about kids having tantrums in the garden

[GretchenWiener]

bloody take them inside.

quick tantrums I wouldn't have a problem with but I do think people ought to teach their children to be considerate of the neighbours wrt noise levels, especially older ones and situations where everyone lives in close proximity, as constant loud noise can mean the neighbours can never enjoy their own gardens.

Certainly when I was a kid we didn't run round screaming our heads off (and nor do my dcs) and fuck everyone else, but my neighbours do and it literally goes on for hours/all day and evening. So yes I think the parents should quieten them down or take them to the park or somewhere bigger to run around if they feel like they really must scream and shout

holdyourown even if children can learn to not make too much noise that will disturb others, it takes time, so the neighbours would still have to put up with some disturbance. Then there are some children for whom it is a real struggle due to special needs.

hazey I agree, that's a completely different matter and surely anyone would understand special needs difficulties and so on. I really feel for parents who are trying to cope with this or to teach their children about appropriate noise levels and if their neighbours were cross that'd BU

There are however some that just seemingly it has never even occurred to them that their noise might disturb others, I'm talking about say 10 years later neighbours who no longer go out in their garden me because there is no let up from the shouting and screaming. No special needs or problems just inconsiderate neighbours. In my case even inside my kitchen with the doors shut it is still very intrusive noise levels, there's no getting away from it.

Mind your own, its their garden.

YANBU.

When my kids are arguing or whining, or (when smaller) tantrumming in the garden I make them come inside. There's absolutely no reason the neighbours should have to suffer listening to that on an otherwise pleasant summer afternoon. It pisses me off, having to listen to it so I wouldn't see someone else thinking 'Why can't they take that godawful racket inside' as judging; just a perfectly sensible reaction.

My kids play noisily in the garden (one in particular is quite shrill), I used to constantly be telling to keep the noise down but it made no difference. I have since decided that they are children (aged 2 and 4) playing in their own garden and I'm not going to ruin their games by telling them off every five mins just so they don't annoy the neighbours. DS1 will be at school soon so the noise will reduce the people who live near the school will hear him shrieking in the playground instead. Can think of much worse noise than children.

YANBU.

I don't get why MNers think they are entitled to SILENCE in their garden.

Mine are past the tantrum phase, but I have a flight of steps down to my garden so no way I would have tried to manhandle a tantrumming child up those steps.

I do bring them in if they are misbehaving/tantrumming though and I don't let them play out all day, I take them out to parks, toddler groups etc too so it's probably at most an hour two that they're out in the garden per day. I also don't let them out before 9am.

Mine tend to get put in the garden when they tantrum, that way I don't have to hear it.

fgs, get over it!

I don't get why some MNers don't think people should be considerate of their neighbours ...

fgs, get over it! is a standard Gretchen response, right back atcha love

I don't mind the children tantrumming in the garden. It is the parents I object to. < narrows eyes at foghorn woman across the road! who we can hear in our back garden >

queenofthemountain I wouldn't have thought anyone would expect SILENCE at all, I don't think anyone on the thread has said that?

There are normal noise levels, children playing, music, chatter etc which is just part of life and normal.

And then there are people who play ridiculously loud music or children who scream and shout at the top of their voices for hours, crying whining etc. What's wrong with parents just pointing out to them that they should have some consideration for other people around them too? that's part of being in a society surely, having some consideration for others' needs/rights as well as your own

My neighbours Ds used to get sent inside to his room when he had a tantrum in the garden but he would just open the window and scream out of it. The sound carried even more!

Yeah, I will have no problem leaving my child to tantrum outside. The fresh air is probably good for her anyway. :)

I'm in no doubt that the poor parents would rather their kid shut up than bothered the neighbours. Our neighbour used to bellow out her window is my kids so much as squeeked in the garden. So we built an acoustic barrier of bamboo. She can't see into our garden now, and I can't see her being all judgey at the window. Sigh. Neighbours...!