To feel a bit put out by wedding invite

[iamusuallybeingunreasonable]

Part of me understands it's up to the bride and groom who they invite, but the other bit of me is so annoyed by this...

DH friend invites me and DH to his wedding, but not our two children aged 12 weeks and 4 years. Fine, I tell DH I can't go because a) we have no childcare or people to palm kids off on, besides DS is breastfed, and b) I don't want to take baby and abandon DD on someone and her feel left out. Thought I would've the adult and tell him to go alone. This was weeks back, it's the wedding weekend coming up and it turns out that it's not a child free wedding at all, and other mates of DHs are taking their kids along as apparently they said to the couple if the kids can't come neither can we - I would never be so rude!!

Anyway, DH has worked the last three weekends, I'm knackered and here comes another weekend on my own with two kids, in sapping heat, and it might be my emotions boiling over but it feels so unfair...

WIBU to expect a massive treat from DH for putting up with this kind of inequality?!

I think it's unfair to describe the couple as 'thoughtless idiots'. They obviously do not want kids there and that's fine.

Some people were rude enough to push to bring their uninvited kids,just be happy you are not so entitled .

I cannot imagine forcing my kids on a wedding they were not invited to. What kind of people do that or feel ok about it?

Not you op,but the people who insisted they bring their kids. Shocking .

Why don't you just ask if your kids can go as well as others are taking theirs?

Because I'm not the type to spend someone else's hard earned cash to up their headcount - I just can't believe how many people think it's fine to be so cheeky... Just goes to show I was probably right, most are so hard faced they don't care about how impolite it is to invite other uninvited guests to an event that costs a lot of money

I'm with you on that Op ....if they'd have wanted you there with or without your ....family they would have made it clear.

I wouldn't be asking etc if we could all rock up either....

I find it odd that when people have said "we can't/won't come without the kids", the B&G have said "OK, bring them along!"

I have thought "cheeky fuckers, ah well, that's less meals to pay for"

I agree diddl - if someone said 'it's all or nothing' to me, I'd have said 'fine, bugger off'

Me too.
It's so rude!

I couldn't agree more, I am however going to milk this for all it's worth and get my money's worth (theoretically) out of DH