AIBU: MNHQ's thoughts and what you can do

[RowanMumsnet]

Hello there

We've seen a fair number of posts recently about AIBU, and specifically about whether there's a problem in terms of some posters being gratuitously aggressive, even if the posts aren't particularly guideline-breaking in any other way.

We've done some careful monitoring of AIBU over the last couple of weeks and... We agree. Quite a few threads in AIBU do seem to veer off into a pointlessly unpleasant direction with very little provocation.

So from now on, we're going be looking out for posters who seem to put the boot in a bit too readily, and we'll be dropping them "polite mails" asking them to draw their horns in a bit. (And then if they carry on, we'll take further action.)

We'll also remove the text from the header about AIBU not being a fight club, because it's possible that this was (perversely) prompting people to think it was a fight club.

We'd really, really like to enlist your help in making AIBU a more pleasant and constructive place to post.

First off, please don't feel you have wait for an MNHQ response: the MN forums are what you, collectively, make of them, and you can set the tone. If you think an OP is being rounded on, go on and post - and say (without making personal attacks) if you think other posts have crossed a line in terms of meanness or aggression. (Feel free to refer posters back to this thread!)

But also, please report. Not necessarily because you think a post is deletable, but if you think a poster could do with getting one of our polite mails.

To be completely clear: AIBU is exactly the same as all the other topics on Mumsnet, and the same rules apply. Ideally, we want MN to be a place where people can discuss, share, entertain each other, and seek advice and support. It's not a place for posters to take lumps out of each other for no reason, and with no intention of offering constructive/interesting/funny input.

Thanks,
MNHQ

[Primadonnagirl]

Me too!!! All together now...!

[HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen]

Can you imagine being the last few humans, being drugged, waking up in a tank with loads of people staring at you. Then the next thing you know the door opens, and some weird creature drags a bloke in and goes "this is Clive, we want you preggers by June". Then they start piping Barry White through the walls, whilst people pay to stare at you in your bedroom.

Because that's what we do the Pandas. It's no wonder they just sit in their pens glancing awkwardly at each other.

[Primadonnagirl]

I declare that the Official Theme Tune of this thread ( I know, I know, MNHQ ( coughs) other tunes are available...)

[MrsVamos]

No no no no no.

The Real Thing is Coca Cola. Summer tune.

The sun will always shine
The birds will always sing...etc...

Its my ringtone. I change it in December to the Christmas version.

[MrsVamos]

HotPink

Now I'm crying. Poor poor Pandas.

Barry White ? Is it not at least Michael Buble ?

[LineRunner]

I remember Peter Purves on Blue Peter having to make it clear he was not Peter from the New Seekers. A surreal moment, even for a kid.

[Primadonnagirl]

What about that Eurovision winning song " A Little Peace"??! Played by me on nose flute and MrsVamos on the conch shell?? No ???

[ginslinger]

This is mumsnet - we should have Neil Reid singing that wondersome Mother sweet mother of mine

[ginslinger]

- retro

[ElephantGoesToot]

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Fri 25-Jul-14 02:37:27 I promise this is relevant to the original post and not just me jumping on the bandwagon with my favourite pet peeve much but can we PLEASE report and be listened to when someone hasn't RTFT? Because not only is it sodding annoying, but it leads to situations where the OP says, quite reasonably, 'Oh, I hadn't seen the situation like that, thank you. IABU' and most of the crowd cheers, and then some utter idiots come on all 'Have only read the OP, but OP you are a vile piece of filth. HTH!'.

I got comprehensively told off, to the point that I hid the thread, by one of the very popular regulars for suggesting someone read the thread. She told me it was totally unnecessary and really asking too much.

[Primadonnagirl]

Oh yes ..that wins!!!!!

[MrsVamos]

Ha ha ha.

I think A Little Respect by Erasure might be appropriate - not !

[Staryyeyedsurprise]

Maryz
Are my eyes going funny or do you have two many y's in your name Stary/Starey/Starry

Yes due to fat fingers & a lack of observational skills

Though I do like you - you use the word "actually" more than I do
Always in tribute to Denise Royle - it's one of those private jokes that I forget is a private joke and wonder why other people don't find it funny.

[BIWI]

I'll have your gin Maryz

[MrsKwazii]

Cheers!

[ginslinger]

Apologies

[BIWI]

Cheers!

[Primadonnagirl]

So you should..is there such a thing as ear bleach?!

[IonaMumsnet]

[magimedi]

.is there such a thing as ear bleach?!

If there isn't there bloody well should be.

And if there is please send some now:

MagiMedi,

12 Bad Song street,

Might Have To Turn Sound of For Ever

Bad listening County

BLE3R IPUK3

[ElephantGoesToot]

National anthems. Anyones. Just sing a national anthem to yourself for a bit, and it will clear the earworms.