Was I unfair to send this text to my partner just now . . . I think many followers of my previous posts will agree it was a long time coming

[Roundedbuttocks90]

Put your big boy pants on, look at the bigger picture, do a bit more for yourself, realise and be THANKFUL for how much help you do get instead of stomping off like a spoiled child. Maybe I should stop looking after your daughter for the majority of the time she's here. Stop doing all of the cooking and cleaning. Stop buying all of the food in. Stop insuring/taxing/testing/fuelling the car that YOU are using and abusing because you don't hav the balls to stand up to the person who isn't pulling her weight. YOU DON'T HAVE MUG WRITTEN ACROSS YOUR FOREHEAD AND NEITHER DO I!!!!!!!! Who was paying to feed your daughter while she was here 4 nights a week (at least) whilst you were still giving her mother fucking maintainence!!?? Cos it sure as shit wasnt you, was it? No it was me!!!!!

We had a massive row last night after we had paid the service bill for MY car. He is doing 350+ per week in it to pick up his daughter and take her back as her mother refuses to share travelling.

DH said that he has to see his daughter and it shouldn't be an issue. £550+ service bill for my car is a fucking issue I me!!! The travelling to and for has taken its toll and we are copping for it. He agreed to pay half of the bill and asked me to get his money out of the cash machine (as he can't/won't use them.)

I drew the money out and got him a balance. I didn't check the balance as 1. I was in a pan shite with DH for defending his ex yet again and 2. I don't feel as though I should be looking at his balance. He thingy I ha overdrawn him and completely flipped out. Called me a useless bitch etc etc.

He told me that the travelling situation 'doesn't even come into it as I need to see my daughter.' All the while that poor little girl is being dragged back and forth several times a week like she is some possession tht he feels he has a right to!
Oh and DSD's mum can't do half of the travelling because 'he hasn't got a job' but doesn't he realise that by agreeing to do all of the travelling he is just allowing her to sit on her arse and not bother to find one! So much for the court order he threatened her with!!

One and DDs bags are packed. Actually can't wait to get away from all of this shite.

Sorry for the rant and thank you to ever mums better who has offered me advice and supported me :)

[Roundedbuttocks90]

It wasnt going anywhere I was just getting more and more resentful, arsy and ratty with the kids, which in turn was pissing DH off

[redexpat]

He cant use a cash point, and yet called YOU a useless bitch? Words fail me. Im not surprised youve reached your limit.

[maras2]

I'm very pleased that you are leaving him.Can't really understand why you stayed so long with such a disrespectful idiot of a man.Good luck.You sound like a nice woman.

[starfishmummy]

Good luck OP.and Stay Strong

[HellonHeels]

He called you a "useless bitch"?

I think you are doing the right thing in leaving him.

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

He sounds fucking pathetic

[Roundedbuttocks90]

Tell me about it! Now he can do the travelling, food shopping, organise his own appointments etc. I will be taking the cooker, washing machine, television and fridge freezer that I bought as well.
You've got two exes to contend with now. It could've been so different

[HecatePropylaea]

I recall your other thread. I think that you are doing the best thing in walking away.

I doubt that he can't use a cash machine.

That's what he's been using you for.

You will be well rid.

[SugarMiceInTheRain]

YANBU to send that text, YABU if you continue to put up with his nonsense. Get shot of him.

[Roundedbuttocks90]

He's just rang me up saying he's calmed down now and wants to talk. I've told him I've done enough talking. I'm done here. I've got a beautiful baby out of it.

[Writerwannabe83]

Good for you OP - sometimes even realising you've hit that point of no return is a huge weight off your shoulders in itself!

[LisaMed]

I've been following your threads and I've been really worried about you.

At the very least you need to get a lot of space because you have sounded so low and defeated and you need to recover from that before anything else happens.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Of course he's calmed down now.
His meal ticket is going and what's he gonna do now?
He will grovel and beg and promise and grovel and beg and promise.
Do NOT fall for it!
Leave now! Before you get sucked back in again.
Because you know you will.
You will believe his empty promises and his lies.

[hellsbellsmelons]

It COULDN'T have been so different.
You stayed to put up with this treatment.
The only way it could have been different is if you'd left ages ago.
Thank goodness you have found the strenth.
Keep the strength, keep the anger, get out!

[Roundedbuttocks90]

I really do feel as though a massive weight has been lifted. I love my DH but the release I am feeling is immense.

My little girl is oblivious which is breaking my heart even more. He's a sexist pig and I'm better off without.

[Roundedbuttocks90]

It will also be nice not to have to be back for 4:30pm to do his tea because he can't cook!!

What a useless twunt. I'm well rid of chipolata dick

[hellsbellsmelons]

YES!! More anger!
Although I have absolutely no idea why you love him with what you describe about him and his behaviour!
I think you love the IDEA of what you hoped it would be.

[DenyDenyDeny]

Glad you are angry, anger will keep you strong enough to get out. It will keep you with strength to see this through.

Fuck him.

OP Ive been following your threads too.

Have you got anywhere to go? Where abouts are you?

[hellsbellsmelons]

He can't use a cashpoint and he can't cook.
WTF? Is he an adult? Can he read?
Then he can cook.
You had to have dinner ready for 4:30 - Honestly, this gets worse and worse.
You've been enabling him for so long.
Good riddance for sure.

[CornChips]

I have sort of followed your threads too. Well done!

[Wibblypiglikesbananas]

Stay strong OP, you are well rid. I actually feel sorry for your DSD as she must be so messed up being in the middle of all this. When does she have time to be a child if she is constantly in the car?

Leave and do not look back. You are well rid. And send him an invoice for all the services you've provided over the years - cocklodging arsehole that he is.

[Sisyphus85]

Well done Rounded. I haven't posted on your previous threads but I think you've been dealing with a difficult situation really well.

I hope this jump starts an improved relationship... but if not then I really think you will be happier. I hate parents fighting over a DC - like you say - as a possession. He needs to take a look at himself, and you need some time for yourself

[Roundedbuttocks90]

I did love the idea but don't we all??

Good luck to him in his quest to find another partner who will put up with his shit!

To be fair I'm surprised he didn't make me fill out an employment form and make me send him my CV! Cock!

[BillyBobbed]

I am seriously impressed at how strong you are. He will never, ever change. You got a beautiful baby and your dignity intact. You can start afresh and enjoy every day without worry or hassle from him.
You are the shizzle OP get out and don't look back

[HecatePropylaea]

He wants to talk now you've told him to sling his hook? He's calmed down now? How very nice of him.

He's realised that he is up shit creek without you and that he can actually push you too far, he was wrong to think you'd just take it forever.

That's his problem. I remember just how accommodating, how loyal, how generous you have been and how he has never appreciated that.