To think that spending time with DD is more important than housework?

[prettyinpink90]

I'm currently on maternity leave with DD who is 15 weeks old.
Last night me and DP got into an argument after he commented that I had been saying I would sort through one of the bedrooms (currently being decorated) for over a week now and I couldn't expect things to get done when I was out 'enjoying' myself all of the time.

I do try and get out at least 3-4 days a week to do activities with DD such as swimming, baby massage, etc and feel this is important before my return to work in January. Housework is done around this as well as in the evening and at the weekend. DP comes home daily to his dinner on the table, work clothes led out and packed lunch made for the next day. He is never asked to do any of the housework and I am happy to do this myself.

AIBU to think that spending time with DD is more important than doing the housework during the day? I feel as if DP resents that I am on maternity leave and do not have to go out to work.

[Philoslothy]

I do think that men are sidelined in the process and then they get attacked for not being involved. Our later children were all born at home so that DH could spend the first night sleeping with his child.

[FrozenAteMyDaughter]

Philoslothy, that does sound lovely.

DH was very involved with DD because I had to go back into hospital shortly after she and I got home and he had some charge of her for several days. Baptism of fire for him, bless him but probably good for their relationship long term..

[FrozenAteMyDaughter]

Sole not some.