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To want to take these birthday presents off ds (5)

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plentyofpipecleaners · 19/07/2014 10:40

Birthday is tomorrow. Huge stash of presents in our dressing room - where he never goes. Those from us have not been wrapped yet and were still in Amazon boxes. The other day he revealed he had been in and seen the main present from us - something he has wanted for ages and I was really excited to have got it for him. I think he went in because he saw me taking all the presents from his party in there. He got such a telling off I really didn't think he would go back in. Very stupid mistake.

Today I went to make his bed, and under the covers was this item, out of the packaging, tiny accessories all over the bed etc. I flipped. It wasn't pretty, lots of shouting, marched him to swimming (we were running late), with him shouting, "Mummy doesn't love me, just calm down mummy!" I told him it would be going in the bin.

I have since calmed down and told him I do love him (I never said I didn't btw) and that it won't go in the bin. However, I have also said there will be a punishment and I need to think of a suitable one. Could I hold it back for a week or so? Would this make sense to him? Would he connect it to the 'crime'?

He has also revealed that he knows nearly every other present, so there are to be no surprises tomorrow - apart from gifts given by others. I am really upset about this as had been really looking forward to seeing his face, but now he knows it all. But it's really my own fault and, as he explained himself, he was just 'so excited'.

AIBU to not give him the toy tomorrow?

OP posts:
Lambzig · 20/07/2014 21:37

Glad you had a lovely day.

Just wanted to add, please don't get hung up on the 'you don't love me' comment. My four year olds favourite refrain when she gets told off (snatching from her baby brother, not getting dressed on 10th time of asking, being told no to demands for sweets/chocolate/cake, other minor stuff) is to howl at high volume 'no-one loves me, I am all alone". The first time I was in tears, the next ten, I leapt to reassure her, now she just gets told I love her and ignored. I don't think that means I need to take a look at myself.

Please take care of yourself at the moment and thanks for the reminder that I need to hide future presents in the loft.

Pancakeflipper · 20/07/2014 22:49

Glad you both had a happy day.

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