AIBU to want MIL to keep her kind thoughts to herself?

[BreconBeBuggered]

Call from MIL, 'out of kindness', as she looks at a set of family photos she took last weekend. 'Brecon', she says. 'I hope you don't mind me being honest here, but you haven't half put on some weight lately'.

I don't know who she thinks might appreciate that kind of observation, but the thing is, she only ever does this when I have actually lost weight. I get to the point where clothes are starting to feel looser and look that bit better, and every time, every fucking time, she'll hit me with the Fatso Brecon jibe. For context, I'm a size 14-16, while every other female in the photos, including MIL, is a 6-8, so I can't deny I look a bit hefty by comparison, but I don't actually want to be a size 8. Does anyone else have such a thoughtful MIL, and AIBU to think she should shut the fuck up?

Not weight, but I have pretty wonky teeth at the front top. Last time OH's mum suddenly blurted out 'Why didn't you have braces as a child? Could you have some now?'. I was too taken aback to answer very cleverly and just said it costs too much money. Then she was asking me how much and more questions. So I just said 'thousands' and changed the subject.

Thanks a bunch for making me feel embarrassed about something I can't help and I've learned to live with. She's only the 2nd* person in my life to have been rude enough to ask me about them. Cow.

*1st person was a good friend who asked me whether I'd had my teeth knocked out and re-implanted, but at least she asked me nicely and not in a 'cos you look shit' way.

MILS are just like that.

my mil told me i still looked pregnant when my ds was a day old

My MIL only did it once, a comment about the size of my stomach when DS was about 9 months old. My face was like this, only fiercer:

She didn't do it again.

I have had some beauties in my time, I am too thin, I am nothing special, I have no tits, I have no class err, let me think, oh yes I am crap at being a parent, it is my fault when her son doesn't act as a man should, it was okay for her son to cheat on me cos that is just him being a man [wtaf?]...tis okay though cos I have battled and won this situation now, my secret weapon? Indifference.
I make the bare minimum of effort
I am always polite but do not break my neck
I am always have been and always will be MUCH better looking, have a MUCH better figure and be a FAR GREATER parent than she is and I am a better WIFE to boot, so there you go, she don't really like those beans, I can tell you.

Just Ignore, Don't engage, be yourself, please yourself hun and be happy. If she rang out of kindness again, I would reply out of kindness that from the Christmas /wedding/ latest family event photo that she dressed too young, too boring, inappropriately [or looks really bloody old/grey/haggard] and out of love you are telling her so she can better herself :)

I'd say "I'm how your son likes me - he doesn't find size 8 Women attractive" if she persists I'd start talking about sex and how curves turn her son on... That should make her suitably uncomfortable! ;)

Mother of Dragons, that is Quality, I like your swagger ;)
that is bound to make them back off.... How bloody rude!

Ugh your MIL is a prize isn't she!

Seriously though, to the (thankfully few) posters who likened it to "appearance Tourettes"... what the fuck????

My DS1 suffers with Tourettes and I can assure you he doesn't make comments on people's appearances

Sorry for the derail but that fucking infuriates me!

My MIL - I get sooo many snide, faux innocent comments about my clothes, looks and my weight.

I'm ok looking, I'm quite at ease with my dress sense, I'm a bit porky but only need to lose a stone...but I get so many side swipes about pictures she doesn't like of me or clothes that 'don't do me justice' or kind of pointless-hanging-in-the-air comments that are not insults, not compliments like 'Oooh new hair I see'. She is very overweight.

Oh yeah the pointless comments. 'I've only just noticed that you've dyed your hair...'

Umm... ok?