to wear a white dress to a wedding?

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

Sorry, another dilemma pre wedding this weekend. Just discovered mildew in my cupboard(100 year old house) and a couple of my dresses are wrecked. Also 7months post baby and not quite down to size. The only dresses that fit and look any good are a white/cream calvin Klein one, with black large diamond at waist, which is a shift dress of the smart office variety, or a cream floaty number. Neither look anything like a wedding dress, but wibu to wear white to a wedding?

I think the dress in the photo is fine. Play up the black in accessories and you're sorted.

What did they say firstchoice? Says more about them to be honest!

Ever since I saw someone wear a floor length navy crochet see through number to a wedding a few years ago, my motto is wear what suits you, at least its not a see through navy crochet number

I think that dress is fine only you'll be really uncomfortable with the heat!

And yes, you'll definitely have to play up the black.

No. Don't do it. A close friend wore a white linen dress to my wedding. I only had a town hall and function room wedding. My dress was from debenhams. The Dj thought my friend was the bride when he arrived. It didn't bother me at the time but I felt a bit annoyed afterwards. Think it was a bit thoughtless of her. It's the only time I've ever worn white. FFS

The black and white one is fine, it's nothing like a wedding dress. Just accessorise it.

I thought you weren't supposed to wear black to a wedding either, funereal & all that.... a cousin of mine married in the 80's & her grandma wore a black dress to show her disapproval of the union.

Although this is probably old fashioned & not thought about at all these days, but there was a lot of talk that I overheard about the significance of wearing black on such a happy day.

I wouldn't.

My mother in law wore a 'Black and white suit' to our wedding. It tuned out it was a floor length white skirt, jacket, hat and shoes. The only black was the tiny buttons on the jacket.

My Mum and various guests still go on about it 10 years later. It doesn't half look odd on the pics.

Can you borrow a dress? can the mildrew affected dresses be saved?

I remember a thread a few years ago on here where a guest asked the bride if it was OK for her (the guest) to wear an ivory satin ankle length dress.

Can't remember the bride's reply though, anyone remember this one?

You've all panicked me now...

Is this ok for a wedding? Only a little bit of white

Yes cos it's not white.

Yes.

the first dress would be fine with acessories but this second one will look lovely its a shame you dont have more time as there is a site called everything fivepounds and they have some amazing dresses and shoes and all of them are five pounds each with just postage as extra, i am going to a wedding in august and have got a lovely floaty summer maxi dress from there and amazing shoes to go with it with 5 inch heels and even with postage only cost £15 for the whole outfit

I'm the same as Username - in a right state now! I hate dress shopping because I am very curvy but finally found a black and white shift dress which fits and I can wear without hating myself - but is the bride going to hate me instead?

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Bear that's a lovely dress & is fine :)

OP yes that dress is fine too.

With both dresses I'd use a theme of either brights, pastels or light grey accessories, just to lift them a little.

LeBear, that's lovely! Totally fine I think. Do you know the bride? I don't know anybody except my DP, so no idea what the bride/bridesmaids are wearing

Totally fine Bear.

I really don't get the fuss, as long as you don't look like a bride or like you're going to a funeral, wear whatever dress you like. I can't remember what people wore at my wedding.

I wouldn't - it's just the one colour to avoid, even if your situation is a bit unfortunate.

People will definitely notice, if that makes a difference.

Thank you for the encouragement! You should have seen me plodding round the shopping centre trying on dresses and trying not to look in the mirrors

I do know the bride (we used to work together) but she lives quite a way away now and I am not 'in' on any of the details of her dress or bridesmaids' colours. Am not going to know many other people at the wedding at all...

ZUCKER - they said:
'are you an ex of the groom - you look like you are trying to make a point?'

I was an ex (some 15 years before, mind you).
I wasn't trying to 'make a point' but I was mortified someone thought I was!

I went to a very posh Wedding where the mother of the groom wore head to toe black and spent the ceremony crying. Not in an 'I'm so pleased, dabbing at the eyes kind of way' but facing a wall actually howling. It was AWFUL.
The H was an odd bod too.
The couple are no longer together.
Ex wife is now very happy with a long distance lorry driver boyfriend.
He is now an MP and takes Mummy to events, I do believe

OP - the second dress is quite suitable (but I'm clearly a bad judge!) and is fun and jolly too. Hope you enjoy the wedding

A mixture of black and white doesn't seem that uncommon these days at weddings.

Anyone kicking up a stink about that dress with black accessories at a wedding isn't worth bothering about.

Unless your bride is likely to be going for a very informal non wedding dress for herself then I can't imagine that being anything other than fine.

The linked black and white dresses are fine bevause they're black and white. Blue and white is fine, hot pink and black, etc.

IMHO you only have to avoid looking like you're wearing all black or all white even if it is technically "morning mist" with grey buttons.

How many names has the OP used in this thread? Confused.

Can you not ask the bride? I am getting married in Dec and would be MORTIFIED if anyone felt they couldnt wear white, let alone someone with a young baby and problems with damp in their house- I would just be grateful you were coming!

As others have said, white with big black diamond, black hat + another bold colour shoes, bag and jewellery, (and maybe a black jacket/stole/cardi.)

Hi all, I'm the OP, it was another posted that showed the other black and white pic.

Think I am going to borrow a dress from a friend. Now running around trying to pack for the weekend away and find something for the kids to wear. Definitely not going to run the risk, hadn't realised quite how controversial this was, glad I posted!!!