AIBU to think that 35 is too old...

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...have another baby?

YABU I had my first 19 weeks ago at 36 and am considering another in the next couple of years.

Not even close to being too old.

I hadn't even met my OH at 35, never mind having babies.

I bloody hope not I'll be 35 when this one arrives (first) and will hopefully have a 2nd.

SO glad my twenties were child free, I have loved my life thus far.

Of course it isnt too old

We would like our final baby in a few years. I am worried like you that dh and I will be too old at 35. I worry about the genes as we have a child with Autism.

It is a difficult decision.35 would be our absolute cut off

I had a hysterectomy at 34, so yep.

However, loads of my friends, no.

I had my unexpected third DC at 35. Not too old at all :) DH was 40.

I'm trying for a 4th at 42. And yes it's a bit older, especially thinking when they're 20, I'll be 63ish. Eek. But I'd rather have it and be old, than not have it at all.

I don't think 35 is too old to do anything. Considering most people live till 80 nowadays it's not even half way!

I'm 35 in October and we'd like another child. My age hasn't even occurred to me (other things have but not age related!)

I'm 39 in October and 10 weeks pregnant with first child.

Nope, not too old!

Well I didn't think it was until I read some of the responses on this thread.

What a ridiculous question

Well Damn.

I'm 5 years off that. Better tell my uterus to pack up and go home then.....

If you feel too old in yourself at 35 to have another baby then YNBU. You know your own mind and body. If on the other hand you think other people are too old then yes. YABVU. You know nothing of their circumstances. Not every woman falls pregnant in her 20's.
I am almost 40 and actively ttc. I certainly don't feel too old. I have more, energy spirit enthusiasm and not to mention patience than I ever did in my 20's.

I wonder what the OP decided to do, seeing as this thread was started a year ago...?

I wonder what the OP decided to do, seeing as this thread was started a year ago...?

I wonder why the person reviving the thread didn't see any zombie warning. Ive seen them on others today, but its not here on this one.

I'm not in London. I do live in the South but lived in the North West when we started having kids.
I had mine in my late 30s and early 40s. I don't recognise Billy's idea of being so old in the playground because both here and in the NW every other mother is about the same age. The youngest mum in my NCT group of 8 was 34.

I'm amazed that anyone can manage it in their 20s tbh. DH and I met at university but no way could we have afforded a baby at 25. I finished uni at 22 then debt and both trying to establish a professional career and buy a house and build up savings. That's before we even get to enjoying stuff like travel and debauchery!

Becoming a mother has changed me completely and it is consuming. In glad I waiting until I'd done lots of other stuff and could afford to sah for a bit and had babies at the same time as all my friends.

For me yes it was. I had my last one at 29 an was determined that my baby days were over.

Personally I don't think your other child should get a say in this decision. It's between you and you dh. If one wants one and one doesn't, I am of the opinion that the one that doesn't gets the final say.

it's probably too old for me.

I had my first at 22 and last child at thirty and I'm fortunate enough to have been able to to concurrently build a professional career and stability for my children.

I don't think it's too old in the main.

it's a personal decision. I'm very glad that I had my children younger. hopefully I'll get longer to spend with them than if I'd have waited a decade, although I'm aware this is purely optimistically speculative.

YABU of course it's not too old! I had my first at 25, second at 28 and I've just had my third child at 35. I didn't feel old at all, most of the women at antenatal appointments or on the postnatal ward were around my ageor older.

I guess how you feel and sometimes how everything turns out in life. If you are feeling like that YANBU but to speak for others YA.
I had first at 23, second at 25 and third at 35.

Yabu and crazy ti think 35 is old.
I've just had my second at 34 and hope to have another two maybe or 1.
Most people dont start till late twenties early 30s