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to throw my false teeth at the next stranger who talks to my grandson?

105 replies

PleaseJustShootMeNow · 26/07/2014 17:20

It happens all the time and it's beginning to fray my nerves. Happened again today. Having a quiet coffee, minding my own business, when a woman walks over and starts chatting to him. He's a happy, smiley chap and it seems people can't resist him. This would be fine but she has to go and ruin it by looking at me and saying 'your grandson is lovely'.Shock He's my son! I'm only forty fucking one. God I must look wrecked.

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Lagoonablue · 26/07/2014 18:50

I have had a couple of remarks . I am. 51 with a 4 year old! I need Botox too!

chinam · 26/07/2014 18:51

My MIL was in town and met a lady she hadn't seen in quite a few years. They chatted for a few minutes and then the lady commented to MIL that it was lovely to see that her son was still going to town with her even though he's now an adult himself. MIL was not amused but FIL was thrilled to have been mistaken for his 25 years younger son.

I have been mistaken for my sister's mother. There are only 8 fucking years between us.

Capitola · 26/07/2014 18:58

My sister was 24 and collected her son from nursery. A new member of staff said, 'oh look xxxxx, here's granny to collect you!'.

My sister had stopped dyeing her prematurely grey hair - she was back to brunette within 48 hours.

TheFirstOfHerName · 26/07/2014 19:21

Grin at 'I have the opposite proboscis'.

McFlickle · 26/07/2014 19:26

When my mum passed away we met with the priest to discuss the funeral. He thought that her (slightly younger) partner was my husband. I nearly threw up it was so embarrassing, especially at a time when everyone's sense of humour was a little fragile Confused

McFlickle · 26/07/2014 19:27

Plus I am an older mummy so just waiting for the granny call

AMillionNameChangesLater · 26/07/2014 19:30

When ds1 was born I took him out for coffee, he was about two weeks old. There was an old couple in Costa who turned to each other and said "Look at that. Babies are having babies". I got really upset, said I was 24 and married, and then cried.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 26/07/2014 19:46

A friend of mine did this to another friend at a wedding. She asked if a third friend was second friend's daughter! Second friend has a daughter who is 11, third friend is a youthful 26.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 26/07/2014 19:47

Meant to add I'm not sure who was most offended or embarrassed!

ikeaismylocal · 26/07/2014 19:54

My mum was in her 40s when she had my baby sister, to make matters more confusing I was 18, when we went out together I would carry the baby in a sling or push the pram as my mum had had a c-section, it really depended on the area we were in, if we went out in our local town people just assumed my mum was a mum with a big age gap but if we went out in the neighboring town which seemed to have many more teenage mums people without fail called me mum and my poor mum Grandma.

When my sister started school there was a little boy who had a mum who was my age ( by that stage 22) my sister used to say loudly "look there is Connor with his sister!" when we saw them, we explained to her repeatedly that his "sister" was his mum but my sister would not believe us, Connor's Grandma would occasionally collect him from school, my sister called her "Connor's mum".

LarrytheCucumber · 26/07/2014 19:59

PleaseJustShootMeNOw I used to get this a lot when DC3 was young. One day I was out with DS1 (who was 19) and DS2 who was about 3 weeks old and a woman started cooing over DS2. DS1 said 'You can have him' (typical teenager Blush) . When I explained that they were brothers she said 'Oh, I took you for a couple'. I was 43. I thought it was funny. DS1 definitely did not!
If I was out with DD and DS2 people used to assume that he was hers and that I was the Granny. We had a family photo done and the photographer told 2 year old DS2 to 'Go and sit on Grandma's knee'. He's lucky we bought any of his photos!
DS2 was recently at College with several people who had Grandmas younger than me and they used to say 'Your parents are HOW old?
Luckily I have managed to retain my sense of humour.

WeAreEternal · 26/07/2014 20:00

I get the opposite. DS is now 8 and I've lost count of the times I have been accused (as if there is something wrong with it) of being a teenage mother or mistaken for his older sister.

Quite a few times people have mistakenly thought my mum is DS's mother.

Oh and people have assumed on more than a few occasions that she is my stepmum and not my real mum, or not my mum at all as she doesn't look old enough to have a DD my age.

I'm 36 and my mum is 64, although she only looks 44.
I've clearly inherited her good genes.

RandallFloyd · 26/07/2014 20:03

I once had to get XDH to buy my fags in sainsburys.
He was not impressed that she'd asked my 'dad' to vouch for me.
I always remember her fondly Grin

ghostmous3 · 26/07/2014 20:06

My stepdaughters gran was 32 when she was born, shehad her daughter at 16 and then in turn she had her daughter at 16. Stepdaughter was often thought to be the grans baby, it used to piss her mum right off!

SapphireMoon · 26/07/2014 20:08

I am an older Mother.
It has happened to me once. I was horrified even though I could easily be a Gran.
I threw away my long, brown padded anorak...

thegreylady · 26/07/2014 20:09

My best friend is 10 years younger than me and has been taken for my dd!

superbagpuss · 26/07/2014 20:13

my mother had her final child when I was 14, I went along to a baby weigh in thing and was holding her on my knee while mother closed the pushchair

HV came over to me and asked if it was my first time there

I said yes, panicked and handed dsis back quick

PurplePidjin · 26/07/2014 20:20

I was chatting to a lovely lady at a toy stall today. My jaw absolutely hit the floor when she mentioned her GREAT grand kids, I'd have put her at mid-50s Shock

flyingspaghettimonster · 26/07/2014 20:21

I turned up for a sewing lesson with someone I had only spoken to by email. The door was answered by a 13 year old (tops) girl. I asked if her mum was home. She was 22 and of course not best pleased when my jaw dropped and I told her I thought she was 13. Although since the mailman did the same thing ten minutes later, she is probably used to it.

Fcukfifa · 26/07/2014 20:22

My dad took me abroad when I was 18, on the last day I had had too much sun and collapsed in the reception area. Someone went to my dad and said your girlfriend has fainted!

Later he said he had thought people were throwing him mucky looks around the hotel

MoveAlongNow · 26/07/2014 20:23

At a party once DP got asked if I was 'his'. As in his daughter Hmm He was 39, I was 32.

I had my ds at a very young looking 22 and was always being mistaken for his nanny! Another mum once tried to hire me on the spot, she was v. impressed with how good I was with my young charge!!

One failed relationship and a whole lotta years later I will, hopefully, be having my next dc in my late thirties. Am sure I will instantly be mistaken for a grandma. Sigh.

TalcumPowder · 26/07/2014 20:25

Come and live in my old neighbourhood of North London, OP. I had my son when I was about to turn 40, and was the third-youngest in my NCT group of eight. (Yet a ten minute walk away in my GP surgery in a less salubrious area, I was more the same age as the grandmothers-to-be who were seeing the midwife with their 20-ish pregnant daughters.)

My midwife worked out of 2 GP surgeries, and said that at the other one she saw more over-40s than under-30s. I was briefly tempted to switch...

ColdCottage · 26/07/2014 20:29

There was a lady in the news recently who was a grandmother at 27 so don't be offended. Daughter was a mother at 12 though ShockShockShock

(Would annoy me too though).

LJBanana · 26/07/2014 20:31

I've been mistaken for my dads wife more than once. I now call out 'dad' or 'ask grandad' at impromptu and irrelevant moments,and always louder than I need too.

MoominKoalaAndMiniMoom · 26/07/2014 20:38

I'm just waiting for this, I am a young mum who looks younger than I actually am Grin Being ID'd for a lottery ticket while heavily pregnant got some 'interesting' looks Grin