to throw my false teeth at the next stranger who talks to my grandson?

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It happens all the time and it's beginning to fray my nerves. Happened again today. Having a quiet coffee, minding my own business, when a woman walks over and starts chatting to him. He's a happy, smiley chap and it seems people can't resist him. This would be fine but she has to go and ruin it by looking at me and saying 'your grandson is lovely'. He's my son! I'm only forty fucking one. God I must look wrecked.

When my dh was in hospital a few years ago (think we were both around 36 ish) one of the Drs came over and said to me "and are you Mum?" My husband's Mother? I just raised my eyebrows and she fell over herself to apologise, a slip of the tongue apparently .....

I am 33 and a couple of people from my year at school are grandparents.

at DO I LOOK OLD ENOUGH TO BE MY HUSBANDS MOTHER

When I was in hospital after having ds, a midwife I hadn't seen before walked in, saw MIL sitting there but no Dh (who had nipped out for something) and so referred to MIL as my partner.

We were both too polite to correct her but we were both about how she would come to that conclusion before any other.

I'm younger than my husband and twice I've been confused for his mother.

Ah well.

Yes I always refer to the carer as "Mum" if in doubt. Spread a little happiness and make a Grandma's day.

I went shopping with my 16 year old sister the other day and got confused for her mum I'm 25.

I am 12 years older than dh. I don't look particularly aged, but he looks peculiarly young, I have been asked so often if I'm his fecking mother. Drives me nuts.

Last year (so I was 40) I was explaining to my hairdresser what DH & I were doing for our 15th wedding anniversary, the conversation got a little weird, and we soon realised we were talking at cross-purposes. It turned out that she had misheard and thought I was talking about our 50th wedding anniversary.

This happened to my DSis in ASDA, she was 43 when she had DC5. She was mortified, I told her it wouldn't have happened in Waitrose.

My brother was born when my mum was 43 and I was 14. People used to tut tut about how awful it was that I had a baby so young and my mum was looking after it, she was used to people assuming she was his grandma even without me there for them to comment on too. Even one of my teachers said she had no idea I'd had a baby! Doh.

"When my mum divorced her arsehole husband he quickly remarried an awful woman. She had to attend a family do and was making polite conversation with the new wife and someone came over and said to my mum "hi X, long time no see, is this your mother?" Meaning the wife."

That is brilliant. Maybe the person had been tipped off and said it on purpose? But that's really funny.

OP, people say stupid things all the time. My friend at school had an older Mum. She had white hair, and we all that it was her Granny.

I have a friend who is an "older Mum" and when I first met her, I thought she was the granny... I nearly said something like "lovely grand kids" but refrained, and luckily I did as that would have been excruciatingly embarrassing. She had platinum blonde hair and I think it ages her. What colour is your hair OP? Xx

I'm always been told I look too young to have my children. I hated it when I was 28 but love it now I'm 48.

I have the opposite problem. the lady who works in the corner shop asks me and my mum every single time we go in if my dd is my mum's child. every single time we go through the whole thing that no she is mine and it's my mum's grandchild. she is seven now you would think she would remember by now. it's quite embarrassing as it's full of but you only look fourteen how can you have a child lol

there is a child in my dds class who is picked up every day by a lady we all assumed was her nan till my friend was chatting to her one day and was saying it's very good of you to pick up your granddaughter every day your daughter must love you bye she told her no it's actually my daughter. my poor friend didn't know what to do. to be fair she does look well over fifty I hadn't even questioned that it might be her child.

Slightly off topic, I was seeing (oh, fine, FWB with) an older man for a while and went shopping with him one day. Shop assistant asked him whether the gift he was getting was 'for your daughter here' (meaning me).

He laughed it off but things ended pretty soon after and he is now seeing a lady of his own age

Ouch.

I also have a 21 year old daughter so I suppose I could be a granny. It's just a bit of a shock seeing as I had to carry ID to prove I was over 18 until I was 35. I appear to have aged over night.

I have the opposite proboscis. No one believes 13yo ds is mine. And most people think that 3yo Dd is my mum's daughter. Although someone did ask my 50yo mum if my 84yo grandfather (her dad) was her husband.

Someone thought my friend was my mum. It was my 30th that day. She was not amused at all and was fuming for the rest of the day. She's also 2 years younger than me.

She still rants about it now.

My brother is 20 years younger than me, my son is 20 years younger than my brother. We all live together.

Apparently I am my brother's mother, and my son's grandmother. I've had it so much for so long now I just give them the stare and my brother ducks and my son laughs and says "You're taking your life in your hands mate" !

I became a grandmother at 60, but around where I live, most grandparents are in there early 40s

I dread this happening to me .. I'm 40 & ds is 2... Hasn't as yet but if anyone does ever say it I will punch them!!!

Sorry, but I guess it's part of being an older mother. I guess there is a younger mother somewhere being upset because someone asked her about her 'little brother/sister'.

Saying that, I would never assume anything even when I have come across people with grey hair that looked like grandparents but they were parents because of what you just mentioned.

If it makes you feel better, I am fed up of all the 'I must have lots of energy because I am younger' and therefore motherhood must be easier for me... I am 30 years old, not 15!

DD(18) has a friend whose grandparents are younger than DW and I (mid50s).

On the other hand, one of our nephews thinks DW is DD's big sister as "not auntie, too much funny".

do you look old?

I was 16 when my youngest brother was born and often used to take him out and about when he was a toddler. I used to smirk inwardly at the tuts and disapproving looks I would get from older ladies who assumed I was an unmarried teen mum. By the time he started school I was away at uni, but my sister was at home and often used to pick him up. She would have been just 16 when he started school aged 4, and was still mistaken for his mum! And she only looked 16!

My friend had her DD2 at 40 (happy accident) and her DD2 is in reception now - but friend feels a bit self conscious as lots of the other mums are only mid 20s and some have asked her if she is Xs granny.