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A woman is more dangerous....

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AltheaVestrit · 11/07/2014 10:15

That's what my son's new tattoo on his chest says. It supposed to finish ..."than a loaded gun".

Thoughts please?

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MasqueradeWaltzer · 11/07/2014 10:51

Oh dear, that would be a shower of cold water to a lot of potential future partners. Imagine being faced with that on the point of dtd. I'd be off.

(I like your name, though, OP - currently reading that series and enjoying it.)

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settingsitting · 11/07/2014 10:52

Tell him to wait.

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Bifauxnen · 11/07/2014 10:54

If I'd raised a misogynist, I'm not sure I'd be quick to tell people, even on an anonymous forum. Still, better a branded one than an incognito one I suppose.

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GatoradeMeBitch · 11/07/2014 10:55

Ask your DS to research domestic violence stats in this country. Two women killed every week by a partner or an ex. So in comparison to men women are about as dangerous as icecream cones.

The issue with that tat is that he may be at the point of intimacy with women when they see it, leading to plenty of rejection in his future, and only damaged self-hating women choosing to stick around and hear about how awful we all are.

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ChelsyHandy · 11/07/2014 10:56

Sad.

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Branleuse · 11/07/2014 10:57

women are more dangerous - when you treat them like crap

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nomoreminibreaks · 11/07/2014 10:57

If I met a guy with a tattoo that had his suggested ending I'd immediately think he was bitter and was unlikely to like/trust women ie not a good prospect for me. If he's already got the first part tattooed then I agree that leaving it mysterious is the best option.

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Elledouble · 11/07/2014 10:58

Anyone else singing "Female of the Species" by Space now? At least that's a Rudyard Kipling quotation.

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TheFirmament · 11/07/2014 11:00

Yes the really sad thing is this will ensure plenty of women reject him, which will make him more bitter, and possibly dangerous.

OP can he not be enlightened in any way? Does he understand women are his equals and have a right to not want to be with him?

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ToomuchIsBackOnBootcamp · 11/07/2014 11:02

I'm sure he's in pain from being recently dumped, but to then project those negative feelings onto ALL women, including all possible future partners? Not a sensible choice.
It would say to me that it was a very immature and sweeping cliche, showing that perhaps he isn't ready for a proper relationship anyway. Would def rethink being with someone who had this, unless he explained it as a stupid decision of his youth which he deeply regrets.
Is it one he will be able to cover/modify later?
I hope your son recovers from the breakup, rethinks his decision on the tatt and goes on to have a happier, fulfilled life past this angry stage.

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BigfootFiles · 11/07/2014 11:03

If at some point in the future, he has kids (or nephews/nieces)... how does he intend to explain to them what it means?

I get that he's hurting. I get that he wants to literally write how much his girlfriend has hurt him across his chest for all the world to see. But I really don't think she's going to see that and come running back to him. Might make her feel bad that she's 'made' him do something that stupid - which I guess is his intent? - but more likely to reinforce that her decision to dump him was the right one, whilst making his own life more difficult in the process. Well, it's one way to learn that everyone is responsible for their own actions...

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bleedingheart · 11/07/2014 11:08

It would say to me he sees women as 'other' and an homogeneous mass and I'd like to be an individual thanks.

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TillyTellTale · 11/07/2014 11:09

Elledouble

Not just you. And I've suddenly remembered how much I despised that singer as a teen, on account of those lyrics and his expressions and gestures on ToTP.

That tattoo is not going to go down well, is it?

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 11/07/2014 11:09

How about something like ".....when you are in love with her". Kind of makes him sound vulnerable rather than scary.

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TheSameBoat · 11/07/2014 11:12

Maybe whilst he's aleep you could do a small print tattoo underneath saying..

"despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary provided by international human rights and welfare organisations, local and national police reports and domestic violence charities"

but I'm guessing that's a bit long... !

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ValerieTheVodkaFairy · 11/07/2014 11:17

Oh dear, he's going to regret that, isn't he?

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Numanoid · 11/07/2014 11:18

Regardless of whether it's sexist or not, it just sounds tacky.

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BigfootFiles · 11/07/2014 11:22

It appears to be a lyric from this 'song' (though the correct ending is "pistol" not "gun" - if you Google the complete phrase it will try to correct you). Is he familiar with it?

She Makes Me A Killer

That's what he's aligning himself with.

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AltheaVestrit · 11/07/2014 11:26

I'm showing him this thread now.

I'll return with his reaction.

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Sparklypants · 11/07/2014 11:29

I like the idea of finishing it off for him when he's sleeping....with permanent marker. Grin

You just need to think of something good.....(got my thinking cap on)

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EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 11/07/2014 11:29

What a silly twat.

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MrsWolowitz · 11/07/2014 11:31

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pianodoodle · 11/07/2014 11:33

Is he Bernard Manning? Grin

Tell him that (hopefully) in another decade or two sexism will be even more unpopular than it is now.

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