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to wear a white dress to a wedding?

102 replies

bedraggledmumoftwo · 17/07/2014 11:47

Sorry, another dilemma pre wedding this weekend. Just discovered mildew in my cupboard(100 year old house) and a couple of my dresses are wrecked. Also 7months post baby and not quite down to size. The only dresses that fit and look any good are a white/cream calvin Klein one, with black large diamond at waist, which is a shift dress of the smart office variety, or a cream floaty number. Neither look anything like a wedding dress, but wibu to wear white to a wedding?

OP posts:
shushpenfold · 17/07/2014 14:54

Nope - you'll be the one that al the guests talk about....the 'other one' in the white dress!

rose202 · 17/07/2014 14:54

OP just drink so much gin you forget what you're wearing :)

Have fun :)

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 17/07/2014 14:55

BTW, I am assuming no-one will care if I put the 7mo baby in a white dress?!?! I have others but this one is light and cottony and I dont want her to bake in the heat... although it looks like it might rain

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Jackie0 · 17/07/2014 15:26

Grin your baby will be adorable in white Grin

wafflyversatile · 17/07/2014 15:43

If I saw a baby wearing white to a wedding I would poke it in the ribs and shout, what's your problem, eh, eh? and talk about it for years.

SybilRamkin · 17/07/2014 15:51

waffly Grin Grin

FatalCabbage · 17/07/2014 17:27

Nobody would mistake a 7mo for the bride Grin

squoosh · 17/07/2014 17:31

Remember that scene stealing baby who hung on to his mother's train as she went down the aisle, saying 'woo everyone look at me'?

That baby was a disgrace.

to wear a white dress to a wedding?
patienceisvirtuous · 17/07/2014 17:33

I wouldn't give a shit if someone wore white to my wedding. Or what it 'looked like' on the photos etc. I just don't get the angst, it all seems a bit silly Confused.

OP, I think the dress you posted looks perfectly fine :) I hope you have a lovely time!

wafflyversatile · 17/07/2014 17:37

You might if your MIL to be turned up wearing an actual wedding dress with veil, and weeping copiously about losing a son and elbowing in on all the photos! Grin

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 17/07/2014 17:44

Good choice to borrow a dress of a different colour.
I turned up to a wedding in white linen trousers and a lilac top once. I had assumed that the bride would be in a gown of some sort and thought I was quite safe.... NOPE!
The bride was wearing white linen trousers (same style and cut as mine) and a white glittery top. She looked beautiful, but I ended up sat at the back of the evening venue with my legs well hidden for the entire evening party. Never again shall I break the "no white to a wedding" rule!

indigo18 · 17/07/2014 17:48

Monsoon sale started today so if you have time you might find something there. Lots of other sales on too.

InThisTogether · 17/07/2014 17:52

I would say not to, just to be on the safe side, although pesonally I wouldn't mind at all, some might.

Could you get a Dylon machine dye and dye it a different colour?

louwn · 17/07/2014 17:52

That dress is quite blatently cream not white and looks nothing like a wedding dress. Seriously can't believe anyone would get het u about it!! I wore a cream/white and black prom style dress for a wedding, and my aunt wore a white linen trouser suit for mine. I can't believe the people bitching about a white jacket further up the thread!

Kundry · 17/07/2014 17:58

The dress is nothing like a wedding dress and fine.If anyone gets het up then they have their own issues frankly.

I have turned up to a wedding in a white linen shift dress and twas also fine. As long as you don't look the bride it's OK except on Mumsnet

LadyIsabellaWrotham · 17/07/2014 18:03

If mildew has knackered your dresses then you'll need some new ones anyway - either go cheap and cheerful from New Look sale, or think in terms of something you can easily get taken in when you lose the baby weight (assuming it's mostly round your tummy it's quite east to get a waist out into a shift dress as long as any print isn't unfortunately situated.

Velvetbee · 17/07/2014 20:24

People really notice this? And talk about it years later?
Fuck me!

dexter73 · 17/07/2014 20:28

Looks fine to me.

butterfliesinmytummy · 17/07/2014 20:30

One of my guests asked if she could wear white to my wedding ... Of course she could! It was a pure white shift dress, she looked great and I (the bride) was in red. Too busy having an amazing time to worry about what other people were wearing. I had one bridesmaid who was given a cheque and told to buy what she wanted (she looked awesome too). It's a party ffs, who on earth cares what other people wear.??? Would much rather that people were happy at my wedding......

Thurlow · 17/07/2014 20:40

On a slightly side note, isn't it a little bit weird how there seem to me, or feel to be, these rules for what you can and can't wear to weddings, christenings, funerals? Silly things that feel like rules like wearing heels, or having your hair 'done' as opposed to just there, or taking a teeny handbag that you can't fit everything you need into?

I'm guilty of it too, I've spent half the summer trying to find a dress for an 'evening dress' wedding.

But surely, surely, at the end of the day it shouldn't be about all the stress and rules. I see it a lot on here, people saying you can't wear white, or black, or leggings and a tunic, lots of angst over women wearing trousers etc. Surely shouldn't matter and guests should wear what they feel comfortable in, as long as it makes a nod towards the respectability of the occasion?

MrsKoala · 17/07/2014 20:52

I completely disagree Thurlow it is precisely the rules/etiquette that make things feel special to me. It shows effort, thought and a sense of tradition and occasion. Otherwise all the things blend in to one.

I was so disappointed when i went to the opera for the first time (xH got us a box to madam butterfly at the albert hall for my birthday - it was gorgeous). We got all dressed up and everyone was wearing jeans. We felt like right berks.

butterfliesinmytummy · 17/07/2014 21:16

I agree that effort should be made, it's a way of showing respect and marking the occasion. But stressing over it and feeling uncomfortable over extra expense is the last thing any bride would want surely?

Thurlow · 17/07/2014 21:21

butterflies has summed it up better than I said it!

If you hate dresses and you hate heels, why shouldn't you just be allowed to wear what for you is a smart outfit? Rather than thinking "shit, I'll have to get myself into a Monsoon dress that I'll hate and feel uncomfortable in and heels that will cripple me because that's what people are supposed to wear to a wedding."

Everyone has a different idea of what constitutes dressing up and making an effort. A friend recently bought a dress to wear as a bridesmaid's dress that I would honestly have worn to a normal office job. I asked once about a dress on here for a formal do and was told by someone that they had it and wore it to work.

RubyFlint · 17/07/2014 21:23

No don't do it! You'll spend the day worrying about it. Just borrow or could you maybe dye one another colour?

MrsKoala · 17/07/2014 21:24

Oh i agree with not necessary to wear dresses and heels, just something smart. My high heeled days are over and i refuse to make myself miserable or in pain. But colour is quite easy to not wear, you don't feel pain or discomfort for not wearing white.

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