AIBU to not understand when people cry when trying their wedding dresses on?

[PiperRose]

Just that really, watching 'Say yes to the dress' and there's a whole family in tears because she found the dress. Is this usual?

i'd find it hard to eke out a tear for that tbh

Didn't happen to me. I just bought a dress I liked.

That's what I was thinking!

My mum cried, I think it's wasn't the dress but the fact that her child is no longer a child but a fully grown women

I would only cry if I was scared I was doing the wrong thing. I can't get emotional about 'things' though.

I just ordered mine online when it came I tried it on and nope not a tear!

No idea. It came to the door, I tried it on, it was fine, I hung it in the wardrobe.

But then I don't get the whole keeping it a secret and hiding it from your DH thing either.

It's all part of the completely contrived Western approach towards romance/proposals/weddings.

People buy into the 'magic' of these moments because they want to be part of the whole hoopla and imagine it's the moment their life was building towards and other such vomit.

I don't.

People cry at the most bizaare things on reality television.

Because they are entirely vapid.

I had an inward tear when DS started secondary and I walked him to the bus stop looking all grown up in his new uniform. He looked really apprehensive and I think my inner tears were for the fact that my baby isn't a baby anymore.

I imagine that's the sort of reason people get emotional, and it's not actually the dress itself.

I didn't cry.

But this was the mid eighties and I looked like an explosion in a meringue factory.

So maybe I should have.

'People buy into the 'magic' of these moments because they want to be part of the whole hoopla and imagine it's the moment their life was building towards and other such vomit. '

Very true

It's a nice dress, fits you well, you're happy with it, hurray. That's it. I would die of shame if I tried on a dress and to stand in front of a circle of friends and family all snuffling away - it would feel like a pantomime.

I don't get it either! Also don't get crying at weddings (even my own!) My DH thinks I'm a robot because at the 10 or so friends weddings we've been to in last few years all the girls are blubbing and I just don't get it? I might cry if it were my younger brothers or sisters I suppose....

I cried actually. It was only because we had gone to so many shops and tried on so many dresses that I didn't like, that when it came to 'the dress' I think I was just so bloody relieved that I found one I liked that I cried!
It wasn't really a 'look at me, I'm getting married moment!'

I didn't cry, I just knew it was the right dress.

My Mum cried at my wedding which was nice as she's not a crier. I do get a bit emotional at weddings, I love seeing my friends get married (we've been to a lot of weddings).

My mum cried when I tried a wedding dress on. I cried because she cried (I cry at anything since having DC's).

My mothers tears were for her eldest getting married and hopefully having a loving and lasting relationship. Also because she was just happy and sad that her 'baby' was a grown woman. As a mother I get that.

It was never just about a dress for her. I'm just a soppy sod.

My DM cried when I tried on a horrible dress that she loved. I think it was because she had given up all hope of my getting married and having children.

I cried when one of my younger sisters tried on her dress (the 'one' - she'd tried on a few at this point). She looked so beautiful I just burst into tears.

Didn't cry at my other sister's dress, and most definitely didn't cry with mine. Although I had a swing party dress instead of a wedding dress.

Some people cry when they are happy, maybe they are just really happy at getting to wear a beautiful dress and at the thought of marrying someone they really love. I often shed a tear at weddings.

There seem to be quite a lot of these threads, I'm thinking about starting a thread in site stuff asking for a topic called 'Support for those who have had to witness someone reacting differently to have they would have done in the same situation'

Although that may be a bit of a mouthful so I may have to ask for it to be shortened to 'Sign up here for a good bitching session'

Oh dear, I had to bite my lip in ghost a few weeks ago when I took DD shopping for her prom dress. It was her looking so grown up that (nearly) set me off.
In my defence I didn't cry at my wedding dress.

I tried one on once and the shop insisted on making me stand on a box (with a hideous tiara and veil on) and playing "Here comes the bring" before dramatically opening the curtains for my two best friends (and bridesmaids) to see me in my full bridal glory. They pissed themselves laughing and my cringing was so painful it almost brought me to tears. Not quite though

It's all that 'princess' shit.

Bread and circuses.

I went wedding dress shopping with one of my best friends recently, and had a little sniff and a tear when she came out of the changing room in "The Dress".

She looked so beautiful and is so happy to be marrying a lovely man after escaping a miserable marriage - I was emotional, she was emotional.