about kids having tantrums in the garden

[GretchenWiener]

bloody take them inside.

again
its not over the fence.
it is from far far away.

Yes, play some music to drown it out?

I def have sympathy for people with tantruming toddlers after putting up with my DS who spent most of the time from 2 to 3 1/2 screaming for hours at end about nothing. And nothing I did made any difference when he was in the mood to strop. Yes he did scream outside as well as inside and often with the windows open as well (shock, horror!)

I thank god that my neighbours on both sides were understanding (at least to my face!) and not only checked if I was ok but sometimes took him into their garden instead which helped break him out of it a bit.

yes,
am waiting for the rice to cook.
If you need to know

I find that the screams of my children nicely harmonise with the banging R&B from next door.

im sure you would NEVER allow your children to behave that way

absolutely shocking parenting, to allow a tantrumming child to exist

oh god
SYMPATHY

i would whisk said child inside and lock in the cellar

When ds tantrums,I attempt my best to contain it. I sent my neighbours a text a few weeks ago after a humdinger from ds,they couldn't have been more understanding or kind.
Attempting to stop a tantrum can be like trying to change the weather,you can really try but it is a fulfile exercise.

My DS just had a huge tantrum.

Unfortunately I don't have an Anderson shelter.

Some of my neighbours smoke weed in their gardens. I loath the smell and it gives me a headache. I think that's inconsiderate but I wouldn't ask them not to smoke it. It's their garden.

My DS (2.11) sometimes has a tantrum in the garden, if they don't like hearing it it's just tough shit. And if anyone said anything to me I'd suggest that maybe they shouldn't be living in a terrace house with the gardens so close together

Yes they should obviously move as everyone can afford to buy a house in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours

"Bothered you enough to come on MN and post about it" doesn't need to be very much at all if you're already on the website.

Oh god, are people seriously judging us in our own gardens now?

You didn't used to work at Morrison's did you op?

and the mother rationalising. Ineffectively

Perhaps you ought to seek her out and share your superior parenting skills with her. I'm sure she would appreciate it.

I would totally rather a tantrum than banging r&b.

if it were jason Derulo
I would go for him, he isnt exactly hardcore is he?

Jason ddddeeuuuuuurrrrrrlloooooooooooo.

Oh dear, my biggest threat to my tantruming DD is that I will put her in the garden if she carries on screaming and I have actually done so a couple of times. She stops quite quickly though. I can't send her to her room if her younger brother is sleeping as then I have two screaming as she wakes him and keeping her in the same room as me seems to prolong it as she has someone to scream at.

My neighbours (mainly at the grandparent stage) must hate us.

If anyone has any tips for de-tantruming a stroppy four year old, bring them on.

As I said, there's things that I don't like that my neighbours do in their gardens, I don't say anything because they are in their gardens, not mine. If I did say something I would fully expect them to say something along the lines of, well move if you don't like the proximity to....ect. This is why I don't say anything because I too cannot afford to move.

Yep, take them inside, then they can annoy the neighbours through the walls, instead.

If it was my own child I would probably take them in just because I'd be afraid of some busybody disapproving, but if it was me hearing someone else's child it wouldn't actually bother me much. I might feel a bit sorry for the child or the parent depending on how the argument was going but most children and parents have been there so I wouldn't be shocked.

This takes the biscuit in terms of what I've seen judged on MN! Yes YABU you judgy judgy judgerson.

You really think the parent's primary concern should be the fact that you might be annoyed, not dealing with their child (often you have to try to stop a child hurting themselves during a tantrum, not to mention that trying to move a rigid angry child can result in injury to the parent!)

How would they even know for sure that you were in your garden possibly being disturbed? If they did check I bet you would complain they were spying on you!