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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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about kids having tantrums in the garden

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GretchenWiener · 13/07/2014 17:47

bloody take them inside.

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GretchenWiener · 13/07/2014 19:31

I wasn't even outside. I was hovering. Just by the door. But doors wide open

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spiritofthetime · 13/07/2014 19:35

I'm sure my neighbours felt the same this afternoon when my DS was having a meltdown. Perhaps you are one of my neighbours OP... However, he has asd, is almost as tall as me and was kicking seven bells out of me. Shifting him inside isn't that easy and as much as it embarrasses me that my neighbours have to listen to it, they have 10 mins of hassle, whereas we are trying to cope with it every day, all day. Unless you know the circumstances, don't be so quick to judge...

CaptChaos · 13/07/2014 19:35

The thing to do with a tantrumming child is to send them out into the garden, lock the doors and turn the TV up, surely?

Bollocks to the neighbours. They don't like it, they can move.

I may or may not be being entirely serious about this.

PenelopeChipShop · 13/07/2014 19:36

Very inconsiderate of you to Hoover with the door open...

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GretchenWiener · 13/07/2014 19:36

Hover!

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northandsouth4 · 13/07/2014 19:37

Just shut the door than.
And yes to safety of child tantruming is paramount. As other said a parent carrying a tantruming ridgid child inside could result in an injury to paren tor child.
I nearly dropped dd once in the middle of a tantrum.

northandsouth4 · 13/07/2014 19:37

Parent or

VioletHare · 13/07/2014 19:38

Susan?

Arscal · 13/07/2014 19:45

No I bloody won't take them inside.

If a tantrum were to happen in a restaurant or similar, I would do my best to remove the screaming child but in our own back garden? No. You can get knotted quite frankly.

(Secretly thinks OP may actually be our neighbour, moany old moo that she is)

HaroldLloyd · 13/07/2014 19:47

I haven't heard get knotted for ages! Made me

My neighbour is lovely she had 5 boys and tells me never to mind a bit if noise.

Arscal · 13/07/2014 19:51

Neighbour on one side is so sweet, she pretends that she never hears us which is very obviously untrue but she has 3 teenage lads so probably empathises.

The other side, well let's just say they are quite the opposite of sweet!

Methe · 13/07/2014 19:53

I feel a bit sorry for my neighbours.. My 9 year old is a loud and go by little madam, my 5 year old has THE most high pitched voice, my DH has a mouth like a megaphone and we've just put a trampoline next to the fence.

I'm sure we're intensely annoying neighbours but I do try and be neighbourly.

It's just tough, isn't it.

elfycat · 13/07/2014 19:58

My 5 yo threw a tantrum today just before a thunderstorm. She's going to be like DH and I are before storms but in the town centre. I let her scream for a while and then because it was about to chuck it down I lifted her fireman-style over my shoulder and hauled her home while she screamed and hit at me. Not very dignified and we walked past one of her teachers.

Do I care what anyone thought? No. I wanted DD1 safe and I couldn't have trusted her to walk across the roads sensibly. When I got home I left her in the front garden and went and found DH to try the 'good parent' routine while I opened wine.

DD1 is now mortified and doesn't want to go to school in case the teacher says something.

OP you do understand that you yourself were in most likelihood a right brat for a while?

nailslikeknives · 13/07/2014 19:59

A tantrum shared is a tantrum halved.

And the squeals are less piercing outside.

So yes, YABU!

Tho apologies if you're my neighbour, mine tantrum a lot at the mo!

piratecat · 13/07/2014 20:00

do you live here?
bracing myself for 6 weeks of the whingey screaming kids at the end of my terrace.

What pisses me off most is their mother doesn't do anything. grrr

potbellyroast · 13/07/2014 20:11

I love to hear my next door neighbours son having a tantrum! It makes me feel our family is nearly normal. Also love to hear him arguing with his best friend - it's hilarious

Ninetysixpercent · 13/07/2014 20:12

It's not the tantrums I mind, it's my neighbours 2 boys constant whining and arguing, all bloody day and evening. If I wanted to listen to that I'd have had 2 myself. The parents appear to be mostly pissed immune.

Arscal · 13/07/2014 20:16

If only we could all have wonderful children who never had a tantrum, whinged, had a grump or an argument with siblings/parents/friends eh!

Oh and if we could all have wonderful neighbours who never moaned, remembered what it's like to be a child or to have children and were utterly perfect in every way.

If only, if only...

GiveTwoSheets · 13/07/2014 20:23

Is it sad that I get a little warm feeling of happiness inside when I see/hear other tantrum throwing children? Whilst thinking to myself thank fuck its not my child doing it for a change.

NatashaGurdin · 13/07/2014 20:26

My next door neighbours' children are like this but TBH I prefer this to the extremely loud drum and base music played constantly (including the middle of the night) by their predecessors!

Besides sometimes the tantrums are amusing, like the one the toddler had last week at his dad because his mum had gone out and not taken him with her!

afterthought · 13/07/2014 20:30

Hearing children playing or having a tantrum is just one of the sounds of summer. I say that as someone without children.

Give me that over a yappy dog that yaps incessantly night and day (yes next door neighbour, I'm talking to you!).

missorinoco · 13/07/2014 20:31

I am quite sensitive to other people and my children, but I draw the line at bringing them in if they tantrum in the garden.
If the neighbours were having a party it would be different, but otherwise, tough.

I don't object when people have parties with music I can hear in my garden in the evening or at night, so you can live with my children.

Silverdaisy · 13/07/2014 20:36

It depends on how long the tantrum was for. If was a crash and burn scenario I would happily ignore it. However if it was an all day melt down then I would be irked by that. People are allowed to enjoy their back gardens too.

ScouseBird8364 · 13/07/2014 20:46

YABU - it's their garden, their property, not always simple with a toddler having a major tantrum, you sound like one of those judgemental people who don't have kids

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GretchenWiener · 13/07/2014 21:06

oh it went on on and off for a couple of hours

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