Put your big boy pants on, look at the bigger picture, do a bit more for yourself, realise and be THANKFUL for how much help you do get instead of stomping off like a spoiled child. Maybe I should stop looking after your daughter for the majority of the time she's here. Stop doing all of the cooking and cleaning. Stop buying all of the food in. Stop insuring/taxing/testing/fuelling the car that YOU are using and abusing because you don't hav the balls to stand up to the person who isn't pulling her weight. YOU DON'T HAVE MUG WRITTEN ACROSS YOUR FOREHEAD AND NEITHER DO I!!!!!!!! Who was paying to feed your daughter while she was here 4 nights a week (at least) whilst you were still giving her mother fucking maintainence!!?? Cos it sure as shit wasnt you, was it? No it was me!!!!!
We had a massive row last night after we had paid the service bill for MY car. He is doing 350+ per week in it to pick up his daughter and take her back as her mother refuses to share travelling.
DH said that he has to see his daughter and it shouldn't be an issue. £550+ service bill for my car is a fucking issue I me!!! The travelling to and for has taken its toll and we are copping for it. He agreed to pay half of the bill and asked me to get his money out of the cash machine (as he can't/won't use them.)
I drew the money out and got him a balance. I didn't check the balance as 1. I was in a pan shite with DH for defending his ex yet again and 2. I don't feel as though I should be looking at his balance. He thingy I ha overdrawn him and completely flipped out. Called me a useless bitch etc etc.
He told me that the travelling situation 'doesn't even come into it as I need to see my daughter.' All the while that poor little girl is being dragged back and forth several times a week like she is some possession tht he feels he has a right to!
Oh and DSD's mum can't do half of the travelling because 'he hasn't got a job' but doesn't he realise that by agreeing to do all of the travelling he is just allowing her to sit on her arse and not bother to find one! So much for the court order he threatened her with!!
One and DDs bags are packed. Actually can't wait to get away from all of this shite.
Sorry for the rant and thank you to ever mums better who has offered me advice and supported me :)
AIBU?
Was I unfair to send this text to my partner just now . . . I think many followers of my previous posts will agree it was a long time coming
Roundedbuttocks90 · 10/07/2014 10:28
Oh yeah and treat yourself to a nice takeaway tonight and some choc, cos boy do you deserve it 
No women should put up with these types of incapable idiotic men.
Im the queen of typos 
Glad you have your mum to go to. Dont do what I did for 14 years and fall for it when he turns on the charm and tries to act like the perfect partner. It wont last.
"...allowed to go anywhere."
Issue right there. He can't stop going anywhere and make sure you don't allow any future boyfriend to do the same.
Of course he thinks there must be someone else. Why else would you be kicking out such a LoveGod? 
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"is someone else on the scene"
Oh so thats the only possible reason you'd want to bail out, is it? & he has you down as the kind of woman who was out there prowling for a replacement. Doesnt think much of you, does he?
Its never easy ending a relationship and as you know you will go through mixed emotions, you will miss him etc...but hold onto the fact that life will be far, far less stressful without him, and an unfair situation which is causing you resentment and anxiety will be gone. In the end you will live and breathe far easier. He will try to get you back, and revert to type once he thinks you've settled in again.
He is going to find it extermely difficult if not impossible to find another woman who will enable him and put up with him as you did. He should have appreciated you, known he was lucky to have you. Unfortunately he didnt so good luck to him in trying to live an organised life including running up and down to get his daughter. He will have to do all that without you. Good.
What a life some men have the absolute and utter gall to offer to women, ...and then act like you should be happy/grateful because its a "relationship" 
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