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AIBU to not understand when people cry when trying their wedding dresses on?

77 replies

PiperRose · 08/07/2014 13:54

Just that really, watching 'Say yes to the dress' and there's a whole family in tears because she found the dress. Is this usual?

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WorraLiberty · 08/07/2014 14:31

I'd cry if it arrived and I couldn't do the zip up! Grin

Joysmum · 08/07/2014 14:32

I cried with relief, never thought i'd like a dress as I only do trousers! The first dress I tried on nearly had me wetting myself with laughter as it was so wrong for me despite being my perfect 'on paper' dress.

My mum and MIL cried too because they could see how happy I was.

I cry a lot when I'm happy Grin

MaidOfStars · 08/07/2014 14:37

I nearly cried when I saw the price of mine...

Um, I'm a bit of a sentimental crier but I don't remember anything other than being really happy when I first tried on "my dress". When going back to retry/confirm purchase, I might have a little speck in my eye but that was because my mother had started....

settingsitting · 08/07/2014 14:39

I was hoping to but didnt!

specialsubject · 08/07/2014 14:52

don't get it either, but I'm only wired to cry when I'm unhappy or someone else is crying. When something nice happens I smile.

crying over a frilly frock? wow.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 08/07/2014 14:53

My mother in law cried.

MaxPepsi · 08/07/2014 15:21

I welled up when I had my final fitting.

However they were tears of anger as my dress was a right fucking cock up and it was to late to do anything about getting a new one!

I'm still amazed I held it together and didn't twat the stupid bloody seamstress.

My shit dress didn't ruin my day as such but I wasn't comfortable the entire day and I still haven't looked at my wedding photos!

vladthedisorganised · 08/07/2014 15:36

Worra beat me to it - I was thinking I'd cry if I got something caught in the zip!

I didn't - IIRC I said "that'll do nicely" or something else equally emotionally charged. It did.

I did cry with laughter at a dress in the wedding dress shop - the sample was at least three sizes too big for me, a foot or so too long (even without the train) and got caught in the door before the assistant could pin it up. Not a glamorous moment by any stretch of the imagination.

MsJupiter · 08/07/2014 15:48

I cried - just a tear but I don't think it was unwarranted. It's weird to see yourself as "a bride" for the first time and it is a combination of that sense of growing up and things changing, with a natural apprehension about this. I didn't have a princess complex and I wasn't being forced into anything. We've been happily married 12 years now btw.

StrawberryMouse · 08/07/2014 15:50

My mil cried when she saw me in my dress. Make of that what you will. Grin

I'm only joking, she loves me really.

sooperdooper · 08/07/2014 15:51

I'm so glad other people feel like this!! I was made to feel like some kind of unemotional weirdo because I didn't cry at dresses and didn't want to be a fucking princess for a day (seriously, I was a grown woman getting married, not an 8 year old playing with Barbies)

I got so irritated with assistants in bridal shops talking about how The Dress was the most important thing and once I'd got that the rest of the day would fall into place, blah blah bloody blah, sorry for thinking that getting married to DH was the most important, not an item of clothing, lol

spence24 · 08/07/2014 15:52

Blugh, nope, don't get it. But I have no interest in getting married either. I just feel like if I were to put on a wedding dress I'd look ridiculously overdressed because it's the furthest from anything anyone would ever expect me to wear.

If I ever do end up getting married I'd happily do it in my jeans and trainers...although my mum would probably have a fit.

member · 08/07/2014 15:55

I'd have looked a bit of a prick if I had since I went Billy no mates shopping for it on my own (mum lived hundreds of miles away/had no bridesmaids)

beccajoh · 08/07/2014 15:56

I didn't cry at mine, but did when my friend found her dress. Absolutely no idea why and I was embarrassed of myself!

sooperdooper · 08/07/2014 15:57

Oh and I don't get shops ordering dresses that then need of alterations doing, just order a bloody dress in a size that fits, I'm convinced it's a scam, any other item of clothing, especially one I'm paying a lot for, I epxect to just get one that fits me Confused

sooperdooper · 08/07/2014 16:00

member I went to a couple of shops by myself and one I remember being really funny with me about it and she kept asking me if I'd come back with a friend/my mum etc, why do they think that you can't be capable of buying a dress on your own? Noone would bat an eyelid at a man buying a suit on his own!

Lottapianos · 08/07/2014 16:01

'I'd have looked a bit of a prick if I had since I went Billy no mates shopping for it on my own '

That's nothing to be ashamed of at all member. If I were shopping for a wedding dress, I would take one friend with me, and that's only because I would totally trust her judgement and I know that she would tell me if something looked like cack. I don't understand these 'girly' expeditions with your mum and 5 friends, traipsing round bridal shops for weekend after weekend like some never-ending military operation. Not my scene.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 08/07/2014 16:04

I went shopping on my own as well as with friends. Going on your own is great, no-one else to influence you with opinions. Which is partly why brides have dress wobbles afterwards.

member · 08/07/2014 16:09

YY to the assistants being incredulous that I didn't have other females with me to help me choose! I was 31 years old fgs & hadn't required committee approval for any other purchase!

JennyCalendar · 08/07/2014 16:19

I'll go against the grain and say that I welled up when I found The Dress. Up until that point I thought that they were pretty, but none felt like 'me'.

I also shed a tear when accompanying two different friends on their dress hunt, just because they looked so incredibly beautiful and so happy.

Neither me, nor my friends, are in any way clothes / fashion orientated (you'd be hard pushed to find any of us not in grungy jeans or with make up on), so that may make a little difference?

Having said that, I didn't cry during my actual wedding, but blubbed repeatedly during my friends' weddings.

Nanny0gg · 08/07/2014 16:25

I cried when my DD tried her dress on the first time. I don't really know why, but I did.

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thebigfoo · 08/07/2014 16:34

I don't get it either.

I remember stepping out of the changing room in the wedding shop. The staff all bowed at my feet and gracefully lead me to the podium so I could "take my stand like a true princess" Hmm

diddl · 08/07/2014 16:52

It might be quite emotional in a posh shop with an audience I guess.

I went to see my parent's neighbours get married.

Loved the dress.

Next time I saw her I asked if she was thinking of selling.

Thank goodness she was & I didn't have to actually shop for my wedding dress!

Didn't cry when I gave birth either!

fatlazymummy · 08/07/2014 17:53

I'm another one who went shopping on my own. Went into shop, saw one on display, tried it on and bought it. It fit as well, so I took it home with me (it wasn't a big meringue thing). I didn't feel emotional about it at all. I was just pleased I'd found a nice dress.
I vaguely remember being present when my sister chose her wedding dress, but again, no one got emotional about it. This was 30 years ago though, when the wedding industry wasn't such a big thing. I remember both of my sister in laws brought patterns and had their dresses made by dressmakers.

Deftones · 08/07/2014 18:12

I find it odd when folk cry about such things...I bought my wedding dress a month back, haven't even tried it on yet, it's at my mums house. I'll get round to it I'm sure