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Work harassing me while on maternity leave

346 replies

Lilannii · 07/07/2014 10:42

I found out I was pregnant April last year and after asking the home I work in to put me down for shorter shifts was declined I took my maternity leave ASAP. Since then they have made a list of bank staff and text them with available shifts for the week, but it's every single day. My little one is 5 months old now and these bloody texts keep waking him up! I shouldn't have to silence my phone all day every day. I never opted to be on this list, I even told them late December I had quit. I get about 8 texts a day, I have called them twice last week, the first time the person in charge was supposed to call me back and never did and the second time the receptionist was supposed to pass a message on, I have called them this morning and am waiting again for the person in charge of the list to phone me back. Does this constitute harrassment?? What can I do about this? It's driving me nuts. Especially when little man has been ill and only just drifted off to sleep them to be woken by work texting

OP posts:
magpiegin · 07/07/2014 21:38

But what about your son? He will still be woken up every time they text. Why would you want this when you can stop it now? It makes no sense at all.

What is more important to you? Proving the point with your employers and this 'case' or your son getting some sleep. If it is your son then BLOCK the number.

magpiegin · 07/07/2014 21:38

But what about your son? He will still be woken up every time they text. Why would you want this when you can stop it now? It makes no sense at all.

What is more important to you? Proving the with your employers and this 'case' or your son getting some sleep. If it is your son then BLOCK the number.

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 21:40

Op appears to have gone.......Christ you don't think she's fallen asleep and her phones broken so is no longer prodding her awake? Shock

Icelollycraving · 07/07/2014 21:40

dottydoo love that ^ for me. Sorry,I was sorting out little man :o

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 21:42

Aww shucks Blush

Anytime ice

Does you DH/DP know you call him little man Wink

Mrshoff · 07/07/2014 21:43

Can't you just write them a letter, something like

Dear hr manager

As you are aware I resigned on xxx date

Since then, you do not appear to have removed my details from the current staff list.

I am still receiving payslips, and since 16 June I am receiving an average of 5 to 10 texts per day asking me to work. I have also not reviewed a p45.

I have attempted to contact you on xxx date and xxx date by phone with no success, so have left messages requesting you remove my details from your active staff list.

Despite my requests this has still not been done and is now affecting my personal life. I should not have to block the number but this is now bordering on harrassment. I am requesting that this is now acted on with immediate effect.

I look forwards to hearing from you that this has been done

Yours sincerely

Lila

FullOfChoc · 07/07/2014 21:43

You can defo block numbers on an iphone 4

HappyYoni · 07/07/2014 21:43

Dude, give up the idea of case building, block the number, move on and be happy with your son.

Mrshoff · 07/07/2014 21:43

*received not reviewed p45

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 21:46

I am still here, I was away sorting out little man funnily enough. What is the problem with calling him that exactly? nobody has answered that question?! And that's right fip it round to my generation and blame it on us. Well funnily enough it was probably you guys that raised us this way so is it our fault ? really? Yes I do have a husband, was married before I got pregnant. Studied hard before I met him and got to a higher level in the care home. So judge all you like. My phone helps me stay awake because I browse the net and play games on it, I sit in a dark room and stay quiet while he drops off in the evening so tv is out of the question and reading also. Is it so wrong that I use MY phone for MYSELF

OP posts:
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 07/07/2014 21:46

And what is that step,supposed to achieve?

FREEDOOOOOMMMMMMM

Sorry nostalgic Braveheart moment.

Grin
bearwithspecs · 07/07/2014 21:46

Omg I can't stand 'little man' either. Hideous. But then so is hubby. I feel sorry for OP getting into such a tizz over nothing. Really nothing.

Original poster
Lilannii · 07/07/2014 21:47

Mrshoff, fantastic template. I shall use that, if that's ok :). Thank you

OP posts:
DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 21:49

Aww OP your still here Smile

I have actually grown to like you having originaly wanted to pound your face with your phone thought you were annoying now your like a part of the furniture.

Icelollycraving · 07/07/2014 21:49

God dh would be delighted I'm sure it'd make a change from the usual 'terms of endearment' dotty

echt · 07/07/2014 21:49

Hang on, if the OP is still getting pay slips, then she's still being paid. When she has resigned.

Sorry if I've missed something by not having RT whole of this barmy FT.

Nicknacky · 07/07/2014 21:50

What's your marital status and education got to do with it?

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 21:51

Grin @ Ice

Original poster
Lilannii · 07/07/2014 21:53

well everybody else seems to be bringing my personal life into question so I thought I would elaborate to clear it all up. I am getting pay slips but they have nothing written on them, I do not earn any money.

OP posts:
Icimoi · 07/07/2014 21:57

OP, if you are thinking of suing, you have to bear in mind that it's a fundamental principle of English law that you have to mitigate loss. For instance, if you broke your arm because of someone's negligence, you have to go and get treatment: if you fail to do so and you get gangrene and it has to be amputated, you won't get damages for the loss of your arm because you haven't mitigated loss.

Therefore, if you were claiming damages for harassment by text message, then even if you won the reality is that you would get nothing by way of damages, because it's so easy to avoid the harassment by using all the methods mentioned upthread. You might get damages for a nominal pound or two, but it's inevitable that you would be ordered to pay the other side's costs for taking such a pointless case to court, so you would be way out of pocket.

Flipflops7 · 07/07/2014 21:59

I would remove mention of harassment from the letter. The fact that your name has mistakenly been left on the circulation is not deliberate.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 07/07/2014 21:59

Firstly, Lilannii, I am not sure getting automated group texts would rise to the legal standard of harassment.

Secondly - if they do carry on texting you, what do,you plan to do about it? If you think it is harassment, what are you thinking will be your next step? And what is that step supposed to achieve?

Icimoi · 07/07/2014 22:00

OP, you could watch TV whilst sitting with your baby by using earphones, or just having the sound turned down low. You could read in a darkened room by using something like a Kindle or iPad, or indeed just by getting one of those little battery lights that you can clip on to a book.

Flipflops7 · 07/07/2014 22:00

There is no harassment, no intent, NO CASE.

MinesAPintOfTea · 07/07/2014 22:00

Don't blame the OP's generation. Most of us aren't after so much drama.

And I'm going to repeat MrsHoff's letter because it solves the thread:

Dear hr manager

As you are aware I resigned on xxx date

Since then, you do not appear to have removed my details from the current staff list.

I am still receiving payslips, and since 16 June I am receiving an average of 5 to 10 texts per day asking me to work. I have also not reviewed a p45.

I have attempted to contact you on xxx date and xxx date by phone with no success, so have left messages requesting you remove my details from your active staff list.

Despite my requests this has still not been done and is now affecting my personal life. I should not have to block the number but this is now bordering on harrassment. I am requesting that this is now acted on with immediate effect.

I look forwards to hearing from you that this has been done

Yours sincerely

Lila