This is the first time I have started a thread here, I'm a long time lurker though.
I just wanted to get peoples opinions really on if I am being silly!! DP and I have been invited to a wedding of some good friends of ours. The wedding is 3.5 hours away but we all actually live within 10 minutes of each other in a different town. DP is invited to the daytime and I am invited to the evening. I was cross about this to begin with as a) we have been together for nearly 10 years, b) the wedding is a fair distance and DP doesn't drive and c) we are all friends and if anything I see more of the bride and groom than DP.
However, I quickly worked out that every couple that is invited is invited in this way - one half to daytime and the other to join them in the evening. I thought that this was quite thoughtless but got over it. Until the bride asked me to please make sure i travelled to the wedding the night before as she was expecting me to give DP and another unrelated friend a lift so that they could be there for the day time...
This angered me as I am not, nor have I ever been a taxi driver, this other friend is not my responsibility at all.
Anyway so (I'm feeling quite tolerant at this point) DP and I book a hotel for the night before and the night of the wedding. I agree to drive unrelated friend to the wedding the night before as well. I make plans to spend the daytime exploring and having lunch with another friend's DH as he isn't invited either. All fine.
So. Now DP has been informed by his work that he is actually scheduled to go on a trip that week and that it is non-negotiable. He travels a lot with his work. He thought he had booked days off for the wedding but doesn't look like he did. He is quite upset about this as the groom is a very good friend. We discuss cancelling our hotel room and me not going either as I am not particularly keen on hanging around a random place to go to the evening do of a wedding without DP when I wasn't invited to the actual wedding. He calls to explain and apologise. Groom is upset but understanding. Asks if I will still go as they are counting on me to take unrelated friend to the day time!!!
AIBU to think that although none of this is unrelated friend's fault, none of it is my doing either and I should not have to do a 7 hour round trip to take someone to a wedding that I am not invited to?? Obviously if I was taking DP anyway that would be different but I am not and there is plenty of time for unrelated friend to sort out his own journey.
Sorry for the massive rant...