To think that at a buffet you can take as much as you want

[Edenviolet]

Went out today with dsis. We were starving by lunchtime and there was a huge buffet where we went (hotel), it was included in the price so we took loads as were hungry.
Noticed a couple of women really staring as we loaded our plates up and also when we took lots of the mini desserts and as we walked past one loudly said " I can't believe they are actually going to eat all that"
They kept staring at us and giving us funny looks.

Made me wonder if we really did take too much, surely as we had paid and were hungry it was ok ? I felt a bit judged as they clearly thought we were greedy

The weight thing isn't relevant to the greed and the snaffling of so many puddings at the wrong time (thus breaking a cardinal rule of decent manners) but...there's no such thing as a normal weight. It all depends on your height and build.

It just made me wonder if I'd broken some sort of unwritten buffet etiquette rule

You did! The unwritten rule is take one plate and refill it as many times as you like. Taking lots of plates is definitely against the rules.

Stop justifying yourself OP

You paid for the meal and ate it. And presumably enjoyed it.

Why are you worrying about what anyone else thinks?

I think good luck to you. It's eat all you want so why not fill your boots? If I went to an all you can eat buffet, I'd get really, really hungry first so that I could stuff myself. My husband is slim (and tall) and can put away LOADS of food. If we go to somewhere like this he does. That's the whole point.

OP if you are breast feeding and reasonably slim, I say good luck to you. One of the reasons I loved breast feeding my four was that I could stuff my face without worrying about the calories. And I used to get ravenous; I remember getting really "hangry" at my PiLs when they served me a tiny, ladylike meal.

I think the people that commented on what the OP put on her plate were really rude.

Slightly of subject but my pet hate is the tight arses who make their lunch from the breakfast buffet.

It IS just greedy though. Greedy and rude, as MaidOfStars has explained. There's something a bit distasteful about that, male or female.

That's still only 4 hours between a rather huge meal and eating again. As I said, I wouldn't comment, so I wont say anymore.

The other thread is written from the POV of the judge, not the judged. Only natural it will attract a different set of posters sharing opinions.

99% of the time you eat normally? Bollocks. That's a lie. Otherwise that amount of food would have made you sick.

But usualsudpect this is clearly not the mnet consensus. We NEED guidance on this

like I mentioned 99% of the time I eat very healthily

Why feel judged then?

What Beautifullymixed said.

I'm 5'10 and 9 st 6 so a normal weight for my height. I've never been overweight. All dcs and dh are normal weight/bmi.

And, over eating has nothing to do with type 1 diabetes which is irrelevant anyway as its my dd who is diabetic.

Sorry OP but that just seems bizarre. That HUGE lunch, after a not insubstantial breakfast that wasn't overly early, and then a big dinner at only 5:30?? MY DH is diabetic and he has had to learn about healthy eating habits etc and what you outline, both today's largesse and your normal routine, are not healthy eating habits.

My husband is slim (and tall) and can put away LOADS of food

Just as I predicted

Maudofstars maybe this us a taat???

I do eat healthily 99% of the time! quite big portions but its healthy food! protein and salad etc. I exercise too so I see no problem with a few treats occasionally. Used to eat a lot of junk a few months ago and was same weight but felt ill so changed to more protein etc

I don't mind so much when its a adult buffet. But I've been to sure start events before where you had to get your child some food quick, because adults would load up a plate for them and their kids and leave hardly anything for others.

Especially worse at sure start breakfast clubs :(

It wasn't a big dinner though, I did not say that. It was a small portion of lasagne and a large salad

You seem to eat huge amounts, frequently. That's not healthy. The snacks you describe sound like extra meals (certainly the afternoon one). Clearly it works for you, but it seems like an inordinate amount, it really does.

It's not about how much the OP weighs or how much she usually eats or whatever.

It's about the greed and how that's not a good thing and many people don't like to see it.

If we changed desserts to dresses and said 'free dresses' and the OP took 9 (as she did desserts) it would still be greedy and it's not pleasant.

This thread doesn't compare to the Toby carvery one

One was started by a goady idiot with no particular point to make

This OP is genuine and couldn't (at first) quite see why she and her sister were judged for being greedy and showing a lack of thought for other diners.