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Work harassing me while on maternity leave

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 10:42

I found out I was pregnant April last year and after asking the home I work in to put me down for shorter shifts was declined I took my maternity leave ASAP. Since then they have made a list of bank staff and text them with available shifts for the week, but it's every single day. My little one is 5 months old now and these bloody texts keep waking him up! I shouldn't have to silence my phone all day every day. I never opted to be on this list, I even told them late December I had quit. I get about 8 texts a day, I have called them twice last week, the first time the person in charge was supposed to call me back and never did and the second time the receptionist was supposed to pass a message on, I have called them this morning and am waiting again for the person in charge of the list to phone me back. Does this constitute harrassment?? What can I do about this? It's driving me nuts. Especially when little man has been ill and only just drifted off to sleep them to be woken by work texting

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ohdearitshappeningtome · 07/07/2014 19:32

How come he can sleep through the tv being on. White goods ie washing machine on for a fair bit of time but he can't sleep through a 2 second phone beep!

Unexpected · 07/07/2014 19:34

I just keep thinking about texts waking the baby - why is the phone so close to the baby that it wakes him up? If you have to be in the same room as your baby, why does the phone have to be glued to you? Can't you just leave the phone in the kitchen or another room while getting the baby to sleep then collect it afterwards? It's not as if you are going to be able to text someone back while you are getting him to sleep anyway, is it?

Also, if you are still receiving payslips it is fairly obvious that the company do not realise you are not returning. You keep talking about having "told" someone but have you actually done this properly and informed them in writing that you are not returning from maternity leave?

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 19:42

This has nothing to do with my mum, she has enough on her plate as it is. I wouldn't want to bother her with my problems too

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 19:44

I do not know!! He is a baby ffs

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 19:44

As I have stated before so many times I use my phone to stay awake, or I would be falling asleep and dropping him

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Boudica1990 · 07/07/2014 19:47

Oh do fucking stop making excuses, your mother can hand in a letter from you if you don't want to post it, you don't hold your phone in one hand and your baby in the other all the time surely.

You have been given plenty of sensible answers so either take them on board or stop fucking moaning on about it and making excuses. You have no case for harrasment at all, your just being awkward about it all.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 07/07/2014 19:50

Lilannii - what sort of 'case' are you planning to build against your former employers, and why is it so all-fired important that it is worth more days of disturbed baby and frustration? What are you hoping to achieve or gain?

Whatever it is, is it really worth standing on the 'principle' instead of just blocking the number?

Oh, and for what it's worth, I fed three babies perfectly safely, without dropping them - all without the assistance of a mobile phone or any other electronic device - they didn't exist - (yes, I am that old). I read a book or watched TV. Your phone is not essential.

Flipflops7 · 07/07/2014 19:51

Dear god. There is no case, OP.

Ask your mum to ask the HR lady to get you off the circulation lists. They are not harrassing you intentionally.

Then forget it and get on with your life. No need for arbitrators or lawyers.

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 19:55

How does the phone keep you awake?

Does it gently prod you every time you nod off?

hobblebobble · 07/07/2014 19:56

Where there is blame there is a claim? Mental torture, sex discrimination and harassment. Nice one if not so laughable

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 19:58

Covets not coverts. I am not a secret agent. Honest.

Unexpected · 07/07/2014 19:59

This is just ridiculous now. How is your phone helping to keep you awake? Are you setting alarms on it? If so, how come they do not wake the baby who is obviously in your arms when the alarm goes off, as you said otherwise you would fall asleep and drop him! If you are really relying on your mobile to stop you from dropping your baby, you have more serious problems than receiving unwanted texts from your ex-employer.

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 20:00

fawltydoge · 07/07/2014 20:03

am I the only one thinking the text sound isn't ACTUALLY waking the baby but this is a good excuse except it's not to create a load of childish drama about unwanted texts?

Boudica1990 · 07/07/2014 20:05

Dotty I have no idea how a phone keeps someone awake either, maybe she sellotapes it to her forehead on permanent vibrate or something.

fawltydoge · 07/07/2014 20:05

just saw OP's latest update about sleeping standing up with the baby glued to her arms at all times of day and night and her v clever phone which senses when she's fallen asleep and gently hisses 'wake up you'll drop the baby!'.

tempted to exit this thread now but it's too amusing

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 20:14

I left but came back.

I blame Slithy for indulging her.

OI Slithy come back here you have created a monster!

MyFairyKing · 07/07/2014 20:23

On maternity leave but resigned? Clear as mud.

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 20:24

You lot are fucking horrible, don't post anything and keep your little brown noses out if all you are going to do is give me shit!! I wasn't asking opinions on how to stay awake or how to put little man down for a sleep, your all bullies. Listen to me very carefully. I WANTED TO KNOW WHAT MY NEXT STEP SHOULD BE, I now know this. So fuck all of your shitty little opinions about someone you have never met. And I know I will be reported for this but I couldn't care less. This is supposed to be a help forum, thank you to the people that have suggested something useful :)

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Boudica1990 · 07/07/2014 20:27

calm down dear, it's just the internet...

Yes thank the one person that indulged your strange harrasment fantasy

DottyDooRidesAgain · 07/07/2014 20:31

I am not fucking horrible. I am fucking DH. So there.

mercifulgibbon · 07/07/2014 20:32

This thread must win the prize for the most times a baby boy is referred to as little man. My eyes burn.

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Lilannii · 07/07/2014 20:34

Is there something wrong with calling him little man?

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JumpRope · 07/07/2014 20:36

I am not sure if this constitutes harassment and you will need to check with lawyers.

It's tricky because it would piss me right off too, and when you have a small baby, things can seem very distressing. But op, everyone seems unclear as to whether you have officially resigned, and whether you have asked for the texts to stop, which would seem the easiest route.

A court case etc isn't a great idea with such a tenuous compliant, in my opinion, on a personal level with a young family that would be more distressing. But I do t know the legal certainty.

YouWithTheFace · 07/07/2014 20:41

To be fair to the other posters, this section is not a help forum, but a cross between a kick up th arse forum and a bear pit. If you want help, try posting in Employment.

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