Just sent wrong text to playdate horrors mother

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Oh please help me I'm mortified!! I've just had a play date from HELL and to I went to text my best friend (who would find it hilarious) all about it, outlined everything horrible that he did but I sent it to the little boys mother. I feel like crying.

Is there anyway out of this, I used him name and I ended with "never to return again"

Well you know -she is probably miffed but at least she can address her son's behaviour. I think its very funny.

Oooh you are going round there?? Fuck thats brave!!!

Ignore any snipes, not only have you apologised, you've gone round. Everyone makes mistakes in life in all sorts of circumstances...and if you've got the bollocks to face up to them rather than hiding...then good on you. I really really hope you manage to resolve it. X

Ignore all the sanctimonious "oh, one must never complain about another person's child" rubbish.

It was a mistake - and her kid had been a nightmare. Fair dos. Embarrassing, yes, but it sounds understandable.

Well, that escalated quickly.

Although I do think you deserve it a little bit, good on you for having the balls to face up to your mistake!

I hope the other mother is feeling OK though

Too late now, but if you quickly switch your phone to airplane mode the message wont be sent and you can delete it.

I think you've done the right thing.

I am certain I've bitched about people, and even more certain people have bitched about me.

Hopefully both of you will be able to look back on this and laugh.

I think going round to apologise in person is a lovely thing to do. We all make mistakes, and owning them and trying to make up for them is only right.

I think that shows you in a really good light, OP.

Oh dear. Daft so and so :) Trying my best not to laugh. This is something I'd do and have done something similar....we've all been in a similar situation or most of us at least

oh so feeling for you and feeling for the mother and feeling the tension in the air with that conversation...

Chalk it up to an Experience and vow not to think about it or talk about it again until you can honestly not wince at the mere thought lol You never know could be the making of a fab friendship....give you both something to giggle about over a bottle of wine, when both kids are 18....

OP, it sounds like you've handled this really well.

FWIW, as tempting as it is to pass it off as a bad day/overtired or whatever, I think sometimes that just avoids taking responsibility and makes it harder for the other person to forgive because the hurtfulness remains unacknowledged. I know that's not what you've done, but just my reaction to PP.

Well done you on facing up to it and taking responsibility. Hopefully this will enable you to speak freely to her about her son's behaviour and provide some encouragement and support. It sounds like she needs it.

How did it go op?

Hope it went well with the boys mum op.

Come on OP.

I'm sat with a glass of Sauvignon Blanc waiting for an update

Wow, I cringed for you both. I don't think you were doing anything wrong in venting to a friend. It's a very unfortunate mistake and you have done or absolute best to rectify the situation. It's very brave of you to go round there. I hope something good comes of it.

Oh dear, how embarrassing... Glad you went round, hope it was ok.

Oh, that poor mum sounds utterly broken.

PS - I am not sat here with my judgy pants on - I cringed at your mistake and thought "that could have been me"!!!

Ignore the sanctimonious haters

Oh dear. for you and for the other mum! (Or the other way around?)

Oh OP, I really feel for you. The feeling you get when you do something like this is jyst awful. Well done for going round, that's a hard thing to do. Hope it went well.

Hey OP, are you back yet ......

Oh dear. :(

Passes wine and nuts around as we all await OPs return

OP, my post fell apart, and it wasn't exciting enough to write again, but I think you were unlucky sending a misdirected text venting off steam after a bad play date. This is not karma or whatever else it has been called, and you are very brave to have texted her, then gone round to see her when she is clearly upset. Some people would have ignored her for the remainder of their child's school career.

Large when you get in.

Ps I have remembered I have done this twice, although not about children and playdates. I blame the mobile phone.

Oh dear, how awful for the other mum - and her reply :(

I do feel for you too - that gut wrenching awfulness when it's sent and you realise the full horror. Worst feeling, ugh.

I did similiar with an email - had let a nanny go after three weeks when it became clear she was utterly unsuited to looking after children in a home environment and it was a disaster. It was a senior position and i needed someone very experienced & therefore wages reflected that, and went through an insanely expebsive agency to recuit.

Anyway, she'd ended up doing some very stupid things in her panic at not being able to cope, and put my son in danger (previous she'd looked after very poorly children, more nursing than nannying really).

Anyway, she got quite angry with me, and said some rather nasty things - which I let her at the time as I know it's rubbish when you feel like you've failed and you end up hitting out at other people to avoid admitting it. It was a bad miss hire, and although she misrepresented herself at interview, the agency hadn't picked up on it, and nor had I.

Anyway my magnanimousness lasted to her face for the exit interview, then the next day I wrote up exactly what had gone wrong and all her faults, utterly no holes barred and I was very pissed off with her rudeness and the scare she'd given me. I wrote it to vent, before writing a constructive one to the agency which gave balanced feedback although made it clear she was unsuited to the role.

And I'd written both into email form, with no intention of anyone ever reading the ranty one, but i wanted to keep it so i could learn from the experience, so sent it to myself as a way id saving it... And I sodding sent it to her.

Was awful, all true but really really not what anyone should read about themselves, and she thought of course that I'd send it to someone else, and I can imagine it was soul destroying to read. I sent one explaining and reassuring her no one else would see it, but I have no idea if she believed me - tbh I wouldn't have. I still feel like a bitch thinking about it. Shudder.