to ask if this is an offensive thank you present for teacher?

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DD has suggested that we make a 'girly box' for her thank you present to her teacher. Her teacher has a DD who is a little younger than DD and because of her commute she doesn't get to see her at all during the week so DD thought she could make a box of things for teacher to do with her DD in the holidays - like nail varnish, a cheap DVD, cake kit, board game, craft kit etc.

I thought this was a sweet idea but DP said it's offensive and that I'm basically saying 'i know you're crap and don't see your child all week, so make sure you make an effort in the holidays!'

Do you think it's a bad idea?

I used to have a pastoral role in a school. Some of the best gifts I received included...

When a boy broke his arm he chose the purple cast because he remembered I liked purple.

A washbag, because I was living far from "home" and would be travelling a lot.

PISTED posted too soon

So gifts with thought behind them are best even if the thought is misplaced or the gift crap.though

I'm a teacher (part time subject teacher so don't get anything now). I would love to get something like that for my DD and I- particularly nail varnish as DD loves painting my nails! I always think a personal gift where a bit of thought has gone into it is far nicer than vouchers or something impersonal.
Your DD knows her teacher much better than your DH so I would trust her idea and think it is lovely.

I have kept every personal gift over the last 20 years from my primary school teacher days.

I think that it's a lovely idea tbh.

But maybe not a whole box of stuff?

One thing to do with daughter (fairy related?) plus a small present?

I'm a teacher and have a young DD. I would love this. Your DD sounds adorable!

Not everybody drinks or eats chocolate and hand cream is hard because it's hard to judge what smell someone likes

No, but all those things are easy to 'use up' if you don't want them yourself - taking to a party / to dinner / as a gift for someone else / as a raffle prize. A box of fairy stuff OTOH......

I think it is a really lovely idea of your daughter's and I can't imagine the teacher being annoyed with it.

I think it's a lovely thoughtful idea by your daughter. I would include a note to explain what the thinking is behind it, so the teacher knows it is really a heartfelt present.

Might seem a bit strange if it was from an adult but it is from a child. Quiet word with the teacher as to the thinking behind it.