting my second child. I think the person who said it must have had very poor eyesight because I was 34 and knackered at the time!

My SIL laughed long and loud when I told her that a shop assistant thought my dd (then about 6/7) was my granddaughter. A couple of weeks later SIL and I went out for lunch and the waitress asked me if my Mum and I would like to sit next to the window. SIL is 6 years older than me. Ahhhh, sweet, sweet revenge....

There is a 14 month gap in ages between DW and me.
We went on holiday, and one evening DW was ill, so I went down to dinner on my own.
The waitress asked me how my MOTHER was!
DW was not impressed, she was 44 at the time.

another one with young parents here

people used to tell my mum that dad had been spotted in town with younger women, luckily they were his daughters .

I get the opposite problem, and then people think I'm silly for being annoyed by it. My daughter is 18, and looks like she could be a few years older, and I'm often told that I "couldn't possibly" be her mother.

No, I'm fairly certain that I remember being there when she was born.

I'm sure they're just being nosy and trying to find out if I was a teen mum (I was 24) and I don't usually mind being told I look younger than I am, but it feels a bit like being accused of lying or otherwise not being taken seriously.

On the other end of the scale, one of her teachers a few years ago recognized my last name not the same as hers because he'd had my sister in his class. He asked if I was sister's mother. I don't think it had occurred to him that he was on his second generation of students. I took rather great pleasure in the expression on his face as that sank in.

Sometimes people will assume that Daughter and I are partners. Which feels very odd. What the hell kind of vibe are we sending out?

When in labour with dd3, my friend was a birthing partner as my mam couldnt make it. The student midwife, making small talk, asked x her name, then said to me "so is x your eldest?" If I wasn't attached to the g+a I would have hit her over the head with a bed pan.

X is 4 months older than me!!!

i always get accused of being my own childs babysitter because they do not look like me at all! ive never been accused of being granny though (yet) i suppose as an older mom its a thing you dread

I've just been to a family wedding where my niece (who is a very young looking 15 year old!) was mistaken for my 3 year old's mother??!!!

I was helping out in a shop my Dsis works in. One customer said to me 'ooh you're here now, your mum works here too, doesn't she?'

I was crying with laughter, Dsis is a year younger than me. I heard new swear words being made up that day...

My DH is 8 years older than me as as he works outside looks a bit "weathered". We had several incidents of him being mistaken for my dad, however, that didn't prepare us for all the comments when our DS was born.

It started in the maternity ward. He was in the corridor saying goodbye to my mum who had been visiting. He turned to come back in the room and a nurse stopped him and told him sternly that visiting was over and grandparents are not allowed!

It's worse when I go out with my neice and my boys. Strangers automatically assume she is their mum.
They are 6 1/2. I am 47. She is 19. She would've been 13 when she had them!

Silverlace welcome to the club my Dh is 8yrs older than me, different race. He even looks young for his age, 43. 6yrs ago, we went to a bank to open an account for me and without asking me made the account accessible to Dh. I was not happy but Dh just laughed at me. Dh then asked the young man why he was not talking to me since the account was mine to which he replied "oh, are you not her dad"? Ohhh! Sweet revenge Dh was not thrilled and I haven't let him forget it.I was 29 and him 37. From that day pink stopped being my favourite colour:)