DD is very nearly two yo and still barely eats. She was EBF and I BF her at bedtime until last month. She showed no interest in solids when under one, she refused a spoon, wouldn't even touch any food when I tried BLW - much less taste it. By 14 months she'd eat yoghurt, nothing else but was still breastfeeding twice. I spoke to HV who said she must be eating more than I say because she isn't underweight.
Now she's approaching her second birthday and she hasn't tried anything new for months. The only foods she'll eat are toast, cheese, yoghurt, bananas, crisps. She drinks whole milk but not much, and water. I don't put pressure on her, get stressed etc. I honestly thought she'd just be interested at some point once older and more hungry once active but if anything she's getting worse.
Yesterday during the entire day she ate: half a slice of toast, a yoghurt, half a banana, a small cup of milk and some cheese.I offer new foods, try to get her to help cook, we eat together - nothing works. The other day she ate a slice of toast and that's it all day, by evening she was hysterical as no doubt her tummy was hurting as she was so hungry but she just wouldn't eat 
She weighs 22 lbs - the same as her 7 month old cousin. I spoke to the HV again last month who said she's concerned as DD isn't growing taller but again, she said I must be exaggerating about how little DD eats 
I am just at a loss of what to do next to help her. AIBU to feel so upsetthat she just wwon't eat? Has anyone else had any experience of this? Any advice?